I’ve been convicted about empty statements. These are things I say to make a conversation a little more comfortable in the moment. But do I really mean what I’m saying?
Or empty statements can be little promises I allude to that give a needed lift to someone. But without a plan to actually keep that promise, do I really intend to keep it?
It’s not that these statements are wrong or bad or ill-intentioned. But they are empty at best and potentially hurtful at worst. People in my life deserve better than that.
I want to be a woman who exemplifies God’s Word by keeping my word.
The Bible is clear that our words matter. Our words carry weight. Proverbs 25:11 says, “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Our words can be gifts.
But if we say things that have no follow-through, it can be hurtful. It’s like holding out a gift but refusing to give it.
Here are three of those empty statements I want to stop saying if I don’t have a plan for follow-through:
1. I’m praying for you.
Obviously, I do want to pray for people. And sometimes when I say this, I really have great follow-through. But sometimes I forget.
A great intention doesn’t make for a great prayer.
So, I need to pray for that person right then and there or I need to keep a journal in my purse to write down prayer requests.
2. Let’s get together sometime.
Either I need to pull out my calendar and schedule time with someone or be honest about my current time constraints. The people-pleaser in me struggles with this.
But I know when people say this to me without any follow-through, it hurts. While I can’t change it being done to me, I can make a heart policy that I won’t do this to others.
3. I’m good, how are you?
Understandably, sometimes this is the right, polite statement to say when I’m just quickly greeting someone. But I will also say this to others with whom I really should be more open and honest.
I can be reluctant sometimes to even let close friends in to the needs I have bubbling below my “I’m good” statements.
If I will be more brave with opening up, it will give my friends permission to do the same.
So, there they are. My empty statements and my convictions to do a better job of saying what I mean and meaning what I say.
What about you? Do any of these resonate with you? Is there one you want to commit to working on this weekend? Let’s chat about this in the comments below.