How Do Other Parents Seem To Have Their Act So… Together?

Chatter, chatter, chatter… that dialogue that runs like a never-ending tickertape in the back of our minds. That chatter can be especially loud and consuming when it comes to how we view our parenting skills.

I mean really, have you ever mentally beaten yourself up and wondered, “how do other parents seem to have their act so… together?”

It’s a lonely place to be. But here’s an encouragement: we aren’t the only ones who have those kind of thoughts… and we have the power to stop them.

My pastor, Steven Furtick, is sharing some of his honest, hard parenting moments with us today. He’s also sharing some great pieces of wisdom to help set us free from the negative inside chatter in our minds.

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I’m so grateful that Pastor Steven joined us this week. If you’re just popping in, and didn’t see the other interviews, click here for day one and here for day two.

And I’m doing one final giveaway of Crash the Chatterbox – three commenters will be chosen as winners. To enter, leave a comment below telling me your biggest takeaway from today’s interview.


  1. Debbie F says

    I liked a couple statements. First Lysa I love how you seem so honest and real with your emotions. I liked the statements “staying in the mix is success” and “what they think of me is none of my business”. We have 3 children and our oldest has been a very difficult one from the beginning. I honestly look back and wonder how did we survive. He was very aggressive, very abusive towards me, refused to follow rules etc. It would have been so easy to get out of the mix, live in freedom instead of fear in my own home but God wrapped His protection around us and I think the other two saw the issues and have learned how to deal with life and the difficulties it throws at you. The statement about what they think of me….no one has walked in my shoes so they do not know what life has been like. Now fortunately he is seeing his mistakes and has changed so much that we can actually have a positive life. Every Christmas I remember the year he lite branches of the Christmas tree on fire and how they didn’t burn so another proof of God’s protection.

  2. Carmen says

    I loved the part about giving yourself permission to be imperfect. And, about modeling what to do after you’ve made a mistake with your kids…I don’t always do well at that, but I think it would help if I did. And, Lysa, I’m with you on the chex mix 😉 The actual chex squares are totally the best part! 😉

  3. says

    “If your not ready to be misunderstood, your not ready to be used by God.” WOW! That was an eye opening moment for me. I have want more then anything to be a help to others and in this desire I started blogging. But I find myself not really sharing the deep thoughts and feelings because I am afraid of the responses I would get from friends and family. This is something I have been trying to work on. Thank you so much for the post and the giveaway!

  4. Lisa says

    “The way to overcome the accuser, is by the blood of Jesus and the power of my testimony”–this quote sums up something I recently told my daughter, but with a twist. She’s struggling with believing lies from the accuser, but I reminded her that triumphing these accusations will add to her testimony of God’s faithfulness, thus strenghtening her ability to counteract future lies of the accuser. Even as a tween, I think this book would be great for us to read together!

  5. Melissa says

    You have recently spoken at Lifepoint Church in Frederickaburg and since them so have followed you and your blogs and your interviews!!! You are such an inspiration to me an I cannot wait to get a copy of Crash the Chatterbox! I need to hear it so bad!

  6. Elizabeth Jones says

    Lots of truth in this video! I love the concept of “staying in the mix” it’s so easy to check out & succumb to that negative chatter when relationships get hard.

  7. Andrea says

    “If you’re not ready to be misunderstood – you’re not ready to be used by God” & “what others think of me is none of my business.” Whoa! Those 2 statements are still speaking to me!
    I have REALLY regressed in the area of self-chatter the past few months. 🙁
    Thank you very much for doing this! God is using you!

  8. Carrie Cushing says

    Great message! I guess my takeaway from this is I too want to come to a place where I hear God say, “You are good with me” and that will be enough. Just ignoring all the negativity and the voices in my head tearing me down.

  9. Liz C says

    I love the comment ‘what others think of me is none of my business’! I am always thinking that. Now I need to get into the habit of not paying attention to that inside chatter and say who cares!

    Loved theses three videos!

  10. Lori B says

    My biggest take away is that I need to continue to be in the mix and redefine my report for parenting!

  11. Judy says

    The greatest gift I can give my children is to show them my love and acceptance of them. Not always easy, but always necessary. Never done perfectly, but forever practicing.

  12. says

    This makes me remember that I need to be a better role model to my kids on how to be humble, live the testimony and be forgiving when things don’t go right. No one is perfect and I think our society teaches that we need to be perfect and we parents need to override that message with “None of us are perfect, only God is perfect.” God loves us even when we make mistakes and aren’t doing it all right.

  13. Jenny Block says

    My biggest take away from this video is that I’m not alone in the journey! It’s something so many of us deal with and I’m excited that there are people like you guys getting the word out and equipping us with the tools needed to stop the negative chatter!!! Thanks you for your honesty:)

  14. Nita says

    Biggest take away is that we are not alone in our role as parents and that our plan for our children my not be their heavenly father’s plan and we must give up the control and be okay with that.

  15. Elizabeth says

    We don’t have to be perfect. We can take negative internal dialogue and channel it into something positive.

  16. says

    Dang! So many goodies out of that short clip!

    Defining the win as staying in the mix is a rich new standard in relationships – especially parenting. As a mom who is coming out of an extremely difficult spell, where my kiddos have seen me at less than my best, I am seeing beautiful tenderness and compassion and connection bud out of our winter as a family. They’ve seen me cry, burrow under the covers, even question God, but they’ve also witnessed the rebirth of hope, the tenacity and goodness of the Lord, and the return of the sunshine… Thank you to you and Pastor Steven for your honesty!

  17. Jennifer says

    **What others think of me is none of my business!**

    “To be used by God is to make yourself of no reputation.” -Pastor Steven
    Woo Hoo! That is a truth to hold onto.

  18. Linda Krueger says

    I was hoping to take advantage of the buy one get one free of Crash the Chatterbox book. I completed my purchase on Amazon tonight but was not able to get the special offer on Crashthechatterbox.com website. Please let me know if I need to do something different or if just ran out of time! The interviews were so good and I too will be listening again! Thank you Lysa!

  19. Linda Krueger says

    I was surprised to see the time on my post above – it’s an hour later than the actual time! It should be 11:27pm – do blogs have daylight savings issues? Something silly to smile at! Wishing you a blessed Sunday!

  20. Joy says

    I love the comment of staying in the mix! I may stink things up, I may not get in right very often but I am there, I am here and I will stand on my Foundation, my God and His love for me.

  21. Crystal says

    The Lord dropped this right in my lap today. It has been a constant struggle for me to not weigh my parenting and personal value based on how my kids obey me. I get stuck in a cycle of feeling I will never be the parent he has called me to be. It even effects how well I unconditionally love my children as I pay too much attention to how well other parents get it right. This message helps me to be determined to fight this lie!

  22. Cindy Fox says

    Wow! What powerful statements: “”Stay in the Mix.” “Staying engaged is success.” “If you are not ready to be misunderstood, you are not ready to be used by God.” “If I live off the affirmation of others, I will die from the absence of the same.” Whew! Also, “What others think of me is none of my business.” What God thinks is what matters. I seem to be often misunderstood. Maybe it’s not as bad as I think it is. Ultimately, I must go to God with these concerns and ask Him for inner strength to do what He requires. Thank you for sharing this great food for thought.