Welcome to week 2 of the 4-week series I’m doing to answer the question many of us moms have… Lord, am I messing up my kids? (Click here if you missed last week’s post.)
Have you ever struggled with letting a circumstance that came your way suddenly define you? This seems to be a lesson God lets me live over and over. He wants to be my only definition of who I am.
I am a child of God, holy and dearly loved. I know this. I teach this.
I believe this in the very depths of my soul. Yet it is so easy for me to slip into redefining myself when situations arise.
Several years ago, one of my precious-precious-precious-yet-just-as-apt-to-sin-as-the-rest-of-us kids was called to the principal’s office—on the very day I received an invitation to speak at a national parenting conference, thank you very much.
With my head I was able to see the situation for what it was. “My child is in the process of being shaped. My child is strong, and while this will serve her well later in life, strength in an immature little person begs to be disciplined. She is a sweet child who made a not-so-sweet choice.”
However, with my heart I felt like a failure. I wanted to decline the opportunity to speak at that conference and go crawl in a hole somewhere. A part of me felt as though I’d been called to the principal’s office as the voice of condemnation started haunting me, “You are a bad mom. You have a bad child. You have a bad home.”
So, quietly, I slipped away with Jesus. And I did what I’ve done a hundred times before. I held those condemnations up to the Lord and asked Him to help me see this situation the way He wants me to see it. Not the way others see it, not the way my heart is tempted to see it, but the way He sees it.
Matthew 7:24-27 says:
Everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.
Do you know what amazes me about those verses? Both the person doing right and the person doing wrong experienced hard times. In both cases the rains came, the streams rose, and the wind blew and beat against the house.
Just because we’re parents living out God’s principles for life does not mean we won’t face difficult circumstances.
God’s Spirit spoke to my heart that day and said, “Let Me invade your natural flesh reaction. Instead of letting your mind run wild with this, sit with Me for a while. Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10).
So I sat and I prayed. I went from defining myself as a failure of a mom to being a praying mom who can face a hardship in a godly way. The frustration was diffused as I determined to look at this from God’s perspective.
Once again, God reassured me. I am not a bad mom. My child is not a bad child. My home is not a bad home. This situation is a call to action. There is a character issue that needs to be addressed within the heart of my child. And kids are supposed to have character issues that need to be addressed. That’s why God gave them parents. That’s why God gave me this specific child. God sees within me the ability to be the one He’s perfectly designed to raise up this child.
When hard times come and beat against our stability, we must be determined to hear God’s words and put them into practice. Then nothing can topple our peace, security, or true identity.
I’m not sure who else needed to hear that—but I know I certainly did. So dry your tears, sweet mama. Today is a new day. A day when we will only be defined by God’s truth and grace as we navigate this wild wonder called parenthood.
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We all need to extend grace to ourselves and enjoy slow moments to recharge our hearts. Today, I’m giving away 3 treat bundles that include a Starbucks gift card, a candle, and a copy of my book Am I Messing Up My Kids? to help you do just that.
To be entered to win, leave a comment below telling me what verses you rely on when handling a hard situation with your child. {All winners will be notified via e-mail.}
I am a stay at home mom to a 2 year old and 8th month old. Things can get pretty crazy in my home. However, when those crazy moments arise, I think of the scripture ” I can do all things through Christ who give me strength” Philp 4:13.
Clearly I need to win this prize, so I can drink coffee and read that book. I must REALLY be messing up my kids, because I do NOT have scripture I rely on when I hit hard times with my kids. I guess this is something I need to work on!!
I definitely have felt like a mom failure when my kids mess up, so thank you so much for this post. I need to remember we all need corrected at times, and these are opportunities to see God’s grace and mercy for us all. I love Ephesians 3:14-21.
Hello I used psalm to help me get through trials. I find Gods word reassuring.
Lysa,
I loved this. I’m going to send this to my sister that has her 2 boys in juvenile hall right now. She is one of the best moms I know. The verse I love to remember is God’s promise to finish the work HE started in me and my child! Philippians 1:6
Blessings, Laura
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Wow! Love it & I’m so thankful God has blessed me to be a MOM!:)
It is the most rewarding & challenging task- that’s why I can’t make it without Prayer & the great verse of Phil.4:13…. Our family Motto!! I would love to read your book!;)
Psalm 46:10!!!! My goodness this is something I NEEDED to hear as I sit here at 1:00 am studying for an exam for nursing school I have tomorrow. Well, later today so many days I am full if guilt because I am in nursing school FULLTIME. I am not able to work as much as a result. This means I am able to give my children the things they want and sometimes struggle with giving them the things they need. I go back and forth with the idea of giving up. But, I don’t want them to see me throw in the towel. I also am tired if saying “we can’t afford that right now” or “sorry you can’t join that organization or go to that bday party” I am reminded that HE is God. He hasn’t turned his back in me, even though in this struggle I’ve turned my back on Him. I am guilty and I am reminded that HE IS GOD! He loves me unconditionally and He wants what’s best for me. In the long run it will all pay off, I just pray that my children will understand why I have put their lives on hold for the next 12 months.
Thank you so much for the encouragement, Lysa. My go to verse in these situations is Philippians 4:6-8 “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” NASB I chose this because the enemy told me the same lies about how bad my son is and how bad of a parent I am but Jesus reminded me to focus on the good things and to bring it all to Him. It really helped me, just like what you said because I didn’t focus on the lies and condemnation of the devil, but instead on all the promises God has always kept and all the good He has done and is doing in our lives.
I truly loved reading this post! Zephaniah 3:17, Romans 8:38 and the Psalms help me focus. I need to make sure that God’s word is alive and active in me or else I succumb to those thoughts of inadequacy, where did I go wrong, etc.
Thank you for sharing this!
I consider myself blessed with my daughter . However sometimes I feel that I am not so grown up myself and I have to remember the Lord is in charge of both my daughter and my life . Romans 8 all of it is so good esp. for me the mama to remember there is no condemnation in Christ also 1John 4 about how the Lord loves us .
Beautiful Lysa…. as always. And I immediately think about the children and how we can also measure our own value when they succeed as well. How the impact of their behavior and their ‘witness’ in our world so greatly affects us and impedes our very identity in Christ- either way. Through either pride or shame.
Our children are God’s children. As are we. I always pray for God to remind me that His purpose and His Presence is His first priority in our potential. Amen? XOXOXO
I love you Lysa…thank you. ♥
The scripture I find the most comfort in when dealing with unpleasant things with my little guy is Philippians 4:8 “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. When I fail as a mom (which seems so often) I try to refer back to this scripture.
I have 2 boys, 8 & 12. When they fight I just want to bury my head, and scream bc as you know it’s tiresome! However, Psalms 46:1 God says He’s my refuge & my strength, & an ever-present help in times of trouble. In my mind I cry out “Jesus help me!”
Proverbs 5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
I am a teacher of a baby with behavior issues and I struggle with it not being a direct reflection of bad parenting. Over the years I am constantly reminding myself that I can only do my best and then I have to let go and let God!!
God recently spoke this verse to my heart, owe no man anything but to love him. (Rom. 13:8) He said I didn’t owe people an explanation of my parenting and didn’t need their approval, so I could receive his grace for my walk and mistakes with my children. He always reminds I am not responsible for their choices and that it is part of the process.
Thanks. I really needed to hear this tonight after a rough-ish afternoon with the kiddos. My go-to verse is Philippians 3:13-14 and Romans 8:36-39. They give me hope and faith.
I am a mommy to a very strong willed little boy. He is now entering his terrible twos and most days I feel like pulling my hair out. Then there are the moments when gives me a kiss for no reason at all and I forget those bad moments. Every night since his birth I recite John 14:27 I am leaving you with a gift. Peace if mind and heart. The gift I give is a gift the world cannot give. Do not be troubled or afraid. 🙂
This post spoke to me as I am 12 days away from having my first baby and I am constantly thinking about raising him up in a good, Christian home. I know that my child is the Lord’s and He has entrusted him to me (us). All I (we) can do is follow the Lord and pray for my child’s daily walk with Him. I appreciate your encouraging posts.
I am in tears reading this. We have been facing a very difficult time with our teenage son in the recent month or so. I have been up and down emotionally as I have struggled to keep my mind on what is true (Phil. 4:8) which is that I love my son more than anything and while I may not be a perfect parent, I have done everything I can through God’s grace to be the parent my son’s need me to be. Tonight was a horrible night. Without going into details, I will just say that it had me on the floor crying my heart out to God…one minute begging for an answer to the question why, why, why. Whyis my son hurting the way he is, why is he hurting us the way he is, why won’t God intervene and help us like I know He can before it gets any worse. The next minute I am praying scripture that I have been praying over my son, standing on the word I received of my son being called to be a true Christ bearer to many when he was just a baby and knowing God is still by his side no matter how hard it is or will get only to head in the direction of what in the world did I miss, where did I go wrong, how did I fail him as a mother which was where I was sitting when I saw a new email on my phone before heading up to bed. Your email, God’s encouragement to me and absolute word to me to put my focus back on truth. “You are a bad mom. You have a bad child. You have a bad home.” You couldn’t have read my mind any better. “God sees within me the ability to be the one He’s perfectly designed to raise up this child.” Truth I need to park my mind on and let sink in. Your word were absolutely used by God to reach this one little mama in Colorado at the exact right moment. Thank you, Lysa.
Having worked as a daycare Director for a short time, I got a chance to see all kinds of interactions with moms and their kids. “He pulled her hair out!” “My baby has a diaper rash!” “My child has ringworm!” “My son bumped into a wall and now he has a big bruise on his head!” “My kid said a bad word!” “My daughter can’t memorize the scripture like the other kids!” Concern after concern. Worry after worry. And often times, when the moms came to talk to me about what happened, it often ballooned into tears and an admission of how just plain hard it was raising kids. I comforted them with a reassuring hug, a smile, and a scripture from 1 Peter 5:7 and 2 Cor. 4:17-18 “Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you, and this too shall pass.”
I feel this way a lot and honestly, didn’t have a verse to run to exactly except for the one where he says he forms us in our mothers womb which makes me remember that he knew us and knows us and doesn’t stop.
I rely heavily on Proverbs 3:5 and Psalm 46:10, in that order, when I need to stop a judgmental reaction and replace it with a grace-filled response. When I am on the verge of exploding I–1) resist my own understanding of the problem, because it is usually incorrect. Only God knows what REALLY happened and what was going on inside my child’s heart at the time, and I have to trust HIS understanding of it. Then I–2) be still and listen for His voice, knowing that He is the God who created my child, knows this child’s heart better than I ever will, and gifted him/her to me. Who am I to judge His child? He entrusted me to LEAD this child to Him, and I cannot speak to my child’s heart if I don’t first be still and let Him speak to mine. Only then can I respond to my child with the same grace that He responds to all of my mishaps. Seriously, what could a child have possibly done that is worse than anything that I have done, and not been condemned for? These two verses force me to remove the plank from own eye so that I can more humbly identify the speck of dust in my child’s eye, and then gently help her remove it (as with a cotton swan instead of a backhoe!)
That last sentence should say “swab” and not “swan.” (Proof positive that man–and not God–created autocorrect!! If He had, we would never have typos!)
Phillipians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
I can get through this with my child through Christ who strengthens me.
Thanks Lysa for all you do! 🙂
Ephesians 1:4
Long ago, even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. (NLT)
Ephesians 3:19
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God. (NLT)
Parenting is hard. I am a single parent and it is hard. I love Jesus and I try to make sure to put him first in all I do, including parenting. These versus reassure me that He is with me during even the most difficult parenting trials.
Parenting for me is a shadow of how Father God parents us. He has given us everything we need in this life and loves us unconditionally yet He gave us the freedom of choice because we grow from these choices, and these are the same with our children. We love them and give them everything, but they still make choices that either hurt them or hurt others that’s why i rely on God’s two promises:1) that if we train up a child the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Pro 22:6
2)being confident of this very thing, that He which has begun a good work in you (in our children) will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ. Phil 1:6
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11-13
God has a plan for each one of my children…and for me, too! I try to remember that God’s plans are always better than what I have in mind.
Thanks for the encouragement, Lysa!
Isaiah 41:10 I Needed To Read This This Morning. Yesterday Morning Was Filled With Tears And A Heavy Heart.
In James it says be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Working in this when parenting struggles arise. Keeps me in check to let the Holy Spirit work in all of us.
While our son is now grown, is a Christian, and living on his own, I call my parenting skills into question when he makes a choice I would label as “questionable”. I am reminded that we are exhorted to GROW in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. Just as Jesus has afforded me that same grace to grow and develop in my walk with Him, I need to extend that to my son. He makes mistakes, but he is growing and learning by God’s grace. It has taken me awhile to grasp hold of the fact that he makes a whole series of choices impacted by peers ( these are fine young adults who love the Lord!) and not a result of my parenting.
Phil 4:13 I can do ALL things through Christ who gives me strength.
As I am the single Mom of a son with Cerebral Palsy, Autism Spectrum Disorder, and Epilepsy, this is a verse that I sometimes find myself saying outloud just to make it through a rough day. God’s strength in my weakness carries me through those tough moments.
Thank you for this post Lysa! I can so relate and even though my oldest son is 25, I’m dealing with past issues that have recently come up with him. I had a meltdown day last week as this came up right in the middle of going through the process of possibly bringing a young foster boy into our home. I had to go and spend time with The Lord and allow him to fill me back up again. This was just what I needed to hear!!
Thank you so much for this series. I’m in the midst of an “Am I messing Up My Kids?” time, so I definitely need this book. I remind myself that God has equipped me for these situations by meditating on Philippians 4:13.
Oh so many verses I use to encourage myself and calm myself in Jesus biy unfortunately when I am dealingwih a situation, I dont hide myself away to read and pray till its too late.
On my mirror I have written these to always calm my spirit, Psalm 107:19-21, Isaiah 41:10, Is 30:15.
I so needed this devo this am. Thanks
hi i dont have a verse to post, but thank you so much for this i needed to hear it, i have recently just discovered that my 13 year old daughter is self harming through cutting her wrists. i have been crying and yes a lot of self blame trying to figure out why she is doing it but most importantly hurting on her behalf knowing that my little girl is hurting so much to the extent of cutting herself. i have not yet spoken to her, i needed to get the strength and sort out my own feelings first so the post today has helped a lot in leading me to pray before i tackle the issue. i feel like i am walking on eggshells i cant say anything to her without fearing that shes going to cut herself again. on the outside she looks like a normal teen doing all the teen things, crushing on the boy bands and her grades are not bad, hence my feeling that i must have done something to drive her to such extremes, we pray together every morning before school committing our day to the Lord, we pray every night before bed, so where have i gotten it wrong , have i lost my little girl for ever, will i find the strength to help her fight whatever inner demons are troubling her. please remember me and my daughter in your prayers, i am devastated i cant concentrate at work i cant look at her without crying and i find myself babbling around her.
thank you
Miranda,
I am so sorry. My heart broke as I read your comment. I have lifted you and your sweet daughter up in prayer this morning and will continue when He lays you on my heart. Hold on to Jesus…sometimes that’s all we can do. He WILL see y’all through this. He is faithful.
Proverbs 22:6. No matter how many times I mess up, god promises that if I keep trying, he’ll take care of it in th end.
Phil. 4:13 “I can do all thing through Christ who strengthens me.”
We are currently dealing with some heart issues with my 6 year old son…I chuckled yesterday as he came right out and “explained” that he has sin in his heart…
There’s so many verses that can encourage me for parenting, but I really like 2Cor. 3:5 Our only power and success comes from God.
Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the doors of my lips. Psalm 141:3
When my child makes an unwise decision I have to be careful of my words. I become frustrated at the situation but also with myself wondering what did I do wrong? I have to be even more mindful to guard the things I say and the way I say them to my children in my frustration.
“He reached down from on high and took hold of me;he drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemy, from my foes, who were too strong for me. They confronted me in the day of my disaster, but The Lord was my support. He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.” Psalm 18:16-19
I fully rely on Phil 4:13 because through him he gives me strength to address situations as a mother. I also love the verse train up a child in the way he should go….
I want to be a good example to my children and in one of the ways I struggle to do that is not becoming easily frustrated. I like the verse James 4:19 that says…let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. I need to listen to my children but I also need to listen to what God has taught me and to apply it when I am tempted to do wrong.
Thanks for sharing, my verse : Joshua1:(8) this book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. (9) have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor dismayed, for The Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
I have needed to hold onto, “Train up a child in the Lord and he will not depart from it”
Spent a lot of time asking, when God? But God, look? And the added family condemnation of not having the “perfect children” just adds to my guilt and shame.
Hi Lisa-
I just love your emails I receive I just live for them and you truly a blessing from God. I’m a single mom so I do struggle with I’m I ruing my kid, am I a bad mom. I always try to handle each situation with grace like God would. I always turn to Ephesians 4:30-31 which is 30 And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he is the one who has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. I just say this verse over and over, breath and be still. I know everything will be ok and that God loves me.
“Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18. I need to continue to focus on the giver and praise Him for entrusting me with these gifts. Even when it’s hard!
“My power is made perfect in weakness.” I don’t have to do this alone!
I love your posts….knowing I’m not alone in these struggles! When I’m having a day full of frustration I try to remember Psalms 118:24 – “this is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it”. Helps me remember to be thankful for these days, that they will end all too fast! I also try to remember that God chose me to be my kids parent…so he must think I can get it right!
Thank you for this! We have to remember that God has great plans for our kids and that He will work out all things for good, for this who love Him! The verse that I cling to is 2 Corinthians 4:16-18! We’re not giving up! Even though, on the outside it looks like we’re falling apart, On the inside, God is creating new life! I love this promise!
Lysa, Thank you for sharing your story. I guess all us mom’s feel the ouches when our kids mess up. My favorite verses are Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. And Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength. There is so many good verses out there. I like seeing what other Moms favorite verses are. It help me stay grounded in God’s word. Thank you.
Ummm wow! The last words out of my mouth last night were “I have been doing the right thing and it did me no good!” I was at a point of giving up…..my barely adult-aged (still a teenager) daughter had taken off across four states to live without even telling us. My heart is crushed, my spirit is tired….very tired and my head is spinning. But!! Oh…but God had something to tell me and he did it through your posting that I woke up to today. He say”s Dear Child -Be still and know that I am God.” I already feel Him in this situation. Thanks!!
Psalm 46:10. “Be still and know that I am God”
I definitely needed to hear “God sees within me the ability to be the one he perfectly designed to raise up this child.” I often hear myself asking God, “Why did you make me the mother of this child? I can’t raise her!” My go to verse is James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” I need a lot of wisdom in my parenting – godly wisdom!
Recently in a devotion I read as I was struggling with my spirited 3 year old God gave me Psalm 46:10 only instead of be still, it said stop striving…..I had become so overwhelmed because I was striving in my strength not His. What a huge difference it makes when we allow God to work and trust Him with it all! I also like Romans 14:19 “Do what leads to peace” for kids that aren’t getting along.
Romans 12:9 “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” I need to remember to show my kids sincere love even when they make bad choices and also remember that they are good kids and I am a good mom regardless of their sometimes not so great choices.
It would have to be the story of the prodigal son
Romans 8:28 and jeremiah 29:11 both bring me comfort. Because despite what mistakes I make in parenting, or what mistakes my children make along the way, God still has a plan to use those things to shape us and mold us.
It would have to be the story of the prodigal son-Luke 15:11. My estranged son, 22, was raised in the church, was loving and respectful has found himself entangled in the web of the enemy. Now homeless and experimenting with substances…I will just say it is hurtful as a mother to see your child go through this and you have no control over the situation. But I do know God still is in control no matter what my son is going through and I keep the faith by reading the story of the prodigal son because one day my son will also return home!
Isiaih 55:9 For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. This helps calm me when I can’t figure out how to ‘discipline’ my special needs kid who doesn’t process cause and effect the way most children can.
Lamentations 3:21-23. Love this post! I feel like this, and am in valley right now, just trusting God with the strength and wisdom and grace to get through the next day. Hard!
1 Peter 5:6-8 – at some point it becomes about my reaction and my feelings about myself. Becoming defensive and using harsh words to “defend” my child’s behavior – not helpful. Thanks Lysa for this post and all the fabulous momma who has posted – your words are a comfort to me!
Thank you for this. I love what you said about still facing difficult circumstances and trying to see then with Gods eyes instead of my own. I love that God forgives me when I mess up. Eph 4:31
Philippians 4:6-7 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. I have to tell myself that God is in control and that he did not want me to worry but to be at peace. Pray…hard:)
Isaiah 41:13 “I am the Lord, your God, who holds your right hand, and I say to you do not be afraid, I will help you” is a verse I came across this past year, and I find it very helpful because he is telling me personally that he will help me through any situation. When I am worried about what my child is going through, I turn to Phillipians 4:6 “Do not worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to the Lord”. I started my closer walk with Jesus the day I saw you speak in Evansville, IN so I want to personally thank you for spreading God’s word to the many women of this world.
Lysa! Thank you SOOO much for sharing your heart (and situations) and being vulnerable with all of us!!! So very grateful for you!!
I use my favorite verse… Ps. 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God”. To calm my anxious or frustrated heart, I say it like this:
“Be still and know that I am God…
Be still and know that I am…
Be still and know that I…
Be still and know that…
Be still and know…
Be still and…
Be still…
BE
I think that is all God is asking in those moments! Just BE!
Blessings to you!!!
Jennifer
Is anything too hard for the Lord? Gen 18:14
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, but acknowledge him in all you do and he will make your path straight. Prov 3:5-6
Don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your request to God. Phil 4:6
I have a husband that does not make God a priority in our lives or in raising children, so I struggle with being the “bad cop” that makes them go to church or study their Bible. When I feel the urge to just give up and be a cool parent I remember the verse Proverbs 22:6, Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Although I don’t see much fruit now at ages 11 & 10, I know someday I will. I just pray I do a good enough job.
Thank you for your honesty. I too let things around me define me at times, this was just what I needed to hear today. My favorite verse to help me through stressful times is Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your path straight.
Phil. 4:13. Overall my seventeen year old son is a good young man but there are days when he tests my patience and his boundaries. I remember one day as I was going home from work, I was thinking about a rough patch we were going through and I thought to myself “if he would just listen to me things would go smoother for him and us.” Then in my next thought I had to smile because I wondered how often God thought the same exact thing about me and maybe that’s why we get experience the teenage years with our children:-) Lysa, thank you for another great lesson.
My two favorite verses are John 11:35 “Jesus wept”. And Proverbs 22:6 ” Train up a child in the way he should go an when he is old he will not depart from it.
It’s ok to weep or cry, and they will return. Sometimes that is the only hope in a tough situation, and I hang onto it dearly. 🙂
Thank you for that message. After 24 years I still think I messed up but I’m still trusting God.
And He who formed you, O Israel: Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine. Isaiah 43:22. Thank you Jesus for truth!
I’m always encouraged that God is a God of second chances. For my kids and myself. We have definitely had some principal office moments. I also try not to think what that stigma brings with it. Because it truly is a teachable moment.
Isaiah 41:13 For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. (Isaiah 41:13 NIV)
Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
A day doesn’t go by that I don’t look to God for guidance. Being a single mom brings its added challenges, but since their dad died we also have strenghtened our faith. Reminding my kids that there are no “secrets” because God sees everything and there will be a day when they will stand before the Lord and be accountable has helped immensely. Thank you Lisa for sharing your stories. You are an inspiration and a blessing.
My little boy was diagnosed with ADHD yesterday, and no matter how many times I’ve been told in the last 24 hours, “it is not your fault”, I still feel like I’ve failed him. He has to start medication today… I feel like a monster. The side affects that will take a toll on his young body just rips this mamma’s heart out. I sat in his room last night as he slept and prayed. Prayed that the Lord protect him, and keep him strong. And help me stay strong for him.
Psalm 46:10
Phillipians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I’ve also tried to remember to just say “Jesus” in those times when I’m getting frustrated with my kids, just saying it over and over and sometimes walking away.
Thank you, Lysa for this! When my kids (tweens!) Are being disrespectful, especially if I’m tired, the thoughts of condemnation as a parent start up and if I don’t turn to The Truth (Isaiah 41, 54, 60, Psalms, Romans etc etc!) I start agreeing with the lies. Thank you for being so real and sharing your true experiences. Its really comforting to know I’m not alone 🙂
Ephesians 4:29
New International Version (NIV)
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
THis has been very helpful for me when dealing with my headstrong son who has ADHD. and really tries my patience.
I would really love to read this book. I think it would be a great plarform to grow from.
I loved this post, thank you for sharing it!!
Train a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not turn away from it.
Proverbs 22:5-7
I have three verses: For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. Ps.118:24
Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23
Thank you – I needed this today. As a teacher (at my child’s school) it can be even harder! I rely on Romans 12:12.
“…you are my servant; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isa. 41: 9b-10) I LOVE Isaiah! This has been a comforting passage for parenting troubles and other disappointments in my life.
This was timed perfectly- to read just as I put the 2nd of 3 daughters on the bus…wondering why can’t our mornings be like everyone else’s? I’m sure that there are families out there that have children that wake up happy and kiss their mamas on the cheek, say I love you and get on the bus. Why is it that most mornings in my house one or the other oldest one leaves mad, irritated, makes me feel like I must be doing something wrong to have children that act so ungrateful towards me? Thankfully I remember Phil 4:8 and I remind myself to think about things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable…I have to remind myself that Satan will do all he can to make me think and focus on all the negatives instead of the positive times.. The times where my high schooler stands up in English class to say she will not be a part of reading a book that is full of curse words, and instead chooses to go alone to the library to work on her own book ( which by the way the teacher ends up following her lead and changes the book for the whole class) or the time where my little one wraps her arms around my neck and tells me I’m the best mommy in the world. I know full well that the grumpy, yucky mornings may run rampant in a house with 3 girls, but I also have to remind myself that God is in control here and I can listen to His loving, caring voice that strengthens me-or listen to the condeming voice of Satan that wears me down. I choose God.
The verses that I turn to when stressed is Philippians 4:6-7. Thanks for sharing, you are an encourager!
I have one go to verse that I rely on in every situation. Proverbs 3:5- 6
“Trust in The Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.”
I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.
—Psalm 27:13–14
I have 3 kids ages 22, 18 and 4. What a struggle to parent adults down to a toddler. My oldest is a recovering heroin addict (4 months clean and FINALLY moving into her own apartment!!) I have had to realize that I can do nothing to “fix” her…it all has to be God, In HIS timing. A lot of praying. But, seeing the work He is doing in her life, this is such a comforting verse no matter what the day holds for the 18 and 4 year old! I cling to His promise each day.
Thank you Lysa…you always seem to speak what’s in my heart and remind me to be kind to myself. No one is perfect and I seem to need constant reminding of this, especially when it comes to parenting.
Bless you!
I always come back to Mark 1:11, Matthew 3:17, and Luke 3:22. Those versus all recount God’s words when Jesus was baptized: “…and behold, a voice out of the heavens said, ‘This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.'”
I love these verses because God was affirming Jesus BEFORE he started his ministry, before he performed his first miracle. I don’t need to be the perfect mom, performing mom miracles. God claims me as His BEFORE I even start my day.
Good stuff!
I needed this reminder today. Thanks for your vulnerability.
This was just what I needed as my oldest child’s grades were just not what they should be, and I have struggled with how to deal with it. Thank you so much!
Thank you! While i dont want anyone to experience the frustrations of raising a child, it is always nice to have a reminder we are not alone in what we think or feel in raising children. There are plenty of things that mar my thinking of what i have done and continue to do wrong,so thankful for a loving God. A verse i continually feel comforted by is Matthew 6:34. It isnt a parenting verse per se, however it reminds me this day is only one day and tomorrow will be another opportunity to do better. Thank you for your ministry!
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean no on thine own understanding, in all thy ways acknowledge Him and he shall direct they path.
Satan loves nothing more than to spew lies and tell us were bad moms. Its so not true! God entrusted us with our kids! As my husband has reminded me on occasion the Lord isn’t sitting up there shaking His head and saying man I messed up giving her those kids. He’s up there saying I’m here to help, just ask me, rely on me, depend on me!
Now if I would just remember this all the time it would be wonderful!!! LOL
As the mother of a child with Autism, I can’t tell you how many times I have beaten myself up over how my child behaves. I do know it is not my fault, but it still stings sometimes. Thank you so much for this encouragement!
Wow I needed this today, going through a difficult issue with my son. I was just in prayer over how to handle the matter since I was out of ideas. Thinking I should have started there. My verse for my son was Love one another. And Love your neighbor as yourself. These are needed since he’s starting to be a bully, after years of being bullied.
Thanks so much for your words of truth and encoragement. As a single parent I have struggled with this off an on for a long time. And you only need to watch a fathers rights commercial to bring up those feelings again. But you can’t make a person be a part of someone’s life. But by the grace of God I became a Christian shortly after becoming a single parent. Giving me peace, hope, and strength for the journey!!!
One of the verses that has helped me through this journey is Jeremiah 29:11-13. Knowing that God has the perfect plan for each of our lives, plans to prosper and not to harm, plans to give us hope and a future have helped through this journey! And knowing that none of this is a suprise to God!! He knew my son was going to grow up without his father being around and that it was going to be a ruff road but he would get us through!!!!
Proverbs 19:21″You can make many plans, but the LORD’s purpose will prevail.”
God is doing something greater in me and in my children than what I can see. I trust that even if I am messing up, He is the God of second chances and His purposes will prevail!
Proverbs 3:5- Trust in The Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.
Same here. Yesterday my 8 yr old dtr was having a moody morning. Nothing would snap her out of it. Finally i just started singing, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, Lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and he will make your paths straight. She heard me and midway thru joined in on the singing. Her mood was normal from then on.
Thank you for these readings. I feel encouraged in a time that I really need these reminders. I lost my husband unexpectedly in a tragic accident 2 months ago and all of a sudden am left to raise 4 kids alone. We have had many discouraging days where I end the day feeling as if I’ve “messed up my kids”. Your reminders comfort me, along with “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength!!” Thank you for these readings!!!
Jer 29:11….is not only for me but for my child…He has plans for her that I don’t know and He’s using these teaching situations to shape & mold her..
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.-Proverbs 3:5
So easy to get caught up in controlling our children and then blaming ourselves for their reactions.
Hi Lysa! I have three boys so my favorite verse is Phillipians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which stengtheneth me”. There are days when I think I will lose the battle (The math says that 3 is bigger than 1!), but when I am reminded of that verse, my heavy heart is lifted because I am not alone. I have Christ with me and he will help me love and nurture those three wonderful blessings of mine. Thank you for sharing God’s word through the eyes of moms. God bless!
Jeremiah 29-11. Yesterday was rough and I was sure I had not only failed my child but my husband as well. I went to bed defeated. The voice in my head said give up the enemy wins. This morning I woke with your msg in my inbox like whisper from my savior saying its another day. Get up and try again.
Dear Sister in Christ,
I am at a place that I thought no Mother would ever have to endure this heartache and hurtfulness. My son has completely disowned us for “his mistakes”. He blames us for what he has done, yea, talk about punching a parent in the GUT!! I went through the WHY ME and HOW DARE HIM and SAY WHAT attitude but once I got a grip of what was actually going on and leaned on God for understanding and for guidance then I became a person of Faith. You see we went against my son because he didn’t want us to contact this ex wife to see our grandchildren while he and his new wife are stationed in Japan. My gut told me otherwise and we called an lawyer and he gave us advice and told us going to court isn’t a good idea because in VA they do not favor Grandparent’s rights. He (lawyer) told us to contact the Mom of the children and we did. To make a long story short my son and his new wife threw us under the bus with lies/deceit/the whole nine yards, until we found out the truth and found out none of the things we were being told was the truth. They have played all the cards and got busted!
If it haven’t been for me being a Christian would I have overcame this! Don’t get me wrong the devil puts doubt and anxiety in me allot but I will overcome because God is my Heavenly Father and I will not be shaken!! I have learnt to seek God and celebrate when tough times come (and they will), I need to have a party and celebrate LIFE and thank God for even these tough times.
“BAD circumstances is an opportunity for a miracle”. Nothing is impossible with GOD.
I have my daughter-in-law in my life now along with those adorable precious gifts (Grandchildren) she gave us and what a honor and blessings (despite my son) we have in our lives. Our hearts are full and overflowing with God’s blessings and love.
So when circumstances come:
I say this: I do not CARE!! I will not be afraid, I will not Bend, I will not Bow, and I will not be afraid and refuse to be afraid anymore. I stopped living in fear and stopped running from fear and stood in Faith.
2 Corinthians 1:24: Not that we Lord it over your Faith, but we work with you for you joy, because it is by Faith you stand Firm.
Psalms 36:5: “Your Love, LORD reaches to the Heavens, your faithfulness to the skies
Psalms 78:35: “They remembered that God was their Rock, that God most High was their redeemer.
Thank you Lysa, you are an inspiration to me and so many others and I just know that no matter what my circumstances I have FAITH and If I say move that mountain and believe God will do truly that.
Blessings and love girl!!
I son’t have any children to mess up. Got did not have that in his plans for me. But there are lessons in your story even for me. Just in the timing of your child getting into mischief and you being asked to talked just flashed as satan trying to throw you off. Trying to make you stumble and doubt yourself – it was not just your child getting a lesson but your faith shined through.
Proverbs 3:5 trust in The Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding… This one is always in my head. Thank you for this reminder to keep things in perspective.
Lisa – I have to rely on Colossians 3:12-17. There are so many calls to action for me as a parent in tough situations – put on compassion, humility and patience. BEAR (not be a bear 🙂 with one another, forgive one another, let the peace of Christ rule, admonish each other in wisdom and above all give thanks to God. All hard to do but a blueprint for me in tough times. Thanks for asking and reminding me. Bless you!
Romans 8:28…I know that God works all things for good for us who love him. I have 3 great and very human kids…19, 11 and 9. I love to read your devotions. Thank you for being a blessing!
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
Recently, our son also found himself in the principal’s office. A great time of discussion followed, and a time of re-anchoring occurred. God loves him and he loves God, and he needed a little reigning in as he matures. I thanked God for the episode, knowing that He is not about to take His eyes off of my boy!
Phil 4:13 I can do ALL THINGS thru Christ who strengthens me!!
Parenting for sure is the hardest “job” I have ever done..but i love it.
Proverbs 22:6
New King James Version (NKJV)
6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
I refer back to this everyt time I think I’m messing up my kids and pray that I’m making Godly/wisdom choices for them ad even through my mess up that they learn the way to go;)
Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2 Corinthians 12:8, 9 ESV)
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me ~
Philip 2:14 whatever happens conduct yourself in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ
Acts 19:36. You ought to calm down & not do anything rash.
Prvb 14:1 The wisewoman builds her house but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Eph 6:4 fathers do not exasperate your children instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Romans 8:28
Philippians 4:13
I really needed this post today. I love the house built on rock vs sand……great reminder that All experience trouble but who are we trusting in? Would love to read your book
I like Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
John 3:16 – For God so loved the world (me and my kids) that he gave his only son, that whosoever believes in him will have eternal life. If God can love us warts and all then I need to love my kids warts and all. Continue to show them the love of Christ and all of these parenting issues will work out in the end.
Our church just spent a long time going through Isaiah.
“For his God doth instruct him to discretion, and doth teach him” Is 28:26
“And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left” Is. 30:21
I have strong feelings that I am the problem in my child’s life! in my husbands life! And I am making them both miserable. I’ve even thought of leaving thinking that they would be happier without me around. But I haven’t left. I am still there. I am still trying to keep myself together. My self worth is the problem and I know it is rubbing off on my son.
When I read your honest and very real devotionals it helps ‘re-calibrate” my life. I guess I am not a bad mother. Ours is not a bad home. We all need tweeking! My bible verse is from Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord – plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.” My toughest problem is believing it for myself.
Thank you for your spiritual guidance. Hopefully one day I will see my worth in God. If I could have one thing – it would be to see myself as God sees me – even as others who love me see me.
I so appreciated this devotional and all the comments! I could echo every single verse listed as my “go to” verses. I also lean heavily on “the joy of The Lord is my strength and pray that same joy that strengthens me will empower my child and grant strength in the moments of decision. The joy of The Lord is rich and deep and will equip us to be. True joy found only walking in His presence. (Psalm 105:43: I pray Proverbs-filled with “wisdom & knowledge” to guide us, for discernment and 2 Corinth 10:4-5- I am often reminded …not flesh we fight againt– thus “armoring” for the ploys of the enemy (who loves to use our children)…”bringing every thought captive to the obedience of Christ” (I pray that for them & myself).
Raising 3 kids alone brings challenges I never thought that I would face but God knew. He has blessed and provided in ways I would have never dreamed possible. This year I have posted the verse “I am doing a great work and I can not come down.” Nehemiah 6:3 … I love this verse because it reminds me to stay the course. I have to be reminded that my great work at this time is training these 3 kids to know God and make Him known. As we homeschool each day I am drawn to do so many other things. Some things have to be done and others can wait. I pray for God to give me strength and wisdom each day as I choose.
Lysa,
I wish this was available when I was a young mom but I still receive strength from this site!! My sons are now 21 and 23, both in the military and now there are other things to worry about… mainly not going to church and deployments. But through all this I have clung to the verse Proverbs 22:6. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. That has been my promise from God and I trust in it. They were raised the way that I felt God expected me to. They have both met lovely Christian ladies who are involved in church and love the Lord and I see changes in both of them. They are becoming committed again which is a blessing to see. One is going to church now and the other is beginning to look for a church and has asked me to pray for him several times. That again is a blessing. And even though they are not where I want them to be, it is a start…..So for all you moms out there who are struggling with teenagers and older children, don’t give up! God has a plan for your children’s lives and He is faithful!
Seems likes we are distance twins or something God always blesses me with your words that he gives you. Your a great inspiration thank you I always go to Psalms 41: 10
Letting Go, Letting God
“This is the word of the God of Israel: The jar of flour will not run out and the bottle of oil will not become empty before God sends rain on the land and ends this drought.”
The widow of Zarephath had an even sharper concern. She had only enough flour to make one more meal for herself and her son. Yet Elijah urged her to make that flour into a biscuit for him-with God’s promise that, if she did, her food would never run out. She chose to trust to turn her life and the life of her son over to the Lord.
Turning our children over to God isn’t easy, but the Lord who helped a desperate widow three thousand years ago remains by our side today.
Father God, help us remember that You care for our children intimately and eternally. Remind us that you will not let us fall.
1 Kings 17:14
Psalm 138:8
The Lord will accomplish what concerns me; Your lovingkindness, O Lord, is everlasting; Do not forsake the works of Your hands.
I cling to this scripture for my daughter and for myself. The Lord WILL accomplish what concerns us both, and will never forsake either of us. Now THIS is good news! I just need to cease striving and know that He is God.
Philippians 1 – he who began a good work is faithful to complete it. It is God who created my child, who has a plan and a purpose for her, and He will be the One to do the good work in her . I can do what He has called me to do as a mom then trust Him with the rest !
There are two that come to mind quickly, but so many more that fit with children in mind. Phil 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me Prov. 22:6 – Train up a child in the way that he (she) should go, and when he (she) is old he (she) will not depart from it.
Jeremiah 29:11…for myself AND for my child. Thank you Lord that Your plans for each of us are GOOD!
Romans 8:28…to me means that even when I feel like I am a failure, if I have kept my focus on Him, He will use my efforts for good. He will fill in all the places where I am lacking, and straighten my wobbly path.
A long time ago, when my kids were little, a very wise woman encouraged me during the days of being in the trenches (my expression for raising young kids). I was feeling very frustrated/beaten down as I experienced failure upon failure in my child-rearing approaches! She reminded me that God looks at our hearts–what we really desire to do–even when our actions/results of our actions would say the opposite. The verse that speaks to me about this is referring to God’s instruction to Samuel in selecting Israel’s second king, however, part two of the verse can certainly be applied to our frustrated efforts at child-rearing: “…for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7b
My go to verse when my children are just testing me over and over again is Heb 12:11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening, it’s painful. But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.
Helps me realize everyone need discipline from time to time and it will be for the good even if I never see it come to fruition. Love today’s devotion. Something I really needed to hear as I am struggling with my 14 year old son! Thanks Lysa!!
Isaiah 43:2 “When you pass through the water, I will be with you; when through the river, [you will not drown]. When you walk through the fire, [you will not be burned].”
Every situation I face with my children is another opportunity for me to continue to learn how to handle the pressures of life with the grace and wisdom of God. I don’t always pass, but this scripture reminds me that I will not drown in those tests…and neither will my children!
“Her children WILL rise up and call her Blessed” Gives me SO much Hope. ❤️
Proverbs 22:6 – Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
It’s a great reminder to just keep talking and living out the Gospel as an example to my kids and it will help to keep them on the right path.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
I pray everyday knowing I can only do my best with The Lord help. My kids are going to mess up and I need to let them, we can only guide them and pray they will also turn to Him for grace. Thank you Lisa for sharing your heart and reminding us as moms we need to just follow and guide!
I love how it says “Let me invade your natural flesh reaction” This reminds me of to keep my mouth from speaking with-out thinking first. My son needs more of his Mother acting like Jesus in all things.
“I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an open door that no one can shut.
I know that you have little strength, yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name. ” Revelation 3:8
Never really thought to use verses until this week–this was brought up at a moms group yesterday. So I keep thinking about 1 Tim 4:12–but for me. That I should be setting the example for my non-believing (yet) toddler
James 1: 12-16
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised those who love.
Thank you for this posting today!!! I so needed to hear it after the evening we had with our “most likely to rule the world and give me a head full of gray hair in the process child” – and he’s the birthday boy today!!!
I always have to listen very carefully to hear God’s voice! It begs to be drowned out by the overwhelming loudness in my home of 4 boys! However, He speaks to me through Colossians 1:17 – He is before all things, and in Him ALL things hold together! He holds me together no matter the circumstances my 4 little blessings get themselves into!!
I needed this today. Right now. THANKS!! I am up early to pray about this day and research some rehab centers for our 24 y/o son. Alcohol has taken over his life – yet he is in total denial so gets very angry and defensive when we try to talk about what he’s doing and where he’s headed in life. After the events of this week, today most likely will be ‘intervention’ day. Thank you for helping me see i must not heap on the condemnation on myself of thinking this is all my fault and I’m a bad mom. I need to see clearly and get my negative emotions out of the way so that I can lovingly direct him in the right path. thanks for your prayers! .
This one resonates with me when dealing with my very smart, very hard-headed 4-year-old son:
Proverbs 22:6
Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
and
Jeremiah 29:11-12
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.
We are going through a VERY rough time in our current daycare situation. I have found a FANTASTIC preschool that fits our schedule, is Christ-centered, offers a LOT of challenge for our likely-gifted son (took him to be evaluated based on the issues at current daycare), and would cost us LESS than we currently pay!! They are FULL 🙁
We are desperately praying for this to open up–a happy job transfer for a family who is there, or some other great blessing that will benefit them and us. Anyone who would join us in prayer that this could open up for Conor–that would be a blessing.
I am getting all kinds of notes that make me feel like I am not doing so well–thank you for the reminder that if I trust in the Lord, He will get us through all this.
Carissa in eastern Iowa
My journey with my stepson Johnny is a daily challenge & struggle. I know if it wasn’t for God I could not still be in this role cuz it is the toughest thing I have ever faced. Every day I have to stand on Philippians 4:13 & know that I can do this with God’s strength. I also rely on Lamentation 3:22-23 because just as I need God’s mercy daily I need to extend that mercy to Johnny as well.
This could not have come at a better time. Our family has had this almost exact experience this last week. My daughter was sent to the office and we are in the last few days of being licensed to be a foster to adopt family. Talk about satan doing a number on ya! It’s been a battle this last week to handle things properly and not feel like a complete failure as a parent and even question our calling. But as always The Lord has been so sweet to comfort us and help us see this for what it truly is. It isn’t a fight against flesh and bones but against the deceiver himself and also a character shaping moment like you said. I’m so thankful God chose us for the moment even as hard as it has been and will continue to be. I know our God is faithful! Ephesians 6 has been scriptures that I can always look upon to help get my mind right and prepared for battle. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus is what our family said yesterday as we refused to let satan win! Thanks for sharing and being so transparent! The Lord will continue to bless you!!
Gen 50:20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives
Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
Right now these 2 verses are my life line. We have a teenage child who has started doing drugs & skipping class. My child committed their live to Jesus at the age of 7, is very active in their youth group at church, but struggles to fit in at school. I know with all my heart that God will use this time in our lives for something beautiful & amazing
I am standing in faith with a friend and commenting on her behalf. I would love to be able to present this special gift to her. Any verse that talks about God holding us with His hand and holding us up is such a great comfort.
My son has ADHD, his meds have now also caused bouts of anxiety and fear, anger and opposition. Most days just getting him to the breakfast table is a draining, escalated episode that makes our home chaotic. I go from being a structured, calm and prepared mom to a screaming lunatic at times. It’s not who I want to be. This is not what I want my dear child to have to go through at such a young age. None of this was what I envisioned. But Isaiah 40:31 is a verse I go back to often. Because I am waiting on The Lord. I know one day He will give me wings to soar like an eagle over these problems that weigh my family down daily. I trust in these words. Some days, it is my absolute life line because the moment’s reality and the whispers in my head try to convince me otherwise. Thank you for this post.
I knew that it was a training process so in proverbs it says,Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Pro.22:6
Lisa, thank you for these words and scriptures. I have a strong willed 7 year old boy who does not like school and defies his teachers at some point in the day. He is in counseling and we have chosen not to medicate him, but work with him and give him time. Yesterday, he destroyed part of the teachers classroom because he didn’t get a smiley face for his behavior that day. Consequences to choices he made. You can imagine my shock at the destruction my sweet little boy was responsible for. I feel very alone as a parent. As if my child is the only one who has ever acted this way in the world. I woke up this morning feeling defeated and wanting to have all the answers to fix him so that he will be loved by others like I love him. I woke up knowing he had more consequences to face when he gets to school this morning.
Thank you for reminding me to ask God what to do. I have been relying on myself and what I think others want of us. I was giving in. Thank you for reminding me that this child was given to be for a purpose. God has equipped me to raise this particular child and I will do my best to ask Him what he would have me do. After praying I felt my burden lift and God take over. Matthew 7:24-27 is a verse I will meditate on from now on because these are storms, huge and raging, but my God can calm it for me so that I can see the situation for what it is and not what it seems.
Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
I love the verse, “A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” It helps me to remain patient when disciplining. Thank you, Lysa, for your honesty and insights!
Oh thank you Lysa, I have felt like such a failure as a mom lately. My husband works away from home and is only home on weekends, I have 2 grown children who are out on their own and a 11 year old son. It is so hard because he is all alone with just me and misses his dad very much. It seems so much more of a struggle raising him then the other 2, probably because I am basiclly doing it alone, with my frustration of not having my husband home I find it hard to be the mother I feel I should be. your blog really hit home this morning, thank you for the reminder of my worth as Gods daughter and that I am not alone and not some terrible mom and that others struggle with the same things I do…..Prov:3:5-6 is my life verse, especially in this season of my life. and Philippians 4:13….I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me….
Proverbs 19:20-21
Listen to counsel and receive instruction, That you may be wise in your latter days. There are many plans in a man’s heart, Nevertheless the Lord ’s counsel—that will stand.
You quoted my go-to verse in your blog. Psalm 46:10a – Be still and know that I am God. I use this verse whenever I feel the frustration well up in me. I have 3 wonderful, loving children ages 9, 7 and 6, who can be very trying at times. I need the reminder that God is working in them (and me) and I just need to let Him do His thing as He guides me on this parenting journey.
Hi Lysa !
Before I leave my comment on your latest blog ( which was very timely) I want to tell you how much I enjoyed hearing you speak at the Win Some Women conference on Mackinac Island this past October ! Thank you for being so real with us! You took a giant burden off of my shoulders to be the perfect mom all of the time. I am the mom of 5 kids. Three are grown and in their 20’s. One is married and the other two are living on their own nearby. When my husband and I realized that the empty nest was looming on the horizon we decided to postpone that phase of life and we started all over by adopting our two youngest who are now 9 and 11. We have been parenting for 29 years and still have so much to learn ! Now for the very timely blog. Just yesterday I received a call from one of my sweet child’s teachers. I was mortified to hear that she had been being very mean and rude to another child for several weeks. Her behavior included saying some not so nice things, treating him badly and also rebuffing his attempts to respond to her offensiveness by treating her with kindness. Part of me couldn’t believe that my tender-hearted child could act in such a horrible way but another part of me could, as I had seen glimpses of that kind of attitude pop up from time to time. Every morning when I go in to wake her we pray before she gets out of bed that The Lord would bless her and help her to be a blessing to others.Well, she certainly had not been a blessing to this other child and I was looking for that rock to hide under. Instead of hiding I went to my “go to” verse for parenting, which is Isaiah 40:11 where it tells me that “He gently leads those who have young.” I prayed that God would help me handle this situation properly and say the words that my child needed to hear. I talked to her about what had been happening and when I saw the tears roll down her cheeks I knew that I had reached her heart. I asked her to talk to God about it in her room and when I went in to check on her later I found her asleep with a sweet letter of apology next to her. Imagine what it was like to open your e-mail the very next morning and read about your similar experience ! God is truly “The God who sees” and I am so thankful that you are willing to open yourself up to us and be real ! I am not a bad mom. I do not have a bad child and I do not have a bad home. Now I am ready to crawl out from under that rock and get on with my day and whatever comes my way today ! Thanks Lysa !
My children are both on their own now. Yet,as adults they make choices I don’t agree with and I wrap their mistakes around me like an old blankie, I must remember that God loves them more than I ever could and He will take care of them as He sees fit. I will just pray for them and be there when they need me.
When I’m struggling to parent my child, I love the reminder that the best book on parenting is His Word! “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.” Psalm 119:105
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” Over the years these verses would come to my mind when I paused in the situation and they helped me remember to allow God to intervene instead of reacting out of my own impulses. Now that my children have children of their own, I pass on this practice to them (and that’s what it takes – practice. After a while this becomes the natural response.)
I am a mother of two and now grandmother of 6.
I was a young mother with no clue and I defined myself by my children’s actions .
I did not know the Lord at the time so I would just dwell on my mistakes.
What a blessing it is to know the Lord and to be able to turn to Him.
My children are 40 and 37 and I am finally forgiving myself.
Thank you
I very much enjoy your books, you have become a blessing in my life!
My husband and I adopted a child who we love very very much and who we know God brought to us because he knows we can be the parents our child needs. We have spent the last 3 years traveling from specialist to specialist and with each specialist’s diagnosis we continued to advocate for our child that everyone was missing a vital piece of the puzzle. One night after a particularly hard day my husband prayed that God show us the answer we have been seeking so we can help our child. Later that evening I was on the internet on an adoption forum searching for anything that might help us and low and behold did I find that missing piece to the puzzle we had been searching for. We contacted the specialist who set us up for an immediate visit and they reevaluated and diagnosed our child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. Our child is now in therapy and the prognosis although it will take time is a 100% turn around. We have had to do a lot of reading, learn new and different ways to parent our child but God has been our shoulder throughout the past 3 years and we know he has great plans for our child and he gives us the strength and encouragement we need on those really tough days. Some of our favorite verses are Psalm 46:10, Psalm 119:50, and Acts 15:11.
“Guard my mouth and control my lips”. Sorry I can’t remember where I found that in the bible, but I repeat it several times a day.
Right now, I am praying Isaiah 50:4 every morning. I am praying to be teachable as I venture to teach my children, something that for some reason intimidates me tremendously.
Isaiah 41:13
For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. What an encouragement to know that God has not given me these 5 beautiful children and left me on my own! God almighty is with me every step of the way guiding, protecting, forgiving…. He who began a good work in them (and me) will be faithful to complete it.
I am a mother to five. My youngest is four while my oldest son just turned 17. I simultaneously rejoiced and wept. How short my opportunity for influence is now! Mr. Oldest is also my step son. I came into his life when he was five. He has always lived with us full time. We have been through some serious difficulties with his biological mother. Mr. Oldest has rebelled against me in so many ways. The scripture I go to in those hard times is Psalm 1:1-3 Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked,or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. But they delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season.Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do.
It is tempting to walk away and wash your hands of a situation when it is your step child. To just let his father deal with it. The thought that its all my fault and they would both be better off without me eats away at my soul. No matter what though, I am his mother. I chose him when I chose his father. So I remind myself that I am like a tree planted by the riverbank and this family will see the fruit of all its efforts in due season. Seasons can be long but they are not forever. I I’ll delight in the law of The Lord even if everyone in our family thinks were crazy.
Thanks for sharing this blog…definitely needed the reminder today. Often feel like a failure as a mom when my kids act up..like it is a reflection on me as a parent. God reminds me that I’m the right parent for my kids and to keep plugging ahead asking him to help shape their character
Deutoronomy 30:11-14 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, “Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, “Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.
Psalm 139:13-14 – from before we even knew they were there God knew our babies – He shaped them and formed them. Remembering that, when I feel like a failure, helps me rest in the knowledge that if I will get out of His way God will help me be the exact parent they need.
Lysa:
Thank you so much for those words. It seems when I need a pick me up I turn on my computer look in my email and bam there it is. My husband lost his job in April of this past year due to a medical disability. I am working full time and dealing with issues at home. Sometimes it seems as though the storms are never ending. Thank you for this encouragement. I needed it today.
This too shall pass.
I try to always remember I Corinthians 13. Love , Love ,Love, the greastest of these is Love. God loved us so I need to love others.
Ephesians 3:20- I remind myself that God can do immeasurably more with my child than I could ever ask or imagine. I am learning to stop trying to control every issue and instead pray for God to take control. I am now seeing God at work in my child. The lying has stopped, self confidence is building and he is becoming the young man I know God has called him to be. I bought the necklace Priscilla shirer sold that says Beyond Beyond. I wear it everyday as a reminder that God goes beyond beyond with us- Praise The Lord!!!
“And we KNOW that God causes EVERYTHING to work together for the GOOD of those who love God and are called according to His purposes.” (Romans 8:28) This is what gives me hope and helps me not curl up in a ball on the floor and give up! Also, “Now all glory to GOD, who is able, through His mighty power at work within us, to ACCOMPLISH INFINITELY MORE than we might ask or think.” (Eph 3:20) I’m so thankful for you, Lysa!
Jeremiah 29:11 and Proverbs 22:6 are two that I hold onto desperately some days as I struggle being a mom, caregiver, chef, etc.
Thanks for your words of wisdom and encouragement this morning Lysa. They were exactly what I needed as I navigate the waters of parenting! It’s a constant challenge to remember in the heat of the moment how important it is to “Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46.10), one of my favorite verses to recall.
When my kids were little I used this verse in a mom’s group and I have always held on to it though it isn’t written to address parenting.
Matthew 28:20 – And surely I am with you always, even to the end of the age.
It reminds me that no matter what age or stage of parenting I am going through (teenagers right now!) God is with me till it ends or changes.
When facing issues with my childs behavior, I often look at it as how God looks at me as his child when I “act up”. I try to remember to be merciful as he is merciful, yet correct my child as the Lord corrects me. I think of Proverbs 22:6 that says “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Kids are’nt placed here with the perfect attitude, manners, and characteristics. We have to train them. They act like they dont listen and they seem to shrug off out directions, but when they get older, they can never escape the seeds we planted and the loving disipline we showed them because we love them. The Lord chastens whom he loves, and we as mama’s have to disipline our kids, because we love them and want them to do right.
Psalm 94: 17-19
Unless the Lord had given me help, I would soon have dwelt in the silence of death. When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.
I do not know what I would do each morning without the gift
of Proverbs 31 ministries. It always seems to hit the nail right on the head
for me each day. My favorite verse that keeps my head up when my children are
are challenging me each day is Proverbs 22:6.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Seems like there are days my three young adult children definitely turn from it, but I hold on to this verse knowing they will always come back to the truth of the Lord.
Thank you so much for the gift of Proverbs 31
Joshua 1:9 “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
As always, Lisa, nice to hear your words of encouragement taken from God’s truth.
Happy Wednesday!
LYSA – So tired of that darn autocorrect….and I suppose my lack of proofreading has something to do with it 😉
Have I said Happy Wednesday, yet?!
Proverbs 3:5-6.
Just what I needed to hear today!!! THANK YOU!!!
Gosh, this is so needed isn’t it! We need to take a load off ourselves as moms.
I love 2 Corinthians 12:9…. His grace is sufficient, his power is made perfect in OUR weakness. Thank you God!
Again, I would give a book to my sweet friend is really deeply struggling right now. I love her & want to help her,
Just lately, I have been standing on Joshua 24:15. The theme of building a strong Christian foundation in our home has been reoccurring to me in several things I read and hear. It is important that we choose The Lord daily. 🙂
Jeremiah 29:11-14 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and I will bring you back from captivity.”
We adopted a sibling group of four from severe abuse, neglect. The road has been far more difficult than I could ever have imagined. One child is severely damaged….daily I pray this scripture over all of them –but especially him. God has to heal the damage from the abuse…we have been unable to do that. They are in God’s hands for Him to work His plan for each one in His time.
Thank you for your wonderful ministry—please know how much it helps.
Psalm 51:10
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
Our two kids are grown, married, and they each have a son approx. 2 years old. So very thankful, ALL of the time.
Hi Lisa,
I REALLY needed to hear this one today. Thank you for being so honest. The Lord seems to remind me of this verse when dealing with my kids, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your OWN understanding; In ALL your ways acknowledge HIM and HE will direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5+6 My own understanding stinks and I mess up (and yell) and think I’m messing up my kids too. But when I try to trust in the Lord, my reactions come out differently. (Calmly) Some times it really amazes me.
I can do all thing through christ that strentens me. Philipians 4:13.
Isaiah 40:29-31 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. 30 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
I always have a hard time thinking of any verses when hard times come and then later I always hate my reaction. One thing that does help is sometimes I just stop and say a short prayer or simply say Jesus before reacting and those times the outcome is always so much better. Thank you Lysa!!
Thank-you for your blog post today! The scripture that encourages me when I some feel like a mommy-failure is Heb 13:21- He equips me for all I need as a parent 🙂
I rely on these verses for almost everything in my life and I encourage my children to rely on them, also:
Jeremiah 29:11–13
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.”
I rely on two verses –
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
and
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
What a sweet reminder this morning. I had one of those mornings yesterday where my son didn’t move fast enough and kept becoming distracted. I was running behind and I let the situation control my reaction instead of stepping back and taking a deep breath and letting it go. And of course you know what came next. I exploded!! I got to work and spent the day beating myself up, wondering if I was messing up my son. Are these the things he will remember about me? Last night I got home and curled up with my gratitude journal and wrote the verses of truth my brain had forgotten. Jude 1:26-26 and John 16:20 and Acts 2:28. I pray the things he remembers won’t be my faults but the love I have for him and the ways I try even in my failures. How sweet of you Lysa to offer up such sweet gifts to lift our souls when we try to recover from our failure moments.
Colossians 3:12. Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Philipians 4:13 gets me through a lot. But there are times, especially in the mornings that I lose it and don’t think of a verse first. Yesterday morning and this morning I lost it with my daughter. It was her week to go to our neighbors and she was running late, which caused me to run late because I can’t leave the house until she does. But she was moving slow and not listening to me when I asked her to hurry up. So we had an argument which did not help and she left the house mad at me again. She’s 9 and full of attitude, and I did not have God’s Grace today. I need to write down some bible verses and put them on my bathroom mirror, so that I will see them before I face the day and my daughter.
Thank you for your entries about raising kids. Helps me to feel a little less like my life is messed up & helps me to remember that I am not going to be perfect but if I seek out the one who is perfect I gain strength for one more day. I like the verse proverbs 3:5-6. Trust in the Lord….
A beautiful song by City Harbor, “Come However You Are,” based on Matthew 11:28, has been the latest tune from the verse to which I’m clinging. The idea that He loves us and accepts us, and pleads with us to bring it all to Him is humbling, and offers oh, so much relief. I especially like the New Century Version: “Come to Me, all of you who are tired and have heavy load, and I will give you rest.” So when the almost 20-year old texts from his college campus, “Call me” and then says in a very frustrated tone, “Guess what happened to me today,” and unloads his freight (thankfully he felt safe to unload it with me) with information involving an English class, too many absences, and, “Oh, y’all also need to know…” a speeding ticket…” I swallow hard from the Awesome Cup of Grace, and obey My Savior who offers a safe place to lean and an offer to carry it all for me.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
In trying times, a verse never seems to pop into my head, just when I need it most. I have had a couple of pretty stressful days with my child; this post was just what I needed. Thank you, God. And thanks to all of you who commented and left verses. It has given me some measure of comfort reading through them.
Proverbs 15:1 – A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
This reminds me to not discipline in anger, but take the time to calm down, seek God’s wisdom, and then deal with the situation.
Thanks for these words of encouragement. Your messages are always on time. It’s hard being a mom and even harder being a stepmom that is also raising two teenage children.
Oh my word. What a good word. When I had to “invite” my 18 year old son to live elsewhere since he wouldn’t respect my rules, I grabbed onto Isaiah 54…especially v. 10 “Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken, nor my covenant of peace be removed.” And v. 13 “and great will be your children’s peace. You will have nothing to fear.”
So perfectly needed this morning. Prov 3:5-6 And Phil 4:6-7
Thank you, Lysa. Your willingness to be vulnerable and share your “stuff” brings God’s voice straight to my doorstep. Thank you! Isaiah 30:21 is a sweet scripture I depend on not only in parenting, but in every other area of life as well. “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.'” I need continual guidance from the Spirit. What I would choose in my flesh is VERY often the wrong choice.
Totally timely, God does it every time. After reading report cards last week this is exactly how I was feeling “You are a bad mom. You have a bad child. You have a bad home.”
Thanks for reminding me to get my needs met from God and not from what other people think!
My verse: Isaiah 41:10 “Don’t panic. I’m with you. There’s no need to fear, for I’m your God. I’ll give you strength. I’ll help you. I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 (NASB)
And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast [a]about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.
When I am weak, HE IS STRONG!
I needed this! My verse, Prov 3:5-6 is my go to, period. I am parched right now. Struggling. Reading through these other comments and your blog writing down other verses. Thanks ladies!
Oh boy was this timely! My 12 year old son was sent to the office yesterday, after haveing a few hard days already this week! He is such a great kids with a STRONG spirit, but he seems to go through spurts of testing. My go to verse is Romans 8:28. It helps me see that good things are to come from this!
OMG… this could NOT have come at a better time for me! I received the dreaded voice mail last night at 5:30 from the guidance counselor at my child’s school. She needed to speak to me “as soon as possible”! Needless to say, I picked up my cell and called only to get the school hours are from 8-4!!! Yep, that led to a sleepless night. Tossing and turning wondering if what my child told me she did was the truth and nothing but the truth. My child is a “leader” and very “strong willed”…awesome characteristics when you’re old enough to know how and when to use them. At the age of 8, she is using it in “not so sweet” ways. UGH!! Satan immediately jumped on my shoulder and started rambling his garbage in my ear… You’re not a good mom, this is to hard and you can’t do it, she’s far to gone for you to mold now, you were the same way when you were little so this is payback etc. So I took a breather and found Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” God has prepared me in advance for being my child’s mom… if I am in His word and His will daily then I will raise my child the way He prepared me to do so. I’ve got this parenting thing down because HE’S got me! God has called me therefore I AM EQUIPPED!! YES TO GOD!! lol
Thank you Lysa! I refer to Philippians 4:13- I can do all things in Christ who gives me strength.
Gal. 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Being a mommy of 5 boys and one little girl, I unfortunately don’t cry out to my Abba Father for strength and wisdom near enough. It is hard finding that balance of discipline and grace. Thanks for sharing your heart, the good and the bad. I so appreciate your transparency! I pray in His name continued blessings over you, your family, and your ministry!
Romans 12:12. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Lysa The Lord sent the words on your blog just for me today. I sent my son to school discovering he had messed up big in one of his classes and completely blaming myself. Went back to bed defeated and exhausted…woke up and read your email. Thank for these reminders and encouragement
One of my favorite verses is Matthew 11:28-29. “Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest.” I am so very thankful that God is with me in all of this. Thank you.
Psalm 27:3,5,13-14
Though an army may encamp against me, My heart shall not fear; Though war may rise against me, In this I will be confident. For in the time of trouble He shall hide me in His pavilion; In the secret place of His tabernacle, He shall hide me; He shall set me high upon a rock. I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD!
My child is grown and serves the Lord PTL! When he was young probably around 12, we were going through something, that I don’t even remember now, but I cried out to the Lord and He gave me 2 Timothy 1:12b I am not ashamed, for i know who I have believed and am persuaded te He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that Day.
We dedicated our miracle son to the Lord when he was 10 days old. God is faithful and true to His Word.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Lysa, your words are the encouragement I needed today. Sent my son to school feeling like a complete failure due to his mistakes. Thank you for some perspective.
This is a beautiful reminder. I have two children with two very different and individual personalities. I am constantly worrying if I am handling their delicate little personalities as best I can or if I am only agitating it. It’s so hard and such a fine line. Thank you for your honesty. It helps me to realize it’s okay to not be perfect. I laughed out loud about the beaver damn. I can distinctly remember saying something that I shouldn’t have in the midst of one child throwing up in the back seat and they both burst into tears. It’s so scary to be responsible for shaping them.
Lately, the verse that God has put on my heart to pray for my family is Psalm 50:15: “Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver You, and you will glorify Me.” I believe by faith that better days are ahead for us!
I repeat James 1:19…”Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not produce the righteousness of God.”
As a mother of a preteen girl, Prayer and remembering that God is with us and doesn’t give us more than we can bear is what I try to tell myself.
1 Corinthians 10:13: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Prov 3: 5 and 6 tells us to trust in the Lord, not ourselves. As a parent
this is good to know and to practice. We are also to seek Him in all we
do and He will show us the path to take or the direction we need to
follow as we guide our children. We can be the parents we need tto be
with God’s help.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Prov 22:6
I definitely have made tons of mistakes as a Mom, but when I’ve dealt with challenging circumstances with my children, this scripture will come to my mind.
I absolutely internalize when my children make a bad decision or act badly as something I did. I love the verse from Proverbs 14:1 “Wisdom builds her house, but Folly tears hers down with her own hands”. This reminds me that when my children do something wrong I have a choice to help them or to tear them down by lashing out in disappointment or anger. Sometimes that anger and disappointment I am spewing onto them is in myself. I have the choice to help them by building them up when they do wrong or tearing them down. I pray the Lord give me the wisdom to build them up!
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
I rely on Phil 4:13 for sure. But I also remind myself that each of my children are holy and dearly loved. That they are God’s masterpiece. (Eph 2:10) And I usually have to remind myself of Eph 4:29 so that what I say will be good and helpful.
Thank you Lysa, this is exactly what I needed this morning. My “go to” verse is Isiah 26:3 You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, all whose thoughts are fixed on You.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. Prov. 3:5-6
Proverbs 3: 5-6….Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding. In all ways acknowledge him and he will set your paths straight.
My two go-to verses for each of my kids are Isaiah 30:21 for my son and 1 Samuel 16:7 for my daughter. There are certainly others, but these are those I turn to repeatedly. Thanks for your words today!
Thanks Lysa! My favorite verse would be Proverbs 22:6 – “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Although discipline is hard, we know it is for their greater good. This verse encourages me to not give up on my children and not give in to their pleas to follow after the world. Teaching them that we live in the world but are not ‘of’ the world is my mantra! Thanks for the encouragement! This mothering job is not for the faint of heart! Be encouraged my sweet sister!
Thank you so much for your post. I have a daughter who was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and Impulse Control Disorder at the age of 5. She has struggled really hard in school and keeping friends was disaster. She couldn’t keep a friend for very long due to her acting out and anger issues. Her father and I split when she was 3 and has had really no part in her life since she was 7. There have been several times over the last several years where I just didn’t know if I could go on. Her anger was awful to the point where she was hurting me physically as well as emotionally and physically at times and I had nowhere to turn, but to God. There were nights where I curled up in the fetal position and cried and cried wondering if I could ever help her or if I was really cut out to be her mom. I thank Him every day that he sent us down the right path to the right counselor and psychiatrist. As she has grown and matured, things have settled down and the anger and physical violence has ceased. Now, though, she’s 14 and so when you add in the teenage hormones along with her diagnoses, there are very hard days, especially with her school work. There are still days when I’m ready to fall on my knees crying out to God “where did I go wrong”, but thankfully He has helped us both and while our relationship is shaky some days, other days it is strong and I hope and pray it will continue that way as she grows. You’re post reminds me that there are other parents who have the same thoughts and struggle as well and it is always a relief to know you’re not alone. While Isaiah 41:10 is not a specific Bible verse that deals with children, it is one that I have quoted over and over throughout the last 14 years to remind me that when I’m afraid that I’m screwing her up, He is there to hold us and get us through it and it keeps me going. Thank you, again for proving that no parent is perfect. 🙂
Thank you so much for these posts! I have 3 kids under 3. I pray Phil 4:13 a lot during the day.
My go to verse (in almost every situation) is “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. I know this is so commonly used, but it just sums it all up.
Lysa, I just have to tell you, your blogs and books are so right on the money. All of the stories you tell about your life as a mother and wife I can so relate to, I could just change the names and many of them could be my story. I look forward to reading your blogs and truly feel inspired to be a better Christian after reading them. Thank you!!
Wow~ needed that… two upper aged teens who are thinkin’ they ‘know it all’ yet still are clueless in so many areas.. working on balancing grace and truth!
I like the verse- 1 Corinthians 10:13: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
It reminds me that they are just flesh and-hello!- so am I, so why do I expect them to act differently even though I’ve taught them good stuff. Do I always ‘obey’ just because I know the ‘chapter and verse’ that tells me to do, not to do, something??!
God bless your ministry~
I don’t have any specific verses, but every night when I lay my little guy down to sleep, I ask God to keep him safe and to fill his heart with only good things!
They you, Lysa. What a comfort to know I am not alone in feeling like I’m a bad mom! My life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” I also rely on Ephesians 1:16-17: “I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.” And Ephesians 4:29: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Psalm 139:14 “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Words to remind my teenage son that even though he messed up he is still fearfully and wonderfully made.
The verses that I currently have posted in my kitchen are Ephesians 4:1-2:
“Walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love.”
As the mother of a busy toddler boy and a newborn baby girl, I need to be reminded of the truth in these verses often! We usually think of showing tolerance and gentleness and patience to our fellow believers, but I believe as mothers we need to extend that to our children!
Honestly, I forget every scripture I know when my 8 year old daughter pushes every button I have. After, I don’t feel qualified for the job as her mom or that I am parenting her the way God wants. I am humbled often in my relationship with her. I am on my knees and asking forgiveness from God and her a lot.
Thank you so much for this reminder. Even when I know that my daughter has made a decision on her own, so many times I try to take ownership of it and say it was my fault. Nice to know that others do the same and that we have a heavenly father that we can turn to and remind us who we are and give us his word for direction.
“Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart, and LEAN NOT on your own understanding. In ALL your ways SUBMIT to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” ~ Proverbs 3:5-6 Breathe in…repeat TRUST…breathe out…let go of self-righteousness…breathe in… repeat SUBMIT…breathe out…let go of my way…breathe in…repeat straight paths… breathe out…let go of crooked path. “He must increase, but I must decrease.” John 3:30 Parenting keeps me humble and totally reliant on God. Thankful for the privilege!
Luke 18:1
ALWAYS pray & Do NoT lose heart
Lysa, I remember a lot of years back a friend was over and we were sharing with each other the problems we were having and she asked for my Bible and she just let it open and it open to Philippians 4. That chapter has so much, that is my go to when troubles arrive and my mind starts with all the things that I’m NOT.
Ugh! I have a 17 year old, need I say much more? He actually is a great kid just lacks discipline. He gives up so easily and quits instead of working harder.
Phillippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me.
Thank you for this post:-)
Lysa…I am a single mom…I so often tell myself that I am a bad mom. I can’t do this single mom thing and I want to throw in the towel. I shed many tears and come unglued with my kids…so hard for me but then the Holy Spirit reminds me that the enemy puts those thoughts in my mind. And I CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phil 4:13 When I was going through my divorce and wondering how I could live another day…God kept giving me the same scripture you give us today. Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God. Thank you for your words of encouragement today. Love ya Lysa!
I truly believe Prov. 22:6, Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Also Prov. 3:5-6, Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. I pray for each of my children that each have a close relationship with Jesus and they make good decisions each day. I also am blessed to pray for my grandsons, age 3 and 5. Thanks Lysa, The eyes of the Lord are everywhere!
Thanks for a great post and precious reminder. Just last night I was at a Bible study and tried to help others understand that our identity has to be in Christ and as mothers we cannot allow ourselves to be defined by the choices our children make but only by who we are in Christ.. Verses that have helped me through some rough (divorce, addiction) times when my children’s choices were so very painful (and dare I say shameful) are: 2 Timothy 1:12..for I know whom I have believed and am convinced that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to Him for that day” and Psalm 56:3 “when I am afraid, I will trust in Thee”. Also the knowledge that “He causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” Romans 8:28. Who would have dreamed that my son’s meth addiction would lead to a jail/prison ministry for me? BTW, that same son is gloriously free today in Christ.
Luke 7:47, “I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven.” Because I often struggle with the thought, “how can I be a good, godly mom with a past like I have?” But because God’s forgiven me and declared me righteous through His Son I am a new creation; one who is not defined by my sin.
Also, James 1:19, “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” Because controlling my anger and really listening to my children is a daily struggle for me. Although, it’s one I’ve seen God grow me in leaps and bounds from where I was even a year ago.
Thank you Lysa for your godly honesty and for being real with your readers!
My daughter got in trouble at school 3 times last week, after the last call from the principal all I knew to do was turn it over to God. One of my favorite verses is 1 Corinthians 10:13
The verse that recently gave me peace is Job 12:10 (NIV) “In His hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind”. The message version reads ” God is Sovereign, and He holds all things in His Hand! “. These verses have been such a comfort to me as a mom. I think they more spoke to me about not trying to control situations that my 3 boys (ages 15,18 & 21) face. Allowing them to make their choices and learning to TRUST in God and let Him do His work in them. I’ve been learning to put my HOPE more in Christ than in their choices … good and bad.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength! Definetly, I have a four year old that tries me everyday!! I love him with all my heart but he is very stubborn and your blog posts hit home with me. Thank you for making me feel like a better mother!
I actually have never thought of having a go to verse for handling situations with my child. I love the idea! I am choosing 2 Corinth.1:21-22 and I have changed it a bit to add her name in to make it personal – In Christ God has chosen (my child) as His own and made her strong. He has placed His mark on her, He has placed His Spirit in her heart as a guarantee for all he has promised .
Thank you for this wonderful idea. Now I will always be reminded of whose daughter she is first and the great plans He has for her.
I realized only just this year that I WAS CALLED to be a parent. I had this nagging question for the longest time “God, what is my purpose in this life, what have you called me to do?” and then one day, it was as clear as could be….duh!!! I was called to be the best mom I could be to an amazing young girl who is now 14. I was called to train her up in the word….to tell her of my past mistakes and to show her, explain to her, impress upon her all the reasons why seeking Christ is so important and why remaining in him all the days of her life would ultimately SAVE her life. When things are tough I think about Gal 6:9….and God’s reminder to me to not give up. In our lives as parents, we are not only teaching the Gospel….but we are called to live it out. When we fail, they see us seek God for direction. When we struggle, they see us in prayer and petition giving thanks to God for all things, blessings and trials alike. When we rejoice, they see our faces and hands lifted up in praise. And when we forget how to do those things, our precious little ones never waste a moment to remind us of what we have taught them….. 🙂 All the more reason to never give up.
As the mother of young triplets, I constantly beat myself up about doing wrong stuff – losing my temper or a kid being sent home from school for biting or working a late night. But God has increasingly given me peace, given me rest knowing He loves them and is caring for them. I often quote my kids life verses b/c they help me in those moments too. Sam’s is Proverbs 3:1-5, Lillie’s is Phillipians 1:3-11 , and Will’s is Colossians 1:9-12.
Oh, how sweet it is to be reminded of that amazing grace that God gave us through Jesus! I am so thankful that His blood is my righteousness, everyday, every hour, every time I fail Him. To God be all Glory. This motherhood thing is the wildest, hardest, most sanctifying experience EVER! My sons, who are created by God with such strong and passionate personalities, are constantly giving me a chance to put today’s challenge into practice. My I always take it to the Lord in prayer, before I act or speak. 🙂 One of my favorite verses for parenting strength is Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” May God grant us the eyes to see our lives and our children from His perspective!
I love IS 40:11, which says He shall feed his flock like a Shepherd: He shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young. God is with me throughout this parenting journey and he is strong enough to lead me & is faithful when I am weak!
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:2-4
I try to remember that during trials it’s both my child and me that God is working on and He loves us enough to get us through anything. His outcome is always good when we lean on Him. To go along with that one…
“Rejoice Always, pray continually, give thanks in All circumstances; for this is God’s will for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
During any trial we always work to find something about the situation to be thankful for. That can be hard at the time but so worth it. I have had a few moments where I’ve told God that I just can’t see any good coming from this situation but thank Him anyway for whatever we’re going through because I trust His plan for us.
I have a kiddo with special needs and he often finds himself in a situation where he has not made a good choice. It’s so hard not to take a hit to my own self worth and feel like I’ve failed. It’s very easy to slip into feeling sorry for myself and angry at God for ‘doing this to him, to us’. I use many verses about God’s love for us and trials at these times…but the one that I try to drill in my head is John 9:3 “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.” It’s a good reminder to me that it’s bigger than me or my son…God is using us and our situation to show those around us His grace and mercy in times of trial and tribulation. Doesn’t mean it isn’t going to stink sometimes though. 😉
Kristen, I never thought of that verse in the context of a special needs child, but it is PERFECT! :o)
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
The Joy of the Lord is my Strength.
The Lord is my rock, and my salvation, whom shall I fear.
I trust in your unfailing love. I trust in your unfailing love. My heart rejoices in your salvation, I trust in your unfailing love.
My favorite verse is “Everything is posible for those who believe.” Mark 9:23…I am a single mom with a daughter who wants to be a boy…I love her no matter what…It is hard to see her not be whom God created her to be—God keeps reminding me to leave it to Him. He is my husband and Father who will handle this. And I feel that she will be able to reach out to other children struggling with this same issue. After all–God made all things–and raised His own son from the grave…He can do things I can only imagine about.
I would have to say Proverbs 1:8-9. This post was much needed! I am currently attending counseling sessions and we talked about this same topic last night. We need to remember as long as we are setting a good example for our children, the will overcome life’s difficulties. All people make mistakes and we must always remain fucosed on The Lord for support.
Lysa, thank you!
I am often reminded that I am not perfect and that I need to be willing to humble myself. Last week I found myself in the hospital with a life threatening blood clot that started in a vein just below my belly button and ended just above my ankle. Thankfully God blessed the doctors and surgeons with the skill to surgically remove most of the clot. However, I am now home with several restrictions that keep me dependent on others for help. I am the mother of two boys (ages 13 and 8) and the wife of a soldier in the army. I take care of our home and our children so that my husband can do his soldier duties and study (he is studying to be a pastor). So now I am home, unable to lift anything over 5lbs (do you know how much a basket full of laundry weights?), restricted in exercise and needing to rely on my children and husband to help me with things I have always just done. There is nothing more frustrating than relying on a 13 year old to do something that I would normally do with out thinking and then getting frustrated because it wasn’t done the way I would have done it. God is teaching me a great deal of patience and humility. I have had to apologize more than once to my children because my frustration turns into temper. My pride gets the better of me and I find myself selfishly complaining about my circumstances rather than enjoying the blessings my husband and children receive by taking care of me.
I am reminded of Psalms 51:10-12. “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.” As the doctors told me what I could and could not do I felt my heart fill with despair and discouragement and when I came home and found that my body would not allow me to do anything more than what the doctors told me I could do, my heart filled with frustration and elevated my stress levels. So when my dear sweet boys didn’t do things the way I wanted them done or behaved like normal 8 and 13 year old boys who don’t always think before they do, I found myself reacting in a not so loving way. I need to remember to ask forgiveness (asking my children to forgive me is never easy and always humbling) and seek out a willing spirit and allow myself to enjoy the joyfulness of God’s love so that even in the midst of health complications I can enjoy God’s peace. I am a loved child of God.
Oh Melody – I will be praying for you. I completely relate to your post. I had a stroke due to blood clot this year and it was a completel uphieval of life as I had known it. I can relate to the disappointment of not being able to do things you have always done. I can also relate to being frustrated with your children and husband. God has really been guiding me through this season of life and I pray He will do the same for you. One thing to remember is to keep your eyes on Him – seek Him every single day and ask Him to pull you through. He will… He is faithful. I can honestly say that I KNOW there were many days that I could not have gotten through without the strength that comes from trusting and believing God. He allowed me to be in a situation where I HAD to rely on Him and I’m so glad He did. HE GOT ME THROUGH and He will you as well. Don’t be too hard on yourself and continue to pray for strength, healing and patience. I do this for myself as well.
May God bless you and allow you to see blessings from this season of your life as well.
Both of our sweet boys are questioning their faith (or perhaps at this point just trying to ignore it – boys don’t often share their inner hearts) . . . and despite being raised in a Christian home and school, with parents who loved on ’em, read scripture with them, took them on family mission trips, emphasized the relationship with Jesus . . prayed with them and for them, and I’m sure messed up many times . . . now they are older teens and are no longer interested in God. Especially in the beginning, the Accuser would come to my husband and I and whisper that we messed up somehow, we failed . . . My scripture I cling to is this: Matthew 18:12-14 What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go in search of the one that went astray? And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray. So it is not the will of my Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.” It is a tough journey to walk, esp. as our close friends’ children continue to walk closely with the Lord. I chose not to play the comparison game, but trust that our sons’ story hasn’t been written yet. Thanks so much for your encouragement each day. God will take our brokenness, and use it for good.
My son is one so we are just now getting to the beginning of some disciplining. My favorite this year is 1 Thess 5:16-18 ” Be joyful always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
The verse I lean on when I’m angry is Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
When I simply don’t know what to pray over my kids is 1 Peter 5:10-11 And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast, To Him be the power forever and ever. Amen.
When I checked email this morning, my purpose was to email my 14 yo’s teacher and read this first. I will now go in with a softer heart and be willing to listen
Thank you,
TinaW 🙂
When I get frustrated dealing with my amazing, yet strong-willed, children (14 yo daughter and 8 yo son), I am reminded of my dependence on God through Jeremiah 29:12-13: “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
Psalm 91:14….“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
I’ve raised 3 wonderful daughters (2 of them twins) and there were many days I needed someone to give me a little support just to get me through “those” days. I now have my first grandson and want to give my daughter that support I didn’t have. This gift would be a tremendous help to her. The above verse is what I’ve prayed for most anything….I know because He loves me He will guide and protect me and my family through any trial. Thank you Lysa for your encouraging words to young mothers.
Lately I’ve been studying James. Though he doesn’t mince words, it has been has been encouraging to me…to be sure that I am seeking wisdom from Christ and not the world…and knowing that trials produce perseverance. Even the little (and big) daily things with my kids… Thanks for your words today. Much needed encouragement!
Be still ……and know that I am God.
Thank God for your words today.
“I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future Jer. 23 11”
“I can do ALL things thru Christ Jesus ”
I’m also in your Crave class Thank you for both these books I’m on a new mission not to beat myself up daily in these areas I feel like I’m failing.
you are a true inspiration to me .
Thank you .
Thank you. Today I needed to hear this as I do life with my almost 3 year old daughter & 2 month old son. My daughter and I are constantly experiencing growth opportunities as she is testing her boundaries and dealing with the frustration of a new brother.
The verse I remind myself of during the day is
“Do everything in love” 1 Cor. 16:14
Proverbs 24:16: “For the righteous falls seven times and rises again…” I find so much comfort that the RIGHTEOUS fall. No one is perfect, has it all together, we all make mistakes, we all have our own weaknesses, but we have a God who allows us to stand uncondemned before Him because we are clothed in Jesus’ righteousness. So, when I have a bad mommy moment and my ugly is out there for my children and anyone else to see, I can confess, repent and get right back up again and God considers me righteous. Amazing.
Parent-Teacher conference was Monday for my 1st grade boy. He is struggling in all areas. He is a smart kid, i know it. This is the verse that came to my mind as his teacher was rattling off all of the negative things about my precious son…
“God uses the foolish things of the world to confound the wise.”
Then I went home and prayed and said “and this, too, shall pass.”
When my 10 yr old daughter brought progress report home, and her A is now a C. Yes, instant emotions on myself and her. Trying to give some independance to her and a teenage girl. A fine line. I tell myself, then each of them after a crushing blow of something. We are sealed by the holy spirit. I am sealed through Christ. Helps to say ok this is a bump and look at the bigger picture of always Loved and always in Christ’s family!
Thank you for what you wrote today. What really hit me was “God sees within me the ability to be the one He’s perfectly designed to raise up this child”. Such an awesome thought and very encouraging. I have 3 children under 3, and feel like a terrible mom at some point throughout each day. Philippians 4:4-9 would be what comes to mind for me – to rejoice in the Lord always, to come to Him in prayer and thanksgiving, knowing His peace will guard my heart and mind, to think about pure and lovely and excellent things.
The verse I rely on is Proverbs 15:1: A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Thank you, Lysa, for your honesty on your blog and the artful way you put your words together–I love reading you!
Philipians 4:13 is my go to verse.
Wow, did I need to read your post this morning. I have a first grader that has a very hard heart towards others. She is extremely critical of other children and it is now causing her to have a difficult time making friends. I am praying daily, multiple times a day, for God to change her heart and soften her heart towards others. Never did I think I would be dealing with this as a mom. It is so hard not to think of myself as a complete failure when seeing the attitude she has about others. I often go to the same Phillipians verse others have mentioned, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength”.
lysa, this JUST happened to me Monday!! thanks so much for addressing these issues that all of us deal with. it encourages me and equips me to see situations for how they really are instead of how I perceive them 🙂
I truly believe this: Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Although they will not be perfect as they are human… they will remember (hopefully sooner than later) if they were “trained” to love God and turn to Him.
I feel like I mess up daily! I’ve read your book and loved it. I need to read it again!!! Phillipians 4:6 don’t worry about anything but pray about everything…..
When my teens make unwise choices, I fall into Psalm 23. God is their shepherd too. God will lead them out of this “valley of the shadow of death” in his time. I thank God for calming my heart and giving me a safe place of rest, his arms. Then I pray for my child’s “valley” to be short and shallow. Isn’t it wonderful to trust that God is working constantly in my children’s lives! I am not the architect, just a worker.
Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ Jesus, who strengthens me.”
Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”
Proverbs 31.26 “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness if on her tongue.”
I like Proverbs 22:6 Everyone makes mistakes, and children that grow up in a Christian home will have a good foundation for later in life. I’m Catholic and I had to actually Google some verses to find one that I remembered. I’m learning so much just from the comments. I’ve heard all of these but don’t know where to find them in the Bible.
I have 9 children so I have had plenty of opportunities to feel like a failure! With 6 of them on their own (and doing well) I am amazed that the last 3 seem to be the most challenging. (I blame the other 6… I tell them they wore me out.) My heart continuously runs to Psalm 120:1-2… “I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord who made heaven and earth.” It helps to realize that the one who simply spoke the entire universe into being can surely help me with the children He formed as well.
I remind myself of Psalm 127.3 “Children are a heritage from The Lord…” and pray for wisdom
to raise them to seek God first when they make choices. My DD is 15 and my boys are 11, 8, and 6. I feel like a failure sometimes but God is always there to put His bandaid on my heart. It is then I know I’m doing my best.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. This verse is a reminder to me to keep trying because my kids are looking to me for traiing and while none of us are perfect I can rely on my Heavenly Father to help me to raise them for the life He has destined them to have. We may all fall from time to time but God will serve as the basis of our life.
I am reading unglued as part of a bible study and I keep reminding myself to beg Jesus to make me humble and gentle when I’m about to come unglued.
James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
I ask for wisdom to know how to handle the situation….and I’m working on the not coming unglued part…..
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
The Lord knows the paths we will take, including my son’s. He knows the choices he will make good and bad. But through all these choices both his and my own, the Lord will use them for Good. And, He will weave them into His plan for our lives. This I hold onto whether it’s my trials or my sons. God is good, He is faithful.
My kids are older, 17-24, and if we disagree after discussing something I use Hebrews 11:6 – But without faith it impossible to please Him, for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. I encourage them to really pray about the issue and be open to what the Lord may show them. At the same time, I will also pray about it and be open to whatever the Lord may need to teach me as well!
I have made many parenting mistakes with my kids. Most of them because I was trying to avoid conflict with my husband, as well as my kids. I’ve learned to be more honest in dealing with issues, but I still struggle with trying to stuff things, where the SON don’t shine! I know God knows my heart and my motives have always been love, even if I am misunderstood or ignored. The Scripture I return to many times is I Peter 4:8 -“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” and Isaiah 26:3 – “You will keep in complete peace, all who trust in You. All whose thoughts are fixed on You.” Thank you Lysa for your Spirit led words – they connect to my heart needs.
I am a mother of two little girls, ages 3.5 and 5 years old. In moments of weakness and when I feel like I’m about to explode I turn to proverbs 22:6 and also Phillipians 4:13- I remind myself that HE is in control and that I am too raise them up so that they will not wander from HIM and that I can do all things in HIM who gives me strength! Parenting is the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done and also the most challenging. I feel so blessed to be a parent and that God entrusted me with two sweet (well…most of the time), little girls! Thank you Lysa for this post, for your blog and for your encouraging words!
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Also, ” cast all my cares on Him for He cares for me.” God has to totally carry me everyday as a mom. My tolerance level can be nonexistence at times. I am embarrassed to admit that, but so true. Without God, my poor kids and me would be a dysfunctional mess.
HI Lysa!
A verse that really helps me as a mom with this wrath I’ve got inside me, that likes to roar when I’m just depleted:
“…be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for a man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” James 1:19-20.
Thanks!
Jules
My go to verses are “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness” Proverbs 31:26
“Lead me in the right path O Lord, or my enemies will concour me, Make your way plain for me to follow” Psalm 5:8
Wow! I did need to know that there are other mamas out there who have felt the same way I have over my children’s behavior. I have stolen away too but by myself, not with Jesus, and it accomplished nothing. Now it is easier, almost instinctive, to steal away with Him and talk about it. Still learning, still leading but now I am not doing it alone!!
My girls are grown now, which is not to say there aren’t still “parenting” issues of some kind but they are adults now and my job is give Motherly advice (when asked for it) now.
My oldest daughter got pregnant at 15 1/2 and our family verse became Romans 8:28.
My own personal verse that has always gotten me through is (paraphrased) But By the Grace of God … 1 Corinthians 15:10.
Thanks for your continued openness about your own struggles and how God helps you through.
The first verse that came to mind in response to the question posed was this:
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Phil. 4:13 (ESV)
Isaiah 43:2 is one of my favs. Repeating I’m a child of a really good daddy helps too!
My life verse is Proverbs 3 5-6. Trust in The Lord with all your heart lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and He will direct your path.
My daughters are hearing impaired and wear hearing aids. They are in mainstream public schools. As I fight for IEP’s to be implemented, I rely on “His power to be made perfect in their weakness”- it is my promise from Him.
I have had many traumatic events that I could not control that shook the very core of my family. As a mom I feel I have to protect & Satan temps me by his lies that if I were a good mom I should of have seen flags or should have done more. I have to remind myself that false guilt does not gain anything yet will do more harm than ever. I have to admit people have free will & make choices & that I can not control, I can only pray for them. The verses that have helped me the most are Isaiah 49:17-18 “Your children will soon return to you, & the people who defeated you & destroyed you will leave. Look up & look around you. All your children are gathering to return to you The Lord says, as surely as I live, your children will be like jewels that a bride wears proudly.” They need to fail to grow in their beauty & wisdom by learning so I have to remind myself also to be courageous to trust God rather than step on his toes while teaching them so I recite Joshua 1:9 Be strong & courageous , do not be afraid or discouraged for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go .That always allows me to muster up my faith to defeat the enemy in that moment.
I have to be honest that I can’t identify a specific verse from the Bible that I use to be a better parent, but I know overall that I must rely on God and His word to help me with raising my daughters. I hope to learn more wisdom from your book while enjoying a cup of Starbucks 😉
I love the verse in Joshua 1:9 “Be strong and courageous!” Of course I’m not crossing the Jordan, but, some days it feels like it! I need courage to strengthen my resolve and be the mom my kids ‘need,’ not the mom they ‘want.’
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Hi Lysa, I think the verses that The Lord has used over and over to comfort me in times of “seeming” failure as a mom are Proverbs 24:16 where The Lord says a just or (redeemed) person falls 7 times and then rises up and also the verse about casting all our care upon The Lord because He cares for me! (1 Peter 5:7) I guess I’ve always been able to rationalize that even though I’m far from a perfect parent, the only answers I have are from scripture and I will rest in that. That truly is the bottom line. I know I’ve failed many times, and I’m probably going to again…my children are now 22, 19, 17, and 14 and this is an exciting time in my life as I homeschool them (2 of them) and work and go to school myself! (It’s pure craziness actually! Not to mention we’re church planters in Las Vegas and that’s ALWAYS exciting) But, God is with me every day encouraging me and hugging on me when it’s not like I had hoped or dreamed in this stage of life. I’m so thankful to know him. Thank you for the opportunity to comment. Hopefully it will encourage another. ~ Tammy
My kids are truly a gift He has given me – to mold me and MY faith while creating, teaching, influencing and molding theirs. So many times I just don’t know what to do as a parent. Should I step in & fix it for them or let them feel the pain? Am I teaching them what they need and giving them good habits? Am I showing them how to trust in God? I often recite (beg, plead) Psalm 143:10 in my parenting related prayers and trust God to teach me and lead me! —Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground.
Galatians 6:9 do not get tired of doing what is right….for we will reap a harvest of blessing AT THE APPROPRIATE TIME. (Emphasis mine.). I have recited this to myself many times.
There are many verses to give strength. I really needed to hear this!! I have raised my children and am now raising grandchildren. I is still hard. Children are so rebellious and needy now days. I pray I can always show them love and the love of Christ at ALL times. Thanks so much for sharing, Lysa!!!
Proverbs 3:5-6
I usually refer to Jer. 29:11 because I know God has a plan for me and He has a plan for each of my children. Whatever we are facing I know that ultimately He will guide us along the path to fulfill that plan. I also think about the situation Esther was in….”for such a time as this”. I think that we go through certain things for certain reasons and at certain times.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Is 30:15
This is what the sovereign Lord the holy one of Israel says, “In repentance and rest is your salvation in quietness trust is your strength.”
For my kids and myself God is gracious. In fact this scripture goes on to say when we do things in our own will and strength He “longs to be gracious to you to rise and show compassion “
I actually don’t rely on scripture enough and really appreciate your blog today and all the comments. I sit here crying after yelling at my children yet again today and wondering why I don’t have it more together.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!” I also remember His promises that He will not give me more than I can handle. If He has called me, He will equip me!
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight
I love that you quote it in your post, Psalm 46:10 has been a go to verse for me for years, even before I had my girls. My other favorites are Galations 5:22-23, the fruit of the Spirit, and Romans 12:12 “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction and faithful in prayer.” They help to calm me and reset my focus from the world to God.
Exodus 14:14 The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace.
I used this soooo many times when my daughter was a teenager, to remind myself that sometimes my many words don’t help. You must allow them to learn their own lessons, and trust that God is always fighting for your child.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
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When I feel that I cannot control my 18-year-old daughter who is a good girl but who; as you said so wisely, makes not so sweet choices I like to think about this psalm “Remember not the sins of my youth and my rebellious ways; according to your love remember me, for you are good, O Lord.” -Psalm 25:7 because I was also quite rebellious when I was young and often I have to ask God for forgiveness from mistakes I made when I was much younger. I try to remember my daughter for the unconditional love I feel for her and I hope one day she will also claim my forgiveness for all the pain she has caused us. Caty
Thank you for this series. The book looks good too. It’s a message we all need to hear.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath.” I’ve used this many times with my stubborn angry child. 🙂
What came to mind for me is Hebrews 12:5-6. “My son, do not make light of The Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because The Lord disciplines those he loves.” He is an amazing God!!
I have to honestly say I don’t have a specific verse that I rely on, however, I do read your books and blogs as I feel you and I are walking the same path. I would love to now read this book while sipping my latte and relaxing with the scented candle and see what other words of wisdom you have to pass along.
I have a disibility ( paralysis on my left side). My 5 year old has learned to be very independent. I am unable to help dress her. She pretty much has learned to do everything on her own. It can frustrating at times. The scripture I run to that always floods my spirit is Romans 15:13- May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
I have to say with raising four children there is not just one verse I use but many to help me through my longgg days. But one I hold on to in my heart is ” I have no greater joy then to hear that my children walk in truth” 3rd john 4 I am thankful for the encouragement from strangers and friends that comment to me about my children being well behaved and when impressed with how they act. It is such an encouragement I can use on the days that seem like I am failing at everything I have taught them and I have to remember if I keep teaching them the truth then it will all come together that’s a promise from God. And one day I will see the fruit of my seeds. Praise God!
Thank you for this post. My favorite verse is ‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and he will make your paths straight.’ Proverbs 3:5-6. I think about this verse a lot when parenting. On my own my paths are crooked and totally messed up, but with God by my side He can make those paths look pretty great!
Thank you for your encouraging words! I’m a mom of 5 children, and have been called many times to the principles office. Sitting there listeneing to the ‘list of offensives’ is so discouraging! It’s not a bible verse but I heard a song recently that says “i breathe in your grace, breathe out your praise”. Thinking of this reminds me that our words need to be carefully chosen to build up and not tear down our children even when they have done wrong.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Thank you for your series. I so need it right now in my life. I have 3 children and 2 are very strong willed. It is such a challenge to keep being strong and molding them the right way.
The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. Psalm 103:8 I need his patience, just as my children need mine.
Lamentations 3:22-24
The faithful love of the Lord never ends!
His mercies never cease.
Great is his faithfulness;
his mercies begin afresh each morning.
I say to myself, “The Lord is my inheritance;
therefore, I will hope in him!”
What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31
What a word, Lysa! I just told my husband last week how much of a failure I feel in my parenting! I’m a girl praying for wisdom constantly.
The verses I love are Proverbs 2:1-8 “…if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you look for it as silver and search for it as hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom, and from His mouth come knowledge and understanding. He holds victory in store for the upright, He is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for He guards the course of the just and protects the way of His faithful ones.”
This post came just at the right time. I was having a bit of pity party today after picking my son up from school. Thank you for reminding me that his heart needs shaping and that God thinks that I am the woman for the job 🙂 Genesis 50:20 has been a good verse to help me keep things in perspective. It says, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Thanks for sharing your struggles!
I lean on 2 scriptures that give me hope in tough situations with my two daughters. Jeremiah 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you declares The Lord, plans to prosper, not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future
I love this verse and the verses that follow because this is the Lord’s love for me. He also wants to do this same thing for my child. God cares even more for my child than I can. This verse helps me to give them back to him, trusting he has good plans for them.
The verse that comes to mind is Lamentations 3:22-23
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
I lead a Mommy Bible study and we are going through your book Unglued right now and it is so so good and encouraging. None of us are alone in the trenches. We have other mom’s and most importantly God. Thank you for your books and your raw honesty.
Hi, i feel so understood and encouraged when i read your articles! Thank you so much! When i have hard times with my kids, i love to recall me Galatians 6:9 : “And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.”
And i try to trust God that he already has his plan to shape this or that character issue of my kids, now or later, but on the right time he’ll make it happen! 🙂
i love your blog, thank you so much for sharing all what you share! Blessings
Thank you for your post, it made me cry. I have been in such a hard place as a mom of three boys, so discouraged to be in the continuous battle mentally and literally, wanting to be a Godly mom but reacting out of my flesh. At times I find it so hard to even read the scriptures to be quite honest, when I get so overwhelmed by hard circumstances in parenting…but the verses that I rely on are…
“…be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
I appreciate your post, it made me feel human and reminded me again the desperate need I have for my Saviors help.
Jeremiah 29:11 for sure!
Thank you for writing another great book! I’m looking forward to getting a copy of my own:)
Gal 6:9: So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.
Thanks for a great giveaway!
Fun giveaway! James 1:19–My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation. Proverbs 3:3-4
“I can do ALL things through Christ who gives me strength” Phillippians 4:13 Being a Mom can be so tiring and exhausting. This verse really helps me on those hard days with my 3 and 6 year olds!
Proverbs 3: 5-6
Also pray, a lot 🙂
The verse that I cling to right now is
Matthew 11:28-30
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
I have a 6 1/2 month old son who is a very happy and content baby, but also very active. I need to be reminded that Christ has the biggest shoulders and can handle my burdens and worries more than I can. 🙂 Thank you for this blog
Philippians 4:13 I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me is one that both my 14 year old and I are clinging to right now. I am a 60 yr old mom had this precious 3rd daughter when I was 46. God is good and He will give us both the strength that we need for each day – even when relationships get messy.
2 Timothy 1:7
King James Version (KJV)
7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
I think the failure for me is rooted in fear that I am the one messing up. Whether its my two year old baby or my 2nd graders misbehaving in the hallway. I have to constantly remind myself that fear doesn’t come from God!
Lamentations 3:22-23
22 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
I can really beat myself up, and this verse reminds me that God does not wake me with accusations but with mercy.
Jeremiah 29:11 is my favorite go to.
1Thes 5:11 – always about encouraging in our family!
Proverbs 22:6
I struggle with this daily. Can’t understand where my doubts come from
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I need to hear that on everyday when I am dealing with my daughter who is very strong willed and testing me at every turn and my teenage son. (deep breath)
And God said, I’ll be with you… ~Exodus 3:12
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
I try to remember that “I can do ALL things through Christ” and I need to “Train up my child in His ways so my children do not depart from it”
Matthew 11:28-30
Amplified Bible (AMP)
28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will [a]ease and relieve and [b]refresh [c]your souls.]
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest ([d]relief and ease and refreshment and [e]recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls.
30 For My yoke is wholesome (useful, [f]good—not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
Philippians 4:8…especially the first part…”Finally bretheren whatsoever things are TRUE”. True means real and honest. I often forget this when dwelling on myself instead of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Recalling this verse helps me look at an event and see the situation clearly. What is my goal? What is my ultimate goal? How can I handle this particular situation in a way that supports my ultimate goal?
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10
Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
And also:
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
I needed to hear this today! This verse came to mind when you asked. I seem to worry a lot! “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34 NIV)
I am honestly knew to my faith so I do not have a verse to share. I just wanted to thank you for this. I just had an issue with my son the other day and instantly to the “I’m a horrible mom” place. I really appreciate your words.
Deut 11:18
“Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.”
I find with my children that it is caught and not so much taught. This is important because we choose to homeschool. I need to have His word in my very being to be half the parent I want to be and need to be. It needs to be seen by my actions, my thoughts, my motives…as clear as if they were tied to my head and arm!
I try to always remind myself to be “quick to listen and slow to anger.” Hard to do sometimes when your 5-year old is ignoring you for the third time. But bless her, she’s five. Love everything you do for us, Lysa!
Psalm 19:14 May the words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.
As I read this, my son came home to hand me the note stating he has in school suspension. Yes, I relate oh so well. My go to scripture “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake. “(Ecclesiastes 7:20 GNTD). Because even I make mistakes that have consequences.
Love them thru it, and guide them.
Deuteronomy 6! <3
The verse I go to is Jeremiah 29:11 for sure!! He has GREAT plans for my daughter’s life and I am a tool that He is using to shape her into the great future He has for her.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up the child in the way he should go.
Although I struggle in the parenting area, this verse is how I relate all of my discipline.
You know I don’t have verses specific for my kids, but I think I should get some. Thanks for the giveaway and I will be on the lookout for scripture that I can pray 🙂
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
It reminds me the struggles with my children have lasting affects on their lives! That I am investing in their futures and hopefully helping them become better followers of Christ!
It helps me to remember that they are little sinners saved by grace, just like I am. And that there is no “perfect formula” to produce a godly young adult.
Only fear the Lord and serve him in truth, for consider what great things he has done for you. 1 Sam 12:24
I have acouple that I have printed out and posted in my kitchen…They help me when I am the most frustrated and need reminding of who is in charge…
Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin: Do not let the sun go down on your wrath”
(if we have a “growth opportunity”, we work it out before bed so that we don’t have it lingering…)
Psalm 103:8 “The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.”
(Reminds me that if God can deal with people who disobey Him daily, and still show mercy and not get angry fast, then I can do it with three soon to be four little ones)
Psalm 55:22 ” Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.”
(when our “growth opportunities” seem to be alittle too much I know I can shoot up a prayer and relax and wait for cooler heads to prevail)
Psalm 103:11-12″ For as the heavens are as high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”
(Even when I screw up, I know that because of God’s gift, I am forgiven and I can move on and try again)
I have been using Phil 4:13 to help my son who is struggling in 1st grade. It helps me with the same situation too. We are a team and we are in this together 🙂
There are so many wonerdful verses here. I try to remember 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and Philippians 4:8
My husband and I just started doing foster care a couple months ago and I’ve been struggling with it lately because of so much drama that has been happening with the case:(y biggest verse that gets me through things with our foster child is Jeremiah 29:11! I feel like even though bio mom may not approve of God and like that I’m trying to do nothing but good for her child, God knows the plans He has for that little boy and right now may be the only time he gets God as a part of his young life until he is old enough to make decisions for himself. I pray that when he does get older, that he will make those right decisions! I wonder at times if we’re making the mistake with our own kids by bringing in such drama by trying to do what we feel God is calling us to do (taking care of His orphans). It’s been difficult, and with that said… I would love to win a copy of your book to be encouraged:) thanks for this opportunity!
I love Ephesians 4:29 and have it posted on the wall in my bathroom, right above the sink!
New King James Version (NKJV)
29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.
I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Phil. 4:13
I needed this blog post today! My verses are Philippians 4:6-13
There are so many wonerdful verses here. I try to remember 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and Philippians 4:8.
Matthew 18:10 Beware that you do not despise or feel scornful toward or think little of one of these little ones, for I tell you that in heaven their angels always are in the presence of and look upon the face of My Father Who is in heaven.
Children are learning, growing and are in fact human. They make mistakes just like us and it is up to us to make sure they see the mistakes, ask for forgiveness and learn from them.
“Raise up a child in the way he should go, and he will not depart from it.” …and pray a “latte” (love me some Starbucks!)
Psalm 56:3 When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
Galatians 6:9…”Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
I look so forward to your posts on Facebook. You deliver such real mom & woman moments and connect them with wonderful insights from God’s Word. Thank you.
Proverbs 3:5-6 are my life verses, and they help me out in many hard times. My own understanding tells me things like I’m messing up my child, but this Word speaks the Truth that I need not lean on my own understanding.
Lysa, what a great series! Thank you!
When I feel overwhelmed and frustrated, I remember to love my children even more fiercely. Don’t we all need love when we are spinning out of control? 1Peter 4:8 “Keep your love for one another at full strength, because love covers a multitude of sins.”
My mom always shares great verses with me to encourage me as a mom. She will just put the book of the Bible and the verses she wants to me look up in a card she sends. These are the verses she included in my Mother’s Day card this year:
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7
Proverbs 3:5-6 I blame myself so much when my kids do wrong, make bad choices, say things that aren’t so godly. But this verse helps me to remember to lean on Him when I don’t know what else to do to help my children. O how our heavenly father has made my paths straight when I was so far astray from! I your books Lysa..my church did your unglued study and it has helped
Very timely Word. Thank you!!!
The verses that always come to mind when dealing with my kids are Psalm 139:13-14: You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
These remind me that they were made perfect, in God’s image so mercy and grace flows easy as a deal with them and their different characteristics and personalities. It helps me embrace them for who they are knowing that God made them in a specific way with a purpose.
The Lord will guide you continually, giving you water when you are dry and restoring your strength. Isaiah 58:11
Need to remember this when my 11-year-old strong willed daughter is battling us, it reminds me that I’m not in this alone.
Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Lamentations 3:22-23
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Galatians 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
My life verse has always been Philippians 4:13 and this one always speaks to me but lately every thing you have had to say hits home! I’ve been worried about how hard to be on my 5 year old and at what point she is just a child who will naturally sin and when she cut her hair at school this week it put me in meltdown mode!! I have been so encouraged by this week’s posts!!
“Keep your love for one another at full strength, because love covers a multitude of sins.”
I Peter 4:8
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on YOUR own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge HIM and HE shall make your way straight. Also, a lot of prayer, daily
Genesis 50:20 to remind me that Satan would love for me to wallow in my own self pity but God is using this circumstance to teach me something and Psalm 138:8 to remind me that God is working on my behalf. Amen!
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not on thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. ” yeah I learned this in King James. I’ve learned that the original words may actually have meant “smooth or straight,” but that I think leads people to expect that there will be no difficulties if we “just believe”, and I honestly don’t think that is what God intended for us to get from this. Yes eventually things will straighten out, but not before we let him guide us over the hills, valleys and turns.
1 Timothy 4:12 is a favorite of ours for children for many reasons; it is also our youth group’s mission statement verse. I also love Deuteronomy 6:7. thank you for this message today!
Thank you for this message! So often as a mom I find it hard to not let my children’s choices define me. However I take, too, comfort in Proverbs 3:5-6. I truly have to trust God completely and know He has my boys in His hands. I can’t rely on me…tough at times, but really gives me peace when I need it!! 🙂
A scripture doesn’t come to mind that I use, however reading this brought tears to my eyes as I truly feel this was written for me today. I had two experiences with both if my children today that led me to knock myself down and label myself as the “failure mother”. I don’t get too many praises at school just the horrible conferences reminding me that my child can’t do this or can’t do that and don’t live up to the school systems expectations. God has given me these children for a reason and I need to use what He gave me to to use and guide my children. I feel like I AM Messing Up My Children and sure could use the book.
Thank you for this message! So often as a mom I find it hard to not let my children’s choices define me. However I take, too, comfort in Proverbs 3:5-6. I truly have to trust God completely and know He has my boys in His hands. I can’t rely on me-tough at times, but really gives me peace when I need it!! 🙂
Phil 4:13 and Jeremiah 29:11
I’m an adoptive Mom of 4, all drug/alcohol affected to various degrees. I really needed to hear the sweet words of this post today. I cling to “Be still and know that I am God.” People tell me I don’t know how you do it, and I respond that I don’t, God does. There is no way I would make it without knowing that God is there every step of the journey.
2 Timothy 1:7
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
7 For God has not given us a spirit of [a]timidity, but of power and love and [b]discipline.
I have two I cling to in any given situation. The first is Jeremiah 29:11 ” For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” This one reminds me that I am not the one in control of the plan. I am a steward for my children guiding them to God’s purpose in their lives. The second is Philippians 4:9 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” This one reminds me that my reaction is a lesson as well.
Psalm 37:8 in the NLT “Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper — it only leads to harm.” And in the MSG “Bridle your anger, trash your wrath, cool your pipes — it only makes things worse.
Also Proverbs 29:11 NIV “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”
And whatever version this is:
A fool give full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
Yeah, I have some anger issues.
Proverbs 22:6 train a child up in the way they should go.
Ecc. 3:1 their a season for everything
“I can do ALL things in Christ who strengthens me”.
I always feel like a failure so I remind myself that God is not done with me yet!
Philippians 1:6. being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus
Feels so good to know he never gives up on me and doesn’t expect me to be perfect. He will continue his work in me until his return!
“For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he punishes every son he accepts.” Hebrews 12:6. I love my boys too much to allow a sin to take root in their lives. The same goes for the Heavenly Father.
The verse that helps me the most is
Phil 4:13
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Luke 10:27 “… all things are possible with God.” I just have to remember that He is sovereign, and I need to rest in Him – and HAVE FAITH that His perfect will will be done.
Joshua 1:9
Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path…
Proverbs 22:6 – train up a child in the way he must go and when he is old he will not depart from it.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
This verse gets me through the toughest times time. Just knowing that God has good in everything that happens in life, brings peace to any hectic day.
As a counselor, I ask myself that question nearly every day! my verse is, Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.” It is encouraging to read all the other verses too.
Jer. 29:11 comes to mind. I also paraphrase to my children how obeying mother and father will bring goodness (“it will go well with you”), if not discipline. I am SO encouraged by your writings and would cherish these encouraging gifts, if I win. Thank you!
The verses I lean on anytime I encounter an hour, a day, or a season that is difficult for me are Jeremiah 29:11 and Hebrews 6:19 – to remind me to trust in God’s plans and to have hope in all situations.
Saw a couple of other people use this one as well, but the first verse that came to my mind was “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13. Would love to win this book. I’ve had it in my cart on amazon for a few weeks but am having a hard time spending any money on myself right now with all of our other bills! Love your blog Lysa, you are such a blessing to us mamas!
Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. (Hebrews 4:16 ESV)
I so needed to read this…my son is having such a hard time in school this year and I always feel like I am failing…this gave me a new insight! Thanks!
My verse I cling to for everything in my life that has me struggling is:
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! My fav verse when thinking of my girls is “Jeremiah 29:11″….I think of how it applies to both me and them….remembering God trusted me with them and that I can’t do this thing alone!
Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
I can’t find the passage, but my go to verse is ” raise a child in the way they should go so that when they are old they will not depart from it.” I see that in myself and am trusting God during trials that I just need to stay the course:)
Galatians 6:9.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Also Romans 15:1-7. Praying that The Lord surrounds my children with friends and adults who point them in the right direction.
Zep 3:17 The lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, he will rejoice over you with singing.
Knowing that this is how my God loves me and remembering it helps me to do the same for my Children.
Oh how I would LOVE this.
Prov 3:5-6
1 John 3:15
and countless prayers for wisdom (first two chapters of Proverbs)
Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along on the rear. God’s righteousness doesn’t grow from human anger. James 1:19-20
I like Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
My children are older and have been in church from birth, but my son is not walking with the Lord right now or going to church but maybe one time every few month. I am praying for him, but at times I feel very lost and wonder if maybe I could have done something more when he was younger. He did ask the Lord into his heart when he was a teen, so I pray and hold on to Proverbs 22:6 and pray that he will come back to church and the Lord.
Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength! I can’t wait to read your new book! While reading your other two books I feel like you are in my head or that it is me writing my story. Amazing how parallel all our lives are!
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phil. 4:13 Thanks for the chance to win!
Your words have inspired and stuck with tho fellow mother of five in this chaotic world. Recently I completed your study on Unglued and it was life changing. I would love this other book to help me lean how to be at peace with my parenting and the individual growth of my very individual children.
Isaiah Yet those who wait for The Lord will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like Eagles, they will run and not get tired, they will walk and not become weary!
This was for me! God used your words to minister to my heart as I have been dealing with teenage issues this week. Psalm 126:5 ” Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy ” That’s what I am doing. I am planting seeds and crying out to the Lord knowing that He will bring a harvest of joy in season!
“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart – be acceptable in thy sight -I Lord – my strength and my redeemer.”
I raise my children alone and have done so for a solid 4 years and off/on for the 3 years prior to that. Joshua 1:9 has been a constant source of strength and encouragement. God is good and always faithful in providing the portion I need for each day as I point them towards Him.
Hebrews 10 v23
Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep His promise.
This is hanging on my kitchen cupboard. Staying grounded in God’s truth is our only hope in the muddy mess life can be….especially parenting children from hard places.
I find that songs help me. When I get in a battle of wills with my almost 6 year old, I often break out into, “Giving it all to You, I Surrender All”. It calms me down and I pray that God will help me choose my next words wisely!
Proverbs 3:5-6
A lot of the time i don’t have a specific verse, but just calling on Jesus helps. Also, reading through the other comments has been a great blessing. Galatians 6:9 is a great one!!
This is my go to verse. 🙂
Proverbs 15:1
New King James Version (NKJV)15 A soft answer turns away wrath,But a harsh word stirs up anger.
Jer 29:11
Thank you for being so real and honest. You always make me feel like I am not alone with parenting and Mom issues.
Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengths me.
Mathew 11:28-30
I am a new Christian and mother , I love this verse. It gives me hope and strength .
( I love, love your blog )
Mel
Lately, as I’m trying to teach my older daughter (3.5 years old) kindness & cut down on my “unglued” moments, it’s Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
“For the JOY of the Lord is your strength” Nehemiah 8:10
Good verse to cite when you are not FEELING joyful but you can CHOOSE and claim it and in turn model it to your kiddos 🙂
Galatians 6:9: “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”
I really needed to hear this today! Sometimes it seems like we are fighting the same battles over and over with few signs of progress. It helps to know that God doesn’t judge us by the actions of our children, and I’m amazed at how He works on OUR character issues as we try to teach our children.
First I have to remember “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1). That one is for me, so I can remember, like you, that I am not a bad mom and I’m not constantly messing up my kids! From there, the verses often go directly for the situation at hand. Of course, there is Philippians 4:13. And, someone also mentioned Galatians 6:9, which reminds me to keep going. It’s all worth it!
Thanks for reminding us that there are no perfect moms, and we can all encourage one another in this crazy job we call being a mom!
When going through any season of life whether with my child or anyone or a thing else I relay on Matthew 26:39 My Father, if it’s possible let this cup be removed from me; not by my will but by yours.
Love is patient, love is kind…and Ephesians-I have given you exceedingly more than you could ask or imagine!
Do not grow weary in doing good for in due time u shall reap the harvest if u don’t faint!!!
The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him and I am helped. Psalms 28:7 This verse reminds me to make him my strength in all situation and He will help me to be a better mother and do the right thing for my daughter!
“Roll your works upon The Lord-commit and trust them wholly to Him…” Proverbs 16:3
Faithful is He who calls you, who also will do it. IIThess. 5:24
I love this one 🙂
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
My girls are 15 months apart and this job is Way more difficult then I expected. I only get through this with HIM.
Psalm 94:18-19
When I said, “My foot is slipping,”
your unfailing love, Lord, supported me.
When anxiety was great within me,
your consolation brought me joy.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Prov. 3:5&6
Thank you so much for giving us the opportunity to truly feel understood and encouraged. Really needed this! 🙂
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
phillipians 4:13 is my go to…and just praying for the strength!
Proverbs 22:6- train up a child in the way he should go, so that when he’s old, he won’t depart from it.
For me it’s praise and worship songs that get me through these parenting trials!! I feel the emotion that the writer/singer felt in their situation in mine. I am constantly reminded to call out to him through these songs!
2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
I feel like I come unglued in a lot of situations and this verse gets to the heart everytime no matter how out of control I feel I don’t have to. To me this verse resonates the fact that God is in control all the time and I don’t have to give in to any of my crazy emotions. I have a spirit of love, strength and the ability to control myself even if the situation is out of my control!
My children attend a Christian School and have to memorize bible verses. When my firstborn strong willed child was in 1st grade she didn’t like for me to fix her hair at all. I was struggling with her one day over this and she quoted one of the verses she had memorized to me… 1 Samuel 16:7 “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” That was 10 years ago and that is still one of the verses I believe God wanted me to rely on and carry with me in life.
I recently attended a conference that had us read the familliar verses of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, but replace the word “Love” with our own name. I now start my day with those verses, and I have to say reading those words, “Heidi is patient, Heidi is kind. Heidi does not envy, she does not boast…” is extremely humbling and puts me in the right frame of mind to take on the day. I want to parent from a place of Love, not exhaustion and frustration!
I so needed this today! I’m a mom of 2 boys, 3 months and a very sweet, active, & strong-willed 2 year old. I’ve often had these thoughts of condemnation running thru my head.
I try to remind myself that my kids are my most important disciples and that they will follow my example.
2 Tim 2:15 Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
I often feel like I am not qualified to be a mother but God revealed to me that I am more than qualified because HE has qualified me.
2 corinthians 3:5 it is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own, our qualification comes from God.
Romans. 4:20b where sin abounds grace abounds much more
Psalm 9:10
Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.
Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.
The reminder to BE STILL and know that He is with me in every moment is often just what I need.
Galatians 5: Fruits of the Spirit
Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.
The reminder to BE STILL and know that He is with me in every moment is often just what I need.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
I’m going to go through these comments to pick up others though! I’ve been so short with my girls lately. I need more time in God’s word to remind me that they are HIS girls.
I rely on 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.
My motivation is 3 John 1:4 “My greatest joy is in knowing that My children are walking in the truth.
1 Corinthians 3:6-7, I plant and let The Lord do the watering!
Proverbs: Trust in The Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding and he will make your paths straight.
Romans 8:28 is my life verse in all times. I agree with another poster though, worship songs really speak to my heart as well. Right now I’m on a Chris Tomlin kick and I absolutely love his song Whom shall I fear.
” I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Phil 4:13
” Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5
” A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
I have 9 year old twin boys in fourth grade and they’ve struggled with being responsible and just staying organized. I am a teacher so when my kids make bad grades or come home with a demerit, I feel embarrassed and then I get upset with them, no mad at them. The verse that comes home to me is “for I know the plans I have for you” and I have to step back and forget that I am a teacher and that I am a blessed mom who God has entrusted these precious boys to and silence the voices in my head that shout out untrue shortcomings about myself as a good mom. I open my eyes and my heart to God’s guidance and his mercy and grace and I can move on to help my children to make better choices.
The verse that helps me parent is -Romans 8:28
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
My FB post a few days ago was “Some days I have no idea how to be his mom.” This morning, I literally cried to a fried about how inadequate I feel as his parent. Thank you for reminding me that God picked ME to be the one he calls Mom. He picked ME to be the one who tucks him in at night, who says his prayers with him, and gets the last hug and “I love you” of each and every day. He picked ME because I am the mommy Nate needed. Maybe I just need to remember on those overwhelming days that He also picked Nate for me. I’m sure my precious, sweet, funny, smart, strong willed boy has something to teach me, too. In those moments, I will try to remember to be still. Thank you, Lysa.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I say this to myself about a million times a day. 😉
Romans 8:28 gets me thinking straight
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God & are called according to His purpose”
I have been struggling with so much these past few months with my daughter dmy son. They have seen my “moms a failure” tears so much lately. I want this book so much. If I don’t win it, Im still going to buy it but if I win this Im going to give one to a friend of mine with twin boys going through similar pains. We could read & collaborate together.
Oh how satan often leads me to believe I am not a good enough mom, how he wants me to believe all my past mistakes don’t make me qualified to raise my children, how he leads me to think I don’t love them enough, the list is endless….I’m currently reading the unglued devotional and am almost done…daily He has blessed me with a verse that touches me, reassures, comforts me, and loves in a way only He can! He has laid on my heart to pray daily for moms I know and don’t know and that I extend grace to other moms around me. Instead of speaking or thinking unkindly about each other, I would love to see us support encourage and show grace to the moms around us. We are each fighting battles everyday, maybe today I can make another moms battle a little easier.
I have 3 children. Two of them have special needs. My all time favorite verse that gets me through hard days with my kids is Phil. 4:13. “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” He will give me what I need to parent children. I can do this! Not by my own strength but by HIS strength. <3
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
I am not a mom but am a Social Worker and work w kids. I ask God for strength a lot as I have many difficult cases and need A LOT of direction, strength, etc. My favorite verse is Ezekiel 2:6….Do not be afraid, though briers and thorns are all around you & you live among scorpions. When I am struggling with a case or feel overwhelmed, I remember this verse or look at it posted on my desk, sit back and have a moment with the Lord.
Proverbs 22:6 ” Train up a child in the way he should go and in keeping with his individual gift or bent, and when he is old he will not depart from it. “
Oh how I love this! I am staring this verse full on right now — it is posted everywhere in my house for such a time as this because they are indeed difficult parenting days!! 🙂
Ephesians 5:15-21 – Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk — not as unwise people but as wise — making the most of the time, because the days are evil. So don’t be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. And don’t get drunk with wine, which [leads to] reckless actions, but be filled with the Spirit: speaking to one another in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing and making music to the Lord in your heart, giving thanks always for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another in the fear of Christ.
Lisa
Thank you for being you. I struggle with letting situations redefine me too. And I learn that I need to practice what I believe in the midst of the storm. Which I also wrestle with God through. Minor a mom yet waiting on God. But I can use this with my situation with my brother. I tend to feel like I failed him in my tempts to help him. God had to show me that in my desire to help him with his drug additions and homosexual I was trying to change him and I have to break the cycle of enabling him. Its hard to see your love suffer. So thank you for showing me the way to practice out our beliefs. I love how you touch on that you are not a bad but a praying mom.
God bless you Lisa.
Thank you
I’m not going to read that Matthew verse you shared. Because I need to apply myself to practicing his word in my storms.
Jesus looked at them and said, “with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” MATT. 19:26.
Gal. 6:9 keeps me focused!
Oddly enough I’ve recently taken encouragement from 1 Corinthians 13:11 – “when I was a child I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child…” we need to let our kids be kids allow God room to grow them. They will mess up. So did we. So DO we. So we pray for them. And we ask God for grace so we can show them grace. And as Paul said, we try to show them a better way.
And that all sounds so lovely on paper doesn’t it? It’s not what my house looks like. But God is still growing me too.
Jeremiah 29:11. Knowing he has plans for not only me but my children, that he made me to be the right mom for them, and them children that I need to push me to Him; so that we will all prosper and grow, it is such a comfort and source of strength!
I am not a mom but am a Social Worker and work with kids. I ask God for strength a lot as I have many difficult cases and need A LOT of direction, strength, etc. My favorite verse is Ezekiel 2:6….Do not be afraid, though briers and thorns are all around you & you live among scorpions. When I am struggling with a case or feel overwhelmed, I remember this verse or look at it posted on my desk, sit back and have a moment with the Lord.
Oh.. I want to read this book. I have two kids. 7 & 5, could use some inspiration.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
Deut 11: 19-21
19″You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up. 20″You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your sons may be multiplied on the land which the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, as long as the heavens remain above the earth.
Train up a child in the way he should go and WHEN HE IS OLD he shall not depart,that verse always encourages me,there may be a bad time,but thats it,a bad time and then he or she will turn back to God : )
I find myself using Colossians 3:17 often…”And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.” I want to remind my babies that no matter what we do, how we respond or react, that we must strive to glorify God in it and through it. It’s hard…being a Mama is just so hard, but so very rewarding, especially when you hear your babies quoting scripture or saying a prayer to get through a difficult moment! 🙂
Proverbs 22:6…..Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
I’m currently reading Unglued in my women’s group and I love it! Amazing!
Galatians 6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
I really struggled being. First time mom and went through postpartum as a result. I knew the enemy was trying to rob me of joy of motherhood and had allowed myself to enter into this pit without relying on Gos and his strength . Through careful
Prayer, stillness and humility to seek His face I have been able to rise up and give thanks for the privilege of being my sons mother! As he in now I his toddler years and the days seem long, I turn to His word, put some worship music and a cup of coffee to get me through this wonderful journey where I am being molded as much as my son is !
May The Lord of peace Himself, give you peace at all times and in every way. 2 Thessalonians 3:16. Good reminder to stay calm and rely on the Lord.
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” MATT.19:26
Lysa, Thanks so much for the encouragement. Philippians 4:13 & Psalm 37:3 Trust in the Lord, and do good. Reminds me to trust the Lord, but to keep trying.
I don’t know the addresses but…
I can do all things through Christ…
He is strong in my weekness…
He witl be a lamp unto my path..
If God before me who can be against me…
He will not give me more than I can handle(he knows I’m stronger than I can see or believe)…
My grace is sufficient for you…
I am the author and finisher of your faith…
You were beautifully and wonderfully made….
Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 86:12 I will praise you, Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever.
Some days these are the only things that get me by.
The faithful love of the Lord never ends!
His mercies never cease.
Great is his faithfulness;
his mercies begin afresh each morning.
I say to myself, “The Lord is my inheritance;
therefore, I will hope in him!”
Lamentations 3:22-24
And Jer 29:11
Praise and worship songs along with my favorite verses philippians 4:13 and psalm 46:10 get me through. I struggle with things daily with my son who is ADHD and has other anxiety issues along with all the running for two very involved children. If not for the grave of God I could not get through
I have always relied on Phil. 4:13 for everything challenging. I know that He called on me with this wonderful gift of a child and intends for me to be the one to teach her and lead her to Him and follow His ways. Sometimes this may be challenging, tiring, hectic, or glorious but I know I am never alone, he is always right at my shoulder prompting me, guiding me, and showing me the way and like in this scripture…. Giving me strength to do this amazing job of a parent.
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO GIVES ME STRENGTH! All things…..
Galatians 6:9. When we are having a particularly bad spell, I write with a dry erase markers on our mirrors so its right in my face when I struggle.
Deuteronomy 6: 1-9 specifically verse 7
During the difficult times of parenting I rely on : Phil 4:13- I can do all things through Him who gives me strentgh. And then I remind myself of 1 Thes 5:18- Give thanks in all circumstances.
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. (Proverbs 10:19)
Matthew 7:24-27 is definitely there for me more often than not. It reminds me to rely on the word of God and not others. I always hear the sound of the song we sang as a little girl in Sunday school that repeats the same idea. I remind myself that in order for my children to succeed and have God in their lives I need to follow his word and build our home and family on the rock, our Lord Jesus Christ and not on the sand of the world.
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” I’m working on purposefully praying for my kids. I haven’t always had the most dedicated prayer life, but I realize I am their prayer warrior. My mom’s prayers made a huge impact on my life. My daughter (3 1/2) is very strong willed so I pray He will use her boldness to build his kingdom while also giving her ears and a heart that can hear his voice and a willingness to obediently respond. My son is 1 month old. I ask God to set him apart, to give him eyes that will see people as Jesus did, a mouth that will be able to share God’s word, ears to hear the voice of truth, hands that will serve others and work for the Lord, & feet that will carry him in the direction God has planned for him. I’ve made it my mission to become a better, purposeful praying mom for my kids because I don’t have all the answers or always know best but God does!
Well, i am just embarking on this parenting journey (due any day now!) so i am building verses to rely on. I love you point today, that both houses faced adversity, the difference was made by the foundation on which it was built. LOVED that!
my favorite verse in these times is from 2 Corinthians 12:9-10…”But he said to me, “my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
I am learning to run to Him more in my weakness in parenting…not beat myself up. None of my own talent, effort, energy, or wisdom is going to be effective without the power of Christ.
Denise
Phil 4:6-7
…do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I just cling to Romans 8:28 – and tell my child that we can get through anything together.
“Trust in The Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight”. Proverbs. I’m a mom to 2 teenage daughters and most days I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel the pressure that is overwhelming at times to make sure to teach them this or that before they are off and on their own. This verse is steady and strong and it gives me the balance and perspective I need. God knows what hes doing so it’s ok if I don’t. Thank you for this encouraging blog. Nice to know I’m not alone =)
Hard to choose since there are many I cling to, but the ones that I seem to run to every day are: Psalm 141:3 – “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord, and keep watch over the door of my lips.” and Psalm 16:8 – “I always remember that the Lord is with me. He is here close by my side, so nothing can defeat me.”
Phillipians 4:13, especially when I feel like I cannot do all things, or any things.
I don’t have just one scripture. But I do have 3 beautiful children that help me see that the moments I think I did something wrong, I really helped them and they still love me more than ever.
Zephania 3:17 is my favorite verse when things are feeling rough with my little ones. Knowing the Lord my God is with me and mighty to save gives me hope! The image of him singing over me gives me total comfort and joy…even on the hardest of days.
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic positive change in our relationship:
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
This is a great verse to remember for conflicts with your spouse, too! 🙂
Well the verse I need depends on the moment. But recently I was reading a parenting book or blog (don’t remember which or whose it was), and they referenced Luke 2:43-45. Jesus’ parents did not have any idea where he was and this was after three days. So glad God doesn’t require perfect parents, just willing servants.
My husband and I are walking through a difficult time with our teenager. This past year of “trials”, God has impressed upon me to study Ephesians. After recently completing this work, my go-to verse is Ephesians 6:10-12. “Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.”
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic positive change in our relationship:A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
This is a great verse to remember for conflicts with your spouse, too! 🙂
1 Thessalonians 5: 16 – 18 “Be joyful always;Pray continually; Give thanks in all circumstances,for this is God’swill for you in Christ Jesus.”
Just this morning, I took my 3 children (14, 10 & 7 yrs old) to their Pediatrician for their annual checks & Flu Mist. My 7 yr old son decided he was going to be a “clown” the entire time our physician was in the room with us. Joyful is not the word I would use for me this morning – ugh!! I actually wanted to crawl under the table and hide! It wasn’t until later in the day, when away from my children that He reminded me that my son is just a 7 yr old boy, who deserves grace and a few consequences for his poor choices and my actions were not pleasing either. And now at 5 p.m. I read this on your website, Lysa. He used you to bring my day back around and use the entire day to teach me – again! Thank you Lord for being full of grace and mercy for both my son & myself!!
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic positive change in our relationship:A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1) This is a great verse to remember for conflicts with your spouse, too! 🙂
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic positive change in our relationship: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1)
“For we know all things work together for the good of them who love God and are called according to His purpose” Rom. 8:28
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Prov. 15:1
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight.” Prov. 3:5-6
“‘Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matt. 11:28
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic change in our relationship: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger – Proverbs 15:1
Galatians 6:9…and some days it’s just Lord take control of this and give me the words you want so and so to hear. 😉
I am constantly praying for patience, endurance, and wisdom in my responses…..”
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
I’ve been using this with my two year old and I’ve seen a dramatic change! A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger – Proverbs 15:1
Phil. 4:5
I’ve been using this with my two year old: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger – Proverbs 15:1
I rely on “The Lord’s arm is not too short to save” Isaiah 59:1 even when they have been given a good foundation but choose to make poor choices that they are never out of His reach…even when it seems they are out of my reach…
Jer. 29:11 and boy do I feel this way. I have two amazing little preschoolers and one on the way. My patience and strength not so high right now and I keep saying I am not doing a good job with my boys at all. Thank you for the extra encouragmemnt!!
Joshua 1:9 – reminds me God is with me and my child where ever we may go and whatever we may go through
As a family we memorized Psalm 139 and those verses are comforting to me knowing He is always with me and my children..and that they are fearfully and wonderfully made!
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me. 3 boys, and the oldest two have Asperger’s, the youngest is 2
Jude vs 20-21
But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit. Keep yourselves in God’s love as you wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life.
Phillipians 4:13 for sure! I say this over and over not only with my children but in everydays life obstacles. But mostly with my children! I learned a lot last weekend about thinking before I speak from women of purpose in Hershey!! Thank you for your beautiful message. I deal with conflict much better!!
Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Don’t take too much credit when your children turn out great and don’t take too much credit when they don’t.
When tough stuff happens with my kids I use my favourite verse Jermiah 29:11-14 “for I kow the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you, to give you (and your kids) hope and a future, not to harm you.
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2Corinthians 10:5
I often need this reminder to bring my anxiety and negativity to Him and allow Him to capture my thoughts and securely place my focus on His truths rather than my own insecurities.
I try to keep Hannah in mind, from the book of Samuel. She made the promise to God that if he gave her a son, she would give him back to the Lord. She kept her promise. I need to remember that my children truly belong to God. I need to trust him to help me be the mother they need.
John 8:32…..
Phillipians 4:13 … And I close my eyes and repeat to myself “It is all going to be OK in The Name of Jesus!”. I am the mom to a 10 yr old son with severe Autism who is unable to speak as well as a 5 year old son with ADHD and anxiety and aggression. Almost not a day passes that I do not get a form of negative communication from the schools. Without God I would crumble to pieces … With Him, I will overcome! God bless yoy and all yoy do! <3 in Christ!
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Phil. 4:13 (ESV)
I am sure this one comes up a lot… Before I was able to give it even seconds of thought this was the first one to pop into my head, so I am going with it!
The other is: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18
“Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” – Proverbs 29:17
I would love to read your new book! Thank you for your beautiful writings that support women. <3
This is one of my go to verses. Proverbs 3: 5&6 Trust in The Lord with all your heart & lean not in your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him & he will direct your path.
My kids memorized it just because I say it so much 🙂
Psalms 51:6-8
You desire truth in the inward parts,
And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.
7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;
Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
8 Make me hear joy and gladness,
That the bones You have broken may rejoice.
NKJV
I needed this today as I am always thinking as myself as a failure……. God knows my heart.
Oh Lord have I struggled with my 17 year old son for almost 2 years now. Wrong friends, wrong decision and all. Numerous nights I did not sleep, almost let the rest of my family fall apart. I was left with no energy and felt I would give up on him Until one day I heard once again this verse:
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Somehow this verse spoke to me as well as the others below and I have held on and have seen God moving to turn the situation around! Praise God!
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms Ephesians 6:12
Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.Proverbs 22:6
2Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James.
I see the trials and tribulations I face with my children as blessings. I suffered miscarriage, infertility, a difficult pregnancy, and a scary super early birth for my son. I learned so much through it all and persevered and became wise. My relationship with Jesus grew to a true relationship. In even the worst of times, I see the love of God in their eyes. My children are sensitive to me and what’s going on with me that it is as if Jesus is speaking through them.
I usually think of Col. 3:23 or some of my favorite Proverbs! 🙂
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you. I use this one quite often with 3 boys 😉 and for myself.
Isaiah 40: 11 “He tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” If God is gathering me in his arms then my children are there too. I just go to him asking in prayer to gently lead me in the guidance for my children. I have a 16, 13 & 11 year old boys. There are mornings of anger and there are mornings where everything is fine. Yesterday, was anger and this was & is my go to verse. When I got home, we had a calm discussion. Today, while at a dr’s appointment with one, I received a call from the counselor’s office about another one. Again, a calm conversation occurred. Each day is a challenge but God is good and will guide me through it as long as I go to him in prayer. Thanks for the message today. Keep them coming 🙂
I need to be better at relying on Gids word rather than my emotions but these are two if the ones that have helped me in life and as a mom!
Galatians 5:22-23 but the fruit if the spirit is love joy peace patients kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness and self control against such there is no law
2 Corinthians 5:17 if any one is in Christ he is a new creation the old has gone the new has come
Oh how I needed these exact words today. I consistently turn to the verse “we don’t know what to do, so we look to you for help”. 2 chronicles 20:12
Psalm 56:3
When I am afraid, I will trust in you.
Also, I remind myself often to let God be God. Especially in times that I’m worried about my children, or stressing over an important decision regarding them, “let God be God” he will not let me down!
Lamentations 3:22-23 …God’s mercies are new every morning. Great is thy faithfulness. The reminder of his compassion is always key too in these verses!
I don’t have one specific verse….but one that did pop right to mind was Prov. 3:5-6–I also alot of times will just come away by myself & put some praise & worship music on. God always seems to have something that will speak to me in that particular moment.
Thank you so much for this. I am a pastor’s wife and it’s very hard for me not to feel like the shaping that my children are going through is a reflection of me. I don’t want to raise good kids. I want to raise childrenthat follow hard after God. I remind myself of Nehemiah 8:10 the joy of the Lord is my strength.
I have a teenage daughter that is a sophomore in college, she has had some growing pains this year, so when I see that she is calling me before I answer I say Father please give me strength and guidance, help me to be the mom she needs and give me your words to speak to her! Whatever she may be facing the verse we lean on is Jerimiah 29:11-14
I will be honest. I have been feeling like that defeated mom. And I went to the women of purpose conference in Hersey this weekend. Hearing you speak was so encouraging! I got a couple of your books and I have been so blessed reading them! Thank you for sharing your stories. You truly are helping us moms who feel like we are messing up our kids have hope! And thank you for reminding me how important Gods word is. I’ve been thinking so much on the bad that I was not filling myself up with the good!
Deuteronomy 31:8
“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
I have to remember this verse on the hard days of parenting. He is with me and I’m not alone even when I feel like I’m messing up my kids…which is most of the time.