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About

My Everyday

I live at the end of a long driveway in a white, brick house that holds our family’s most important memories. At home, I can be found in my comfy chair with my Bible and journal, writing from my gray table, or gathering with family, playing games and laughing over shared meals.

People assume I’m an extrovert. And I do love people. But I recharge in solitude. Quiet moments of reflection. Praying. Dreaming. Grieving. Asking. Processing. Thinking. Breathing it all in. And then exhaling just as deeply.

Home is where I’ve been broken open and put back together.

The last several years have been the hardest of my life. I know the depths of marital heartbreak, and what it feels like to wrestle through healing. I also know what it feels like to be diagnosed with cancer and to wonder why God would allow so much heartbreak. My pillow has seen its fair share of tears. But I’ve also seen God move in astounding ways… not always the ways I thought He would, but I guess that’s why we are called to follow Him with faith. And at the end of each day, that’s what you’ll find me doing — going to bed while saying thankful prayers for ways I once again experienced God’s faithfulness that day, big and small.

I wish with every fiber of my heart that I could erase parts of my story. But staying stuck in trying to wish something away will cause me to miss the beauty of what is… and even better… trusting God for what can be.

My Family

My five kids are grown and now have families of their own. My children all live close to me outside Charlotte, North Carolina. We spend lots of time together at home or at the beach enjoying some solace away from the pace of everyday life when we can.

Mothering never stops, no matter how grown your kids get. You’ll always want to protect them and sometimes still redirect them. Cheer them on and challenge their perspectives. Teach them and learn from them. Reach for the stars and kneel down to pray. Doing all of this together with them makes my life both challenging and sweet each and every day.

My grandchildren are three of the greatest gifts I’ve ever been given. I love being their Gigi so much.

Together is our most favorite word as a family. We are messy, crazy, sometimes dysfunctional, but always for each other. Fun is the name of the game. Loud is the way we roll. Real is what you’ll get. Love is what we give. And we’re so thankful to just be together.

A Letter from Lysa


Hi friend,

I’m so glad you’re visiting my little space here on the internet. I very much wish we were sitting down at my kitchen table drinking coffee together right now. I’d be drinking decaf coffee with vanilla oat milk (yes, I gave up caffeine and yes, I’m still sad about it). I’d probably offer you a zillion choices of creamers because hospitality makes me happy. And I’d most certainly overshare because processing all things about life with you would be a dream.

But there are a few other things I want to tell you before reading my bio. My family has been through a lot. That’s why I have a deep love of God’s Word that healed my mind, Jesus who rescued my soul, and Christian counseling that helped the shattered parts of my heart be reshaped in a more whole and healthy way.

I’m very honest about what I’ve been through and have a great passion to help other women and families heal from the trauma of infidelity and other tragedies they didn’t see coming.

Here’s one thing you can always know when visiting my place in real life or on the internet: you are safe here. Your questions are welcome. Your uncertainties and doubts will never be judged. Your heart will be tenderly held. And the Bible messages I bring you will also be presented with both deeply researched truth and deeply felt grace.

Now for the professional stuff that I’ve worked really hard on but also very much recognize is a pure gift of God’s unexplainable grace.

Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. She writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.

As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa and her team have led millions to make their walk with God an invigorating journey through Encouragement For Today daily devotions, the First 5 Bible study app, online Bible studies, The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast, social media channels, speaker/writer training, and more.

Each year, Lysa speaks at more than 40 events across North America. She has a passion for equipping women to share their stories for God’s glory through Proverbs 31 Ministries’ annual She Speaks Conference and through the ministry’s membership site for writers,  COMPEL Training.

That’s the bio you’d read if you flipped open the back cover of one of my books or heard me being introduced from the stage. But the everyday me doesn’t live inside a book or under the lights of a stage.

The everyday me is…

  • with my family
  • telling my story to help others
  • inviting people over to my home
  • leading my team at Proverbs 31 Ministries

I love doing life with friends like you,

My Story

There’s more to my story than we have room to go into here, but I’d love to provide a way for you to read more about my life and faith by visiting the places I’ve linked for you below.

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