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The Process Before the Promise

November 5, 2018

“I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry.”  Psalm 40:1 ESV

Are there any deep disappointments in your life that seem to be lingering on and on? Do you feel like you’ve been praying the same prayers over and over with little to no change?

I understand how hard that is. As I’ve mentioned recently here on the blog, I’ve walked through some of the most heartbreaking seasons in my family, marriage, and health in the last few years.

And although the circumstances of your life may be different, you probably have middle-of-the-night moments of wrestling through your own tears.

You, too, have memories that still hurt. Realities that make you swallow back tears. Sufferings that seem forever long. And you’re disappointed that today you aren’t living the promises of God you’ve begged to come to pass.

In your most private moments you want to scream words you don’t use around your Bible friends at the unfairness of it all. But then there are more hopeful moments… where you want to turn up the praise music, lift up honest prayers, and declare that God is good even when the situation doesn’t seem good.

That’s what it is like to be so very human—hurting but still hoping.

And that is where we find David in Psalm 40. In the first ten verses David praises God for delivering him, but then in verses 11-17 he is having to cry out for God to deliver him again. David is hurting but still hoping.

Hoping doesn’t mean we ignore reality. No, hoping means we acknowledge reality in the very same breath that we acknowledge God’s sovereignty.

Our hope can’t be tied to whether or not a circumstance or another person changes. Our hope must be tied to the unchanging promise of God. We hope for the good we know God will ultimately bring from our situation, whether the good turns out to match our desires or not. And sometimes that takes a while. The process will most likely require us to be persevering. Patient. Maybe even longsuffering.

Honestly, I know that can feel a little overwhelming.

I want the promised blessing of Psalm 40:4: “Blessed is the man who makes the Lord his trust.” I forget that this kind of trusting in God is often forged in the crucible of longsuffering. God isn’t picking on me. God is picking me to personally live out one of His promises.

It’s a high honor. But it doesn’t always feel that way. I’ve got to walk through the low places of the process before I’m perfectly equipped to live the promise.

We read about some of the low places of the process in verses 1–3 of Psalm 40:

“I waited patiently for the Lord;
   he inclined to me and heard my cry.
He drew me up from the pit of destruction,
   out of the miry bog,
and set my feet upon a rock,
   making my steps secure.
He put a new song in my mouth,
   a song of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear,
   and put their trust in the Lord.”

The idea of waiting patiently in verse 1 is incredibly important in this Psalm. The Hebrew word indicates that the waiting is ongoing and holds a sense of eager expectancy and hope.

So while I want the solid rock on which to stand, first I have to wait patiently for the Lord to lift me out of the slime and mud and set my feet. That word set in the original Hebrew is qum, which means to arise or take a stand. God has to take me through the process of getting unstuck from what’s been holding me captive before I can take a stand.

I also want that new song promised here. Did you notice, though, what comes before the psalm’s promise of a new song? It’s the many cries to the Lord for help. The most powerful praise songs are often guttural cries of pain that got turned into beautiful melodies.

I know this is hard. But let me be the one to lean in and whisper to you, “God is working things out. He’s not far away. He is right here with us. We need to cling to this hope. Believe this hope. Live out this hope. Right here and right now. Even if our prayers aren’t answered in the way and the timing that we want. Even when this process feels messy. We will trust that God is good.”

Keep crying out to Him, friend. Keep hoping in Him. And know that God will take every cry you’ve uttered and arrange those sounds into a glorious song.

Lord God, we know You often work in ways we don’t understand. Help us feel close to you in the middle of the process You’re taking us through. Help us trust You are at work even when You seem silent and far off. Help us believe You are good in every way—every day. Thank You for Your loving and watchful care of us, Your children. We’re thankful today and always. In Jesus’ precious Name we pray, Amen.


If your life or current circumstance isn’t turning out the way you thought it would, I understand. That’s why I wrote my new book, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way. You can pre-order your copy here today and receive the first three chapters immediately, ahead of its upcoming release next week on November 13th!

It’s also time for a giveaway! I’d love to give away three advance reader copies to three of you! Leave a comment below and tell me what you’re choosing to tie your hope to in this season.

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  1. Holly Sheriff

    I tie my hope to God alone. You see, for far too long, I put my hope in my husband and our marriage. I allowed my husband to take the place of God in my life. Today, I am divorced after 21 years of marriage. I have been praying for his salvation for years. Today, I’m standing for restoration. God has allowed me to be in a place where I have no control over my circumstances. I am learning every day to hand it all to Him and just trust that He is who He says He is and He’ll do what He said He’ll do. I have no choice but to put all my hope in Him.

  2. Pam

    I’m tying my life to Jesus. Already ordered your book so if I win one I. The giveaway I will giveaway to a hurting friend who needs to hear the message of hope from Jesus and you.

    • Elaine Trussler

      I’m praying for the salvation of all my family members.

  3. Golda Perez

    Thank you Lyssa for sharing these important principles and reminding us that hope is there, even when we don’t feel hopeful. The process of going through, is often hardest right before the break through.


    I’m choosing to tie my hope to my future in this season of ministry. It tends to get rather messy & the target on my back gets larger.

  5. Cheryl Rose

    Waiting on salvation for my parents – been waiting over 40 years. Sometimes it gets really hard and then I remember God’s promise are true an He has blessed me with them for many wonderful years.

  6. De

    Thank you for your ministry and sharing your life so openly. My daughter is going thru a very difficult time. I would love to share this book with her.

  7. Christy

    Forever hopeful in God’s promise to take care of us in all times!

  8. Cindi L

    I hope that this book would help me understand and lead me through some circumstances in my life right now that I don’t understand why is happening, things that I never thought would be this way.

  9. Angie Hochstedler

    Ultimately, my hope is in eternity with Christ!

  10. Lori P

    I am simply trying to tie my hope to His promise that He will take care of me and never leave me. I am very recently divorced. My husband suddenly told me in March that he “wanted his freedom”. He was my forever…my best friend…We had spent 14 years together and in 3 words it was gone. My heart shattered and soul immediately cried out to Jesus. It has been a hard road and I still have a long way to go with my relationship with God. He has shown me that I put my ex-husband in a place that should belong only to God…I viewed him as my strength and my comfort…my protector….when I realized that, I immediately realized that only God can be those things for me. Asking for prayer as I continue to try to find my identity in Him, to seek Him, to turn away from the past and stop asking “why” and to move forward.

  11. Eva Cantrell

    In this new season of self-awareness, gut-wrenching possible realities, in the unknown and unpredictable, I choose to tie my hope to that still small voice in my spirit that tells me to hold on, keep standing firm, keep seeking Him and He will work ALL things out for the good. I choose to disregard negative and fearful comments from other people who are hurting and will not let it affect my spirit in a negative way, causing me to lose hope because my hope CANNOT be in other people, what they think or say about me based on my past or even in my own strengths and knowledge of what things SEEM to look like. I choose to walk by faith and not by sight and keep replaying those visions in my mind of a better situation, restored brokenness, and renewed love in my life, family, and marriage. Thank you Lysa for your ministry!!

  12. Elizabeth

    This email definitely came from the Lord in tithe right timing. I was literally crying out to him 20min before reading this. I am tieing my hope that the Lord will make my husband who he needs to be for him. I am trying to hope that our marriage will be saved.

  13. Megan

    tying my hope to the promise that the Lord is faithful despite my desired outcome.

  14. Noelle Gates

    I’m tying myself to Jesus. Praying for a baby this year! Can’t wait for your book!

  15. Leslie M.

    I am tying my hope in Christ – I KNOW that God WILL give my oldest son the job HE wants him to have and, as I too recently lost my job when my company closed, I know He will guide ME as well in where He wants me right now in this season of my life.

  16. Noelle Gates

    I’m tying myself to Jesus. Praying for a baby this year! Can’t wait for your new book!

  17. Debra St Onge

    Thank you so much for the reminder of God’s promises to give us hope through our trials and disappointments. Our only daughter died on October 30, 2017 at age 38, wife and mother of two boys, age 9 and 12. It has been just over one year now, all the so called “firsts” are passed by, so it has been a roller coaster of ups and downs this past year. Looking ahead to the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays is already causing anxiety and sadness in our hearts. We were still numb through it all last year, and we worked hard to keep things pretty normal for our Grandsons. This year, it is setting in that this is a forever change in our family, she was the center and joy of our holidays, she loved the family time we had together on their holiday vacations. We both are having a struggle with the “Why God” on our down days. We are constantly reading scripture, grief books, and anything that will help us understand and keep our hope and trust that God will sustain us through this loss. Our family continually put our faith and trust in God as our anchor during our daughter’s year and a half battle with cancer. He has continued to be our Anchor it the Storm.

  18. Heather Kruse

    I lost a baby girl (15 weeks gestation) almost 2 weeks ago. After years of secondary infertility we were finally having a “surprise” baby, and we were so excited. I do not understand why God would give us this biggest blessing just to take her away. I am heartbroken but trying to rely on Him. I am broken.

  19. Cindy Looney

    My dad was diagnosed with Angiosarcoma this past month, he starts CHEMO this Friday. His children “my siblings” have been dysfunctional at odds for many many years, it started around 2005 when our mother was hospitalized and I lost my son in Aug 2005 at 5yrs old to Leukemia. There is feuding arising again over inheritance. I’m carrying for my Father thru this and have told him I do not want any of his money just the best medical treatments for him. It is heartbreaking as a Christian woman to see his own children doing this. I will be blessed thru this spiritually but I have to keep telling myself not to get involved in their actions.

  20. Tami

    I am choosing to put my hope in Jesus! Nothing is the way I’d hoped! I’m feeling like a failure in so many ways! But I know my God is still on the thrown!! I know that He is only making me stronger! Even though I feel pretty hopeless right now, I’ve seen my God do it before, and I know He will do it again! I am trusting Him above what I see and what I feel!

  21. Margie

    I have to tie my hope to the Lord and know that he is in control even when things feel like they are going in the wrong direction.

  22. Kate

    Lifting up my hope to God for healing in my marriage and my husband’s suffering from chronic pain, depression and addiction.
    Thank you Jesus!

  23. Jennifer Leech

    I have been struck by what you have said today -Blessed is the man who makes the Lord his trust “this kind of trusting in God is often forged in the crucible of longsuffering” I say a yes and an amen to that comment. Disappointment comes in many forms and there were many times in my life where I can’t remember not being disappointed. Disappointment was like a well worn coat, it was on me day and night, at times I could not shake it off. In fact when I wasn’t living in disappointment, the coat was still worn as I felt that disappointment would follow me wherever I went. Disappointment has the potential to twist and distort, to wound and to destroy – it is so important to have dear friends where honest and real conversation can take place without the fear of meaningless platitudes been thrown our way. I look forward to reading your book.

  24. Kirsten M

    I’m tying my hope to the promise that He is faithful & His mercies are new every morning. No matter how I’ve failed or what troubles I’m facing, He is with me & for me.

  25. Brandy

    Saturday I gave everything to God. I had given Him all of me but there was one thing I held to myself that was mine and I wasn’t turning it over because I wanted to be in control and I wanted to create the outcome I longed for which was the love of a man. I have let him consume my daily thoughts, the first thing on my mind when I opened my eyes. I have pursued and sought after even after a year of heart break and rejection. I surrounded this part of my heart and those desires to God Saturday night. It was beautiful. I feel amazing but I also know it won’t be easy every day. I don’t want to lose where I am with God. I want His will not my own but honestly there is a whisper in my ear of you will fall back to who you were. I pray to stay connected and that God will be everything to me that I thought this man could be or I wanted him to be.
    God Bless

  26. Jennie

    Focus on stillness and unseen moments instead of all the distractions.

  27. Sara K

    Leave a comment below and tell me what you’re choosing to tie your hope to in this season.

    Lysa – I choose to tie my hope to the Lord this season and surrender to His will during this difficult time in life. Thank you for being an inspiration through the good times and the bad.

  28. Elaine Tomasello

    I choose to tie my hopes to Jesus Christ. He knows what path I should follow and I know He will lead me to the place I belong. I often get off the path & go my own way but it almost always ends in bad place. Then I get depressed & my mind starts questioning the decisions I have made throughout my life. Thank you! God bless you Lysa!

  29. Mary Niemeyer

    My ONLY hope is in Christ.

  30. Susan Bricker

    I loved this Lysa and I can’t wait to read your new book! I’m tying my hope to waiting with intention and expectation in the Lord and His abundant and merciful grace.

  31. Betty MacFarland

    I’m choosing to place all my hope on Jesus Christ, my Living Hope because He has never failed me yet!

  32. Melissa

    I am walking a similar path as you. Although my husband and I are together right now, we were separated for a year. There are so many strongholds and Satan wants nothing more that to claim victory over us, but I will continue to walk this difficult path and keep trusting in Jesus and the sovereignty of God!

  33. H.J.

    My 21 year marriage came to an abrupt end this year after learning of my husband’s infidelities. I am now facing a new life that I didn’t want or ask for. I was a full time Mom but will now only see my children 50 percent of the time, will have to sell my dream house and go back to work. God’s promises and faithfulness have been my life support this past year. I made a choice I was not going to get bitter but cling to God and trust that He will bring beauty out of ashes. Someone once said, “God permits what He hates to accomplish what He loves.” My future is unknown to me right now but I know God has me in His hands and I’d rather be in His hands than anywhere else. My hope is in God. He’s all I need.

  34. Christie

    I’m placing my hope in Christ. Through a painful and difficult season of life, I’ve realized that Christ is the only true and faithful hope that we have. He will never disappoint us and He will never forsake us!

  35. Dawn

    As I read this the old, cherished hymn came to mind, “My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus blood and righteousness. I dare not trust the sweetest frame but wholly lean on Jesus name.” Christ is my solid rock. My hope when it seems all hope is gone. I’m so thankful for the hope we have in Him!

  36. Brandi

    This devotion spoke right to my heart. I have a son who has left home before he was ready. He is 18 but still has 4 high school credits to graduate. God promised me before he was born he has a plan for my son. I have spent many nights crying and worried wondering what went wrong, where is he, does he remember he has parents and a Savior who love him unconditionally. I felt the gentle whisper and comfort from God one evening when I was worried and praying. I prayed God I know you are here and you love my son more then I do but please I need your peace and to hear from You it will be ok. I woke up in the middle of the night and the verse I saw was Hebrews 10:23 Let us hold tightly with out wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep His promise. I felt at peace and though it is still not the outcome I desire I know that God is working in my heart and my sons.

  37. Brandi

    thank you Lysa for your words of encouragement!

  38. Sandi

    would so love to receive this book; I read all of your books; they have all spoken so much into my life, but so much more I believe this one will, even just by the title. arriving at a stage in life that should be relaxing, and better after all we’ve been through, only to find the situations and issues and failures and disappointments just keep getting worse and lingering for what seems like forever. This devotion today spoke volumes to me! Thank you for your encouragement.

  39. beth foster

    I have read this message you have written, and my do I feel that place of despair but refuse to give in to hopelessness. Just one verse from a song God gave me (believe me I am not musical but this came as a result of a brain injury 4 yrs ago this January).
    Jesus, Jesus, when I can’t cope
    Jesus, Jesus, you are my hope
    When I’m alone and I’m feeling life’s pain
    Jesus, Jesus, I call out your name.
    Continually and always as I am forced to lie down with brain fatigue, I then look up to my Hope from heaven above. Thank you Father.

  40. Laura Kent

    I am anchoring my hope in Jesus Christ.
    I am coming out of a season of grief from the loss of my son in law and am learning that although God doesn’t always answer prayer the way I want, He is still here for me!

    Thank you for your devotionals and blog. They have been speaking straight to my heart!

  41. jRandi Menke

    Life can be so tough especially when your “Mama Heart” is broken. I have a 40 year old son that has 4 children whom he isn’t living with because he is an alcoholic. He knows Jesus but is lost in his addiction. He is gifted, talented and smart but none of that matters because he is drunk. I love him with all of my heart but I can’t stand to see him this way. The heartbreaking part is that he knows he is lost and he asks me to pray……and I pray….and I wait…and I pray…….and I feel so responsible because he is depending on my prayers…..and now so are his children…and I beat myself up because I am not sure my prayers are being heard…..and that isn’t because God isn’t faithful…..isn’t because I’m not?…thanks for your willingness to share your life with us……

  42. Mike

    After 20 plus years in ministry, I have now been unemployed for almost 8 months. I am doubting my value and purpose and influence. I’m trying to cling to God in the midst of the darkness but the discouragement continues to rise.

  43. Leesa

    Lysa, your new book is just what I need. My husband’s job position changed recently and it’s been hard adjustment. Things happened that weren’t quite fair but through it all we’ve put our hope in his sovereignty. It’s a long process working through the hurts this has caused in our lives. Trusting God we are relying on his faithfulness to see us through.

  44. Laurie

    The words of the old hymn play through my head, “My hope is build on nothing less than Jesus and His righteousness.On Christ the solid rock I stand.”

  45. Sherri Coon

    Lysa, my story parallels yours, as you have let us in on your deepest and most painful circumstances. I am still in the midst of years of infidelities and mistrust in marriage. I am understanding more and more that healing just may not be what my cries have been. Thank you for your blog and your leadership.

  46. Andrea

    Well, I’m really trying to cling to the promises of God….that he delivers us when we trust in Him.

  47. Kim

    Storms are so HARD. They actually stink. I wont speak any Christianese in this comment, I am spent with this season, heartache after heartache I DO HAVE hope. Just want this season to be over ..then again do I really hope that? Wont the next season be tougher, harder or easier because of this one?
    Thank you Lisa for sharing where your seasons are.

  48. Karen

    I cling to the promises of God shared in His Word. I cling to God’s love, sovereignty and wisdom. I cling to the certainty of eternal life. I cling to the old rugged cross.

  49. Kelly

    I have been through many of the same life changes you have Lysa and trusting God as He has seen me through and will continue to see me/us through the fallout and restoration of choices made. He is faithful ❤️

  50. Jan G.

    Good Morning!

    Your new book and the devotions from that book could not have been very timely for me personally. On the 23rd of this month, I will be married for 5 years. This past year has been one of much hurt and betrayal. For my harsh words and actions, I have repented and asked for forgiveness from our gracious Lord and from my husband. My husband has not demonstrated that he has repented and asked for forgiveness for his recent affair from the Lord and especially not me. I continue to pray for repentance, transformation and healing. I know the Lord is doing a good work in me and I am so thankful for that. As you said in today’s devotion, my “hope must be tied to the unchanging promised of God”. And I wait expectantly for how He will ultimately bring good from our situation. I cling to Him who is unchanging who grants me peace to journey this most difficult path. I am so excited to be joining you next week on the 13th for the special evening with you and other sisters. Always praying continuously and loving unconditionally. Blessings!

  51. P B

    Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.

    This test is your storm Lyrics:
    Verse 1
    I have listened to you, I heard you request,
    I’ve come to tell you that it’s only a test;
    just hold on through your storm be strong,
    just hold on, this test is your storm,
    but it won’t be long, go through, hold on.

    Verse 2
    So your daughter won’t hear you,
    your son could care less,
    seems they’ve done all to hurt you, but it’s only a test;
    just hold on through your storm be strong,
    and hold on, this test is your storm,
    but it won’t last long, go through, hold on.

    (Don’t you know the darkest time in your life is)
    just before the break of dawn.
    (All your battles I will fight if you just)
    just hold on, hold on, hold on.

    Your tears have been plenty in the still of the night,
    You’ve prayed, now you’re empty just too weak to fight.
    Just hold on through your storm, be strong and hold on,
    this test is your storm, but it won’t be long,
    go through, hold on.

    You say you’ve been wounded,
    you’ve given your best,
    you’ve been misunderstood, but it’s only a test,
    (This test is your storm),
    (it won’t be long, go through, hold on).

    Vamp 1
    I’m able to deliver,
    hold on, hold on

    Vamp 2
    I’m able, I can help you,
    hold on, hold on.

    Vamp 3
    I’m able, I can heal you,
    hold on, hold on

    Vamp 4
    Hold on

    Vamp 5
    Never the less,
    it’s only a test, hold on.

    I have listened to you, I heard you request,
    I’ve come to tell you that it’s only a test;
    just hold on through your storm be strong,
    just hold on, this test is your storm,
    but it won’t be long, go through, hold on.

  52. Sheila Wolf

    I am tying my hope to God’s promises. I trust that He has the best in mind for me even when I can’t see it for myself.

  53. T J Walker

    I know that no matter what I am going through, God is always with me.

  54. Angie Bell

    A close friend of mine lost her 23 year old son due to drug use and health issues. He died after spending 3 days in hospital. Her 22 year old daughter was at someone’s house 2 days ago when they died of a Herron overdose. She never expected her life to be like this. I would use this book to encourage her.

  55. Linda Saffron

    Hoping & praying for clear direction for my pastor as he struggles with disappointments and burn-out in his ministry. Hope that he finds a way to continue to pastor my church in Rock Hill. He’s anointed by the Lord!

  56. Regina B Penman-Garcia aka Gigi Garcia

    This season I’m hoping that the hurt from finding out my husband has been having an affair with my ex BFF of 46 years subsides; that I am able to start the process of a divorce and not get taken advantage of; that I find a job since I was riffed due to an organizational restructuring and that I keep God in the forefront and stop fretting over my life which is a mess right now.

  57. Keri Carnicom

    It is often hard, but I must continue to tie my hope to Jesus! Thank you for this reminder, I LOVE the books I’ve read of yours so far and hope I will get to read this one too…sounds like its a book I could REALLY use lol

  58. Jamie Shannon

    In this season of my life I am in a time of waiting. I have so many unanswered questions and sometimes I feel like I am just a kite in the wind. God continually tells me to trust Him and that is all I can do. Through all the heartaches and ups and downs it is so hard sometimes. Thank you for this message, it spoke to deeply to me and reminds me to not lose hope. It reminds me to trust Him even when I can’t see the other side.

  59. Anita

    Oh sweet sister so loved by God. Our lives have paralleled a bit so this draws me closer to God & always lifting you up in my prayers. I know God is with us no matter what season we are in. However I do cry out in the night as you have. It’s so hard, but I know His plan is greater than mine, so I will continue to focus on His work in my life & trust a new season is on the horizon. Bless you and your ministry it reaches so many that need to hear your message.

  60. Briar

    Hurting but still hoping! Thank you for your words and sharing your heart!

  61. Kathy Paine

    Thank you Lisa for sharing this message and your walk with God. The sad times as well as the happy times God allows us and His timing! Some things we will never know why they happened to us but God knows …. perhaps poor choices on our part initially? Thank you for your ministry and your perseverance and your love and your talent writing and producing books!!!

    • Kathy

      Think I need to clarify now that I re-read my first comment….did not mean to imply that all things that happen to us are due to our poor choices …. I was thinking of my marriage/divorce particularly. God is with us and I love that He tells us NOT TO WORRY about anything for He takes care of all things! God continue to BLESS you in all aspects of your life Lisa! He has appointed you for this ministry and you are fulfilling it daily … marching to the beat of God’s drum! promises! joy! love! Hugs!

  62. JoAnn

    Thank you for this devotional. After reading this, I know I have to tie my hope in Jesus.

  63. Julie G

    I tie my hope to God’s promises! My favorite is in Philippians 4:6-7.

  64. Brenda Rolling

    What encouragement, I needed it so much today. My sweet husband passed 15 years ago, leaving me with an 18 yr old, 13 yr old (daughters) and an 11 month old son. It has been the hardest journey ever. Both my girls have walked away from the Lord. Now my grandchildren are having struggles a 12 and 13 year old should not have. I keep claiming my family In Jesus name and praying over them. But I am discouraged and tired. THanks for always being so transparent and encouraging women!

  65. Donna Carman

    Lysa, thank you so much for just being you! You have encouraged me through the darkest days to keep hoping, truss un and hanging on to the promises of God. It feels like I have been praying forever, but in reality it is about 20 years for my children’s salvation! My husband eye have a blended family of 5 amazing you men, some of who are now husbands and fathers. They are good boys, good partners and good fathers, but have yet to surrender their hearts and lives to the King of Kings. I have also prayed tirelessly for healing of loved ones. Just when I think I cannot pray another prayer, you bring me home and encouragement! You are a Warrior Daughter and you have been a blessing. Soldier on and I will soldier on beside you.
    Your Sister in Him, Donna

  66. Carla Davis

    I’m choosing to quit wallowing in my issues & start believing that He is looking out for me. That He has a plan in all of this. Thank you for reminding me of this & helping me get my perspective back. He is my Rock, my Refuge & my Deliverer! I have just lost sight of that.

  67. Angela

    Thank you for writing this post, Lysa. I always find your books and blog post so encouraging. My husband and I are trying to recover from a story similar to yours and the road has been VERY hard and painful. But I do have hope! I know God is doing a good work in me whether things work out with my husband or not. He will continue working to lift me out of the miry pit and every day I am getting stronger and stronger. Thanks again for being willing to be vulnerable with your story. It give others hope and inspiration!

  68. Kim

    I’m pushing in to Him when I feel like pulling away because my hope is in Him. Thanks for your encouraging truths. We all have stuff that breaks our hearts – right now mine is a teen child struggling with anxiety/OCD. I had no idea my child tries to get lines out of the carpet 30-40 times a day.

    • Jacoba Leyenhorst

      Hi Kim – we too have a child really struggling with OCD. It is a tough one, a very difficult disorder to understand, and I feel for your family also.

  69. Carol Lawrence

    I am trying to keep hold of hope and faith through some of the darkest times in my life. I have stood by as my husband became totally disabled through extreme health issues, he lost his 20 year career, we lost our home and now I am watching my children struggle with issues I can’t fix. I think that the hardest struggle is watching those I love go through things that are hard and unfair. I was just praying this morning – “Lord I believe-Help my unbelief”. It has been 7 years of struggle and I am still trying to keep my head on and hope in my God. Some days are better than others, and some days the pit is dark and there seems to be no light or hope. I really needed your words today, my strength is failing, but I know “when I am weak He is made strong”. Tomorrow is a new day. I need His light to shine on it.

  70. Barbara Marty

    Faith over fear….waiting and trusting. That is what I am trying to do. My son (married, father of 3 young sons, BS in Nursing) had a psychotic break 3 1/2 years ago and is lost in a world of mental illness. There have been so very many cries out to God for healing and restoration. It has helped my faith (after spending months in the pit) in that I now love God for who He is and not because of what He may or may not be doing in my live and the lives of those I love)…but it is hard to see the Romans 8:28 in my son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildrens’ lives.

  71. Maggie Jones

    I tie my hope to God’s purpose for my life through His promises in His Word.

  72. Ande

    I love what you wrote about the most beautiful praise songs are the ones that come out of the guttural pain and cries. So beautiful, challenging, and encouraging. I appreciate your story and your writing more than you could ever imagine.

  73. SG

    I choose to tie my hope to the unconditional love of our Heavenly Father. That as a loving and caring Father, He wants the best for me and even though I’m walking through the valley in certain areas of my life, He is with me through the way. And I might not see the light, my hopes might go down some times. But He is faithful to His promises, He is loving and caring, and He knows what is best for me. I am never alone, He does listen to my cry but He has a better way to answer to that cry.

  74. Kim

    I’m tying my hope to the One & Only Jesus and praying that He will take my mess and turn it into a message that will help lead others to Him!

  75. Charlotte

    I tie my hope to God’s Promise that He and He alone will cover my iniquities, especially as a parent. My husband and I have and do our very best to raise our 3 children to love Jesus and their Heavenly Father, and they do. But being an imperfect person, I know I’ve made mistakes and probably will make more as we parent them into you g adulthood. God will cover my iniquities with His grace!

  76. Cassandra

    Lysa, Thank you for your words today. I needed them, the reminder. I’ve been going through a rough patch with health, finances and anxiety for the upcoming crazy work season in a tax and accounting office. I needed the reminder that He has it all planned out and I need to trust Him through this season of trial, frustration and seasoning. Blessings to you.

  77. Jacoba Leyenhorst

    In this season of kids who are struggling with serious illnesses, I am choosing to tie my hope to the fact that God is good.

  78. Kendra Keffer McBeth

    I am tying my hope to Jesus. He’s the only one that can get me through this.

  79. Terri Pierce

    Looking forward to reading this book after going through some hard stuff. I am striving to tie my hope to the Lord as I know He is our only true source of hope.

  80. Mary

    Our daughter shut us out of her life almost 2 years ago. I feel this devotion was written just for me. Many nites I have cried out to the Lord. Sometimes I’m strong and sometimes wonder how I can cope. Thank you for these words of hope just when I needed them today. Bless you.

  81. Lani

    I will tie my hope to the truth that God sees my son and can rescue him, I can’t.

  82. Nina

    I am tying my hope in God’s unconditional love in the midst of my illness and hard circumstances, and the fact that He is never-changing. I would love to win this book!

  83. Heather W

    I’ve been through divorce and now a break up from a relationship with a man I thought God brought to me in the last 3 years. I hold on to God’s promise that he is in control and he will deliver. It’s so hard to feel alone and want the love of another person but I am trying to remember that God loves me and that is all I need.

  84. Tami French

    My hope is built on nothing less
    Than Jesus Christ, my righteousness;
    I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
    But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.
    On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
    All other ground is sinking sand,
    All other ground is sinking sand.

  85. Wendy

    Lisa honestly I am choosing to tied my hope to believing everything God says about me and everything he has called me to do and be, despite what my enemies may say. God has work for me to do in his kingdom and all I have to do is believe and see myself the way God sees me. I would love a book but I didn’t even post this for a book. I just want to be free to be what God needs me to be. I’ve doubted what he has placed in me way too long. Lord I believe you and I receive you. In Jesus name. Please lift me up in your prayers

  86. Sherri Longnecker

    I hoping that God sees me and hears me. Because right now I don’t feel that he does. I think this book can really help me. Thank You Lysa for having the courage to write this book.

  87. Angela Cobb

    Thank You Lysa,
    I had a it’s not suppose to be this way especially today. It’s affecting me physically and mentally. Reading your blog today, shifted my prayers in a way where I can stop feeling useless, because of the flow of tears. Thank you and blessings to you.

  88. Randi

    I am post abortive and I am standing on the promise that I finish a book I have started about the after math of abortion, ministering to Post abortive women, and stop the unborn from being killed. My mission is to help women, and young girls, who have had an abortion, learn how to forgive themselves, through my experiences. I know God is preparing me, but like your article, I have cried out, and feel as if He isn’t listening. But I do put on my praise music, read my Bible, and continue to pray!!!
    Thank you for this article. I needed it.
    In Christ,

    • Mandi

      This is truly hard work and something most of the Christian community would prefer not to talk about. God bless you in this ministry. Thank you for being faithful to be His hands and feet for a hurting population of women and men.

  89. Sandra J

    Thank you for the beautiful thoughts on this Psalm. “The most powerful praise songs are often guttural cries of pain that got turned into beautiful melodies.” Thanks for this encouragement!

  90. Jenny

    I am relying on God to hold me through the long moments of chronic illness. He will work good from what was meant for evil. Thank you for continuing to wrote the words on your heart Lysa!

  91. Jayne

    I’m standing on the truth, not the news. The truth that if God is for us, who can be against us?
    That He is able, more than able and that His faithful love ensures forever. He is good.
    Psalm 136:1

  92. Gretchen Scoleri

    Tying my hope to My Maker/Hudband to love and care for me!

  93. Marsha Patton

    My prayer is that my daughter will turn away from homosexuality and return to a relationship with Christ and worshiping God.

  94. salliekay

    This was a God-sent post for me to read today. Thank you! I am choosing to tie my hope to the only good God that is at work in our Student Ministry for good. I cannot see exactly what He is doing and I am down trodden, but His words through you are restoring my heart that He is at work and I will be still and wait on Him to show us what He has in store!

  95. Katherine Jones

    Hurting but still hoping. Words to live by today. Thank you for these.

  96. Renee' Fowler

    I couldn’t help but think of my friend and Bible study buddy as I read your blog post above. She has been through so much in her life, especially in the past year. And yet, through all of it, she has held on to her faith and has hope in Him, even as she looks down the road to where her health issues will take her. I have been through my own share of things as well. If it hadn’t been for my Lord and my faith in him,there would have been no real, true hope.

  97. Elissa Shirrell

    I’m tying my hope to the blessed assurance I have that God values and adores me even in the midst of out-of-whack physical and emotional feelings (they ARE connected, and chronic illness messes with one’s perception and emotions when doing the mom and wife thing full-time). Especially as we get busy with holiday season, I know that I can remain joyful and not sink into those times where I want to just “run away” (as you discuss in Uninvited, Lysa).

  98. Pat Stevens

    Thank you for sharing your story Lysa! God Bless you and your family!

  99. Cary

    After the loss of my oldest son in a car accident, my life was shattered to the point I wasn’t sure I would survive the pain. Life is NOT supposed to be this way! Countless times I cried out to Him and as only God can do, He breathed His breath of life into my shattered heart, propped me up, and led me as a middle school Bible teacher to point to our Redeemer God. He does not waste one thing. He tells us to “look up!” Our hope rests in the Promise of our Jesus! In Christ Alone…

  100. Kimberly

    Finally giving up my hopes for what the Lord hopes for me!!

  101. Amy Jo M.

    Wow! Lysa, your words of hope always seem to come at just the right time. You are the second person in the last 2 days to speak words of life into my hopelessness. Words of Life! Those are what I am tying my hope to right now in this season. (Reminds me of the phrase, when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!) I am tethered by words to the One who spoke the very first words and continues to breathe to my soul through His word and others. Thank You, Lysa, for allowing Him to speak through you. God Bless you!

  102. Cynthia

    He hasn’t given up on me!

  103. Mandi

    I’m tying my hope to the promise that He never leaves me nor forsaken me. Although at times I feel so alone and forsaken, He is my refuge and hiding place and is always faithful.

  104. Kari Ellis

    This is just what I needed to hear. My husband and I are going through a season of uncertainty of many things. We are holding to the promise that He will never leave us or forsake us.

  105. Vanna Harris

    I can’t wait for this book, it is something I have struggled with for many years!

  106. Lynn

    I’m placing my hope in His sovereign plan

  107. Teresa Tompkins

    I lost my husband of 43 years a little over 2 years ago and was his caregiver for 10. God put someone in my life recently to have coffee or go to dinner; however, this person is possibly fighting cancer for the third time. I believe this person has been put in my life to encourage and lift up during this season in his life. I feel this book will be a resource for me to offer hope to someone else.

  108. Julie W.

    Clinging to the One the controls the wind and the seas.

  109. Shelly Cline

    I am clinging to the hope that God is good all the time even while life doesn’t seem that way. We have adopted children who have reached teenage years and it is miserably hard. We really thought live was all they needed—just like our bio kids. WRONG. Life hurts—but God is good.

  110. Dawn

    It has been more than 13 years of cries, tears, prayers, screams, you name it – I probably did it while I cried out to God for help. I am clinging to the very message you just wrote about. Somehow in his time and his way all will work out for good. I don’t always believe this but I keep coming back to it. Hoping.

  111. Beverly Allan

    I so appreciate you and your strength. You inspire us to hold on in spite of our circumstances. I feel God has blessed me every time I receive your e-mail messages.

  112. Sheri Wilson

    Spiritual growth for my church myself and my church family. Salvation for lost souls.

  113. Mrs Loni Garcia

    My oldest child is heartbroken that the man she thought was her God given forever companion has pushed her out of his life. Our tears flow daily. But my faith is strong. My prayer is that hers will strengthen as she cries out “why?”

  114. Lynn Utley

    Knowing that Jesus is on the other side of whatever I’m going through, He is my hope!

  115. Stefany

    My family

  116. Laura

    I am having hope for another baby as we lost one this last spring. And I am believing that God is still good even when my heart aches and longs.

  117. Patty Clark

    Last month I was praying for direction and guidance. I believed with all my heart that God would inspire us to go forward, that our decisions were made with the wisdom of God, that we asked for.
    This month, I am praying for breath, for motivation, for relief from this exhausting, indescribable sadness that overwhelms me. The pain is just too much. My husband of 27 years died. All the prayers and devotions have to do with the living, following God’s will…. I know I am not the only woman this has happened to, I know I get to spend time with my grandchildren, I know that “life goes on,” I know I have to “take one day, even one minute at a time.” But cliches don’t really help, although I know I have to go on.

  118. Caitlin

    I had tears in my eyes when I read this. There is a process before a promise. And God is in every in between moment of it all. He gives me permission to fully grieve and to fully hope simultaneously. His arms wrap wide around my suffering and surrender to his weight, his control. Because suffering may seem big but it is held in the arms of a bigger savior who will not let me be crushed.

    I would love to win a copy if Lysa’s new book. I recently purchased several of books and God used her message to minister to me in a season of rejection. And I would love to hear him speak to me in this new book as well.

  119. Debra M

    Sometimes just sitting in the waiting, is just so real and the waiting and hoping seems so far away. Help me Lord to find the joy in the waiting, because you are working even when I can’t see it.

  120. Laura Born

    My precious mother passed away in 2013 from a 3 year battle with cancer. She was my rock and the only female in my immediate family (I have 2 brothers, and 2 teenage sons). When she was diagnosed w/ cancer in 2010, I was filing for divorce from my first husband (and father of my children). I had also been a stay-at-home mom for over 10 yrs, and had to re-enter the work force full time (I am a physical therapist). And, as always seems to happen when someone is going through a tragic event, i.e. divorce, you learn who your friends are, and who they aren’t. My “friends” faded away into the woodwork, even the couple of ladies I thought I could always count on pretty much abandoned me. My parents lived 6 hours away from me and were focusing on Mom’s cancer treatments, so they couldn’t come to me and support me through my divorce, and I couldn’t support my Mom by going to her, becasue I was begnning a new job. I was extremely bitter and lashed out at God repeatedly. Since then, I’ve met a wonderful man who I married in 2014. He started his own business 3 years ago, and it is highly successful, however he hasn’t managed the finances as he should and now we owe $13,000 to the IRS because he didn’t get his ducks in a row classifying his employees correctly. There have been many other factors that have affected our finances in the past year, so we are able to pay our bills but some months we’ve really struggled even doing that, and have very little, if anything, to save or use on anything “fun.” I am 50 years old now and didn’t see myself as having to deal w/ financial struggles. I wanted to be in the phase of life where I wouldn’t have to worry if I can pay to have my car serviced, or pay to have things fixed around the house, or be able to help my kids w/ expenses, etc. This year my father passed away in July, and then my mother’s only sibling, my precious aunt, passed away in September. So it’s been an extremely stressful year.
    My husband and I joined a church last year, Church of the Highlands, based in Birmingham, AL. I began healing those wounds and addressing the bitterness and regret but I am definitely in a season of long-suffering, but I have finally come to the place where I am trusting God to help us move through this phase of life. I am experiencing more peace than I have in many years. There are still many days where I go into panic mode: How are we going to pay our bills? Are all of the ducks in a row w/ taxes for 2018? Etc, etc. The hardest part of all of this is trusting God to heal our financial situation.
    I had an argument with my husband recently expression my anxiety about our finances and I made the comment, “God is not going to rain money from the sky.” Well, the next day my husband was working (he is a home inspector) at a large apartment complex where the potential buyer wanted him to inspect all of the units. When he got there and was walking around to get an overview of what he had to do, he found a $100 bill at an intersection on the side of the road. There was no way he could have found who lost it, so he gave it to me. I had to believe that God’s hand was in that. You can bet I tithed 10% of that! And it did help me pay for groceries that week. If God takes care of the sparrows and the lillies, He will take care of me and our family’s needs. It probably won’t be the way I would expect it to be, but I am finally opening my heart and trusting him.
    Thank you for you blogs and even if I don’t win the book now, can’t wait to read it.

  121. Laura

    In this season where my husband has told me he loves someone else after almost 30 years, and will not even consider counseling to see if we can work it out, I am holding on by a thread, and that thread is God. Each day I simply pray to God and say “I don’t know where I’m going, and what I’m supposed to be praying for God, but I thank you for taking me where you want me to be. I will keep going, I know you have me”. Some days I believe it and feel it, other days I just keep saying it.

  122. Elsie

    I am choosing to tie my hope to our Lord and our Savior. There is nothing else. We experience joys,blessings,and wonderful times as well as tragedies,challenges,trials,suffering,sickness,and death. I need and must be tied to Him when the latter happens. I liked the way you tied Psalm 40 into this devotion. I also liked that you wrote”The most powerful praise songs are often guttural cries of pain that got turned into beautiful melodies.” Thank you. I am putting this devotion in my gratitude folder for 2018. The Lord be with us all.

  123. Tina Ackerwold

    Thank you for echoing the true promises of the Lord we desperately need to hear! Thank you for living a life worthy of the calling and being a faithful leader to so many women.

  124. Debbie C

    I am tying myself to Jesus, the author and finisher of my faith, and clinging to the hope of His promises as I walk through this dark season of ministry I don’t seem to understand. Praying for you, your family, and your ministry. I would love to win a copy of this book.

  125. Renae

    I am choosing to cling to the ROCK that is solid as my season seems to be beating me down. I know He loves me and hears my cry. You, Lysa, are real and I pray for strength and healing through your season and for the work you are spreading of HIS strength for all of us.

  126. Dawnette Powell

    Thank you for this touching article! Oh how deeply I needed it in this hard season!! I’m hoping in the Lord and trusting Him for restoration and His completeness for my marriage and family. I KNOW He is faithful it’s just so hard to walk through. May God continue to bless you and your family!!

  127. Judy ramey

    I saw you today on James Robinson and the words you dpokegrabbed my heart. I just wrote in my blog last week about my hurt through my journey raising children. I held it all in for so long. When we can help heal others then we can receive it also. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

  128. Sandy

    I wept while reading your post I got from a friend. Yesterday while driving in my car listening to Joel Osteen, he was talking about asking for a sign. I turned off the radio, and literally yelled, “ God, Holy Spirit, Jesus, give me a sign. Show me what to do. Am I on the right path? Why is this taking so long? Please give me a sign in the next 24 hours.” Now I am reading the email sent from a friend and it is this article. God will get you unstuck to plant your feet on the steady rock in his time. Wow!!! What a beautiful, powerful, emotional article you wrote. I feel 50 years is long enough. It’s going to happen.
    God Bless you!🙏😘

  129. Catherine Chiovaro

    I think you may have written this for me! Thank you. 🙂 I am tying my hope tightly to the words you have reminded me of and that it is God’s plan, not mine. So hard to remember that.

  130. Leah

    I am tying my hope to the quiet whispers of “Be still … I’ve got this.” I hear when I begin to stress out over a situation I’ve been in prayer over for a long time now.

  131. Teresa

    My heart ❤️ knows that God’s timing is perfect. I pray for peace regarding the family relationship that is hurting my heart….
    Thank you for your blog post.

  132. Carol Love

    I tie my hope to Jeremiah 29:11; “I know the plans I have for you”. I have waited for almost 40 years for my husband to come to the Lord in repentance! My dream has been that we would work together to advance the kingdom. Meanwhile, I live a nomad life with him and study and pray and “wait”.

  133. Rachel

    Recently, I went through a devastating breakup and a physical injury. The Lord took away all my forms of identity and all the people I spent my time with. I had nothing and no one but God. During this season, I read through Uninvited for the second time this calendar year and found out where I was finding my true identity. And it wasn’t in God. A few weeks ago, my ex came back to me saying he wants to be a better man and go to counseling and figure out why he is the way he is. It is so hard not to tie my hope in the possibility of him again for the future. God keeps showing me that I have to be tied to him and what he says about me. I am not insecure, but secure in Him. I am not alone, because He is always with me. It is a daily fight to stay in belief and reliance on Him. But today, I tie my hope to the truth that Jesus is my “I AM.” For everything I am not, He is. I couldn’t have gotten through the past year without you and your words from the Lord. Thank you for impacting my life so deeply.

  134. Brooke Price

    This season, I’m tying my hope to the promises of God. The promise that He is with us through every trial and season. The promise of His love, no matter how unlovable we may feel. The promise of His grace when we fall short. Most of all, I’m clinging to His promise of leading me through my life. No matter the bumps, twists and turns or how anything turns out. He will be with me and guide me through it all.

  135. Deb

    I too have been brought through many hard seasons of life, harder than I imagined they would be growing up as a preacher’s kid. And that in itself was a very difficult time, full of fear and insecurity, anger and hypocrisy. I thought God was a terrible, vengeful father, one I wanted nothing to do with. So I turned away. And then after I married, over 19 years of marriage there were several seasons of unfaithfulness – on both our parts after a time – to the point where I was done with my marriage, God (even though I had tried several times to come back, always with the same result of believing He was just waiting to pull the rug out from under me, again), and had plans to leave after one Christmas. And then…my precious 16-year-old daughter, my child that was my soul, died 3 weeks after. Overnight. Out of the blue. My rage and hurt at God was palpable and prolonged…for years.
    But God. He waited for me. He showed Himself to me when I was at my wit’s end, intending once again to leave my husband and my one surviving child. He brought me into the presence of dear Christian friends who sat and watched me break, then watched Him pick me up and hold me tight. Oh, how I praise Him for His faithfulness to me – even me! His mercies are new every. single. day.
    This journey with God is not for the faint of heart, but He has made it all so very desirable to keep Him first in my life (although I fail constantly). He has restored to me the “joy of my salvation,” He has given new life to my husband and me (soon to celebrate our anniversary of 43 years, having restored my husband after 31 years of marriage), and continues to show me His faithfulness, His love, His indisputable care on my life. I cannot even begin to sing of his wondrous mercies! I don’t understand why He does what He does, both seemingly good and bad, but I know – I KNOW – my Savior wants only HIS best for ME!

  136. Samantha

    Honestly, God has been drawing me closer to Him. I have been a Christian for years, but other things got in the way of my relationship with Him. School, family, husband, baby, work, fun have all distracted me from God. I have continually run to God when I am in trouble, but in times of plenty, I have tended to just live my life and not really spend time with God. But lately, God has been giving me the desire to draw closer to him into a true relationship during both the good times and the bad.

  137. Cate

    How true are your words, Lysa, that in the midst we hold on to hope, the anchor of our faith. Our hope is grounded in who He is and whose we are. Yet, wow, “the numerous hardships we are to go through on our way home” (Acts 14:22) can shake us to our core. Thanks for writing books that the Lord uses to meet us right where we are and remind us of Him. Thanks for being “real”. Struggling in a trial to hold on to Him while wrestling with questioning His sovereign will in even this!

  138. Lindsey

    I so needed this today. My hope is the LORD alone. He is the only one who will never leave us or forsake us. Thank you for the giveaway opportunity.

  139. Lynn

    My hope has to be tied to God’s goodness. And that even if what I think is best doesn’t happen God will change my mind to see it as the BEST!

  140. Nikki

    I’ve prayed for years for my husband to grow deeper in his relationship with Jesus, to show the fruit of salvation, to lead our family spiritually, and God has not yet chosen to answer that cry of my heart. I will cling to Him, knowing that His timing and ways are perfect and trusting Him to lead me in my walk every day. He is good and I trust Him!

  141. Chelsea

    Fighting through a very long season of health issues and multiple losses. I am trying to cling to the hope that God does care about my pain and that He has a plan in all of this hurt. I, too, have felt crushing disappointment after years of praying for breakthrough. I am clinging to the hope His promises are true for me.

  142. Donna Harrison

    Thank you Lysa for your honesty… so grateful for those who walk ahead and keep things real.
    Faith isn’t always pretty… sometimes down right ugly…But the God we serve is so much bigger than the mess and is Forever Faithful… the answers don’t always come the way I would like, but oh the Peace that is sent my way and guess what Peace is exactly what I need.
    Praying for you and your family my friend and for that Peace that’s talked about that passes all understanding…. He will turn our mourning into dancing!
    Donna H.

  143. Brooke

    What a beautiful word!

  144. Juli

    My hope is in the Lord alone. I know He is always near.

  145. Kim M

    This season my hope is tied to the restoration of my marriage in Jesus.

  146. Elizabeth Sayre

    Hope is the anchor for the soul. I’m trusting God is ordering the deatails of our story, our journey.

  147. Lily

    I’m choosing to tie my hope in God’s Word. In his process and in his promise. Because both are infallible.

  148. Charity

    I’m tying my hope to Jesus. He is the only secure anchor for my soul. And he will never let me adrift.

  149. Grace Miller

    So many times I catch myself echoing those same words under my breath: it’s not supposed to be this way. And sometimes, it really does seem unnecessary and unfair. But I read this quote by Lysa a few days ago and I sent it to a friend. She said, “God’s plans don’t have to match ours for them to still be good.” That is where I am tying my hope: in His plan, not mine.

  150. Kelly Cool

    The hope that God loves me.

  151. Suzanne Haidri

    On April 2nd this year I was diagnosis with Parkinson’s Disease. Needless to say my life is not what I thought it would be. I had to give up my teaching. Which I loved so much. Preschoolers are in a continuous state of wonder. Through many losses I have found out that indeed I am not alone, but treasured and loved even though I am a broken branch. I can still bloom where I am planted with my Father’s help.

  152. Lauren

    In this season of unanswered prayers I am choosing to tie my hope to the faithfulness of Him in the past and the head knowledge that my ways are not his ways nor my thoughts his thoughts. It’s certainly not easy and on many days it’s a heartbreaking mess. But I choose joy even if I can’t see how it all turns out!

  153. Nichole

    Wow; thank you for posting this…Within the past few years I have been struggling on and off with still being single, not having kiddos of my own, and (also most recently now) struggling with overcoming debt so I can start a nonprofit horse ranch. I’ve been so tempted to give up and even blame God for being mean and getting mad at Him for giving me these desires because they seem to be out of reach…but I’m beginning to see that I should bring those frustrations to Him instead of pretending I’m OK and then having these same feelings flare up a month or so after. It’s hard to be His child some seasons..but it’s an encouragement remembering that He’s in control and that He’s big enough to handle my complaints…It’s even better knowing that He welcomes them and isn’t mad when I tell Him things. I’m sure all of us commenting are going through things and probably a lot worse then my story; but if you could remember a sister in your prayers that would be great! Tired of going around this mountain and I’m longing for the courage to confront these lies and keep going forward towards the goals God has. ❤️


  154. Martin

    We receive the promises through faith and patience. The problem is that experience can be a brutal teacher in the walk of life and unfortunately people allow it to get them bitter before the reach the promise. The alternative is to be better by renewing the mind according to the inner working of the spirit of God to grow in the knowledge and admonishing of the Lord. We have this treasure in an earthen vessel that the excellency may be of Him and not of ourselves. Keep on keeping on and press on, press on press on. Lord Bless.

  155. Deana

    My hope is in the Lord alone. His ways are better than my ways. I’m in the midst of mothering a *almost* week old infant and two year old. I love them both more than words can sway but that doesn’t take away the bad days I have as a mother. In those moments, I’m choosing to rest in God’s presence and allowing His grace to change me in little ways every day to be a better mom and wife.

  156. Stephanie Efird

    Your message came at a time I most needed these encouraging words. Sometimes I feel all alone, even though I know my God is with me. Why does it take a crisis to drive me closer to Him? Why can’t I enjoy everyday as the gift He gives me? Why do I make something simple so dang hard for myself? And why do I sometimes feel like ditching it all and starting over somewhere else when I have so much now? God’s message is simple but everyday life pulls us in a different direction.

  157. Linda C

    Thank you Lysa, you and P31 have helped me tie my hope and trust to The LORD over the past several years of trials and tribulations. He has drawn me closer and closer and although it had been hard, I wouldn’t change it. He has taught me so much about myself and about Himself through it all. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without having gone through the past 9-10 years.
    I can’t wait to read this book, as I was there with you in one of your working sessions in 2017. I was in the thick of my journey then and your strength in the Lord encouraged me tremendously. I have pre-ordered, but I’d love to win a copy to share with a friend or sister.
    Praise the LORD for everything He brings us to, because I now know that if He bring me to it, He will bring me through it, in His time and His way! God is good ALL the time, and God is good at being God. Thank you for all you do! May He Bless you, your family and your ministry beyond your hopes and dreams.

  158. Diane L Jensen

    Hi Lysa,
    I am a grandmother who is crying out to God to heal my grandson Clay from an inoperable tumor on his spine. He was diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2017 (only 200 new cases a year of this rare cancer). It was removed and last year spent Thanksgiving and Christmas and his 4th birthday in Gainesville, Florida getting proton radiation. This past August, he was given months to live. This Friday he goes for another MRI to see what is happening in his spine (a new tumor developed there and entwined with the nerves and he was in incruiting pain). He had radiation again to lessen the pain, along with a heavy dosage of steroids). I am praying and hoping that God has chosen to heal him and that God gets all the glory. I would love to give your book to my daughter-in-law and son.
    Thank you, Diane Jensen

  159. Sandra Steinman

    I desire to live more fully in Christ Jesus and love others as He does.

  160. Katrina

    “And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast.” – I Peter 5:10
    This verse gets me through my struggles and reminds me of His purpose!

  161. Renee Sewell

    I feel myself in a weird season where I should be happy but I just am blah. I am an Army wife and an Army mom and I use my energy to keep the family rallied but I’m tying my hope to God’s promise that He loves my children even more than I do and He has a plan even for me at this age and stage of my life!

  162. Marilyn Haugen

    When I think about disappointment and dwell on it – I see this little word “me” popping out and getting in the way. I will not tie my hope to “me” but turn and tie it to the One who never fails and whose hope does not disappoint… my Savior, my Redeemer, my Restorer, my Rebuilder Jesus Christ. Thank you Lisa for sharing your life with us.

  163. Lexi Sprague

    Leave a comment below and tell me what you’re choosing to tie your hope to in this season.

    This season, I’m choosing to tie my hope to The Lord’s truth. I often find myself trying to control every little moment in my life instead of living God’s plan for me. I even find that when I do that, I’m pulling myself away from His Word without even realizing. There are so many things I need to work on as his daughter but one thing I know for sure is that His truth will always be enough. I hope that I can come to live all my days through Him without fear, worry, anxiety, etc because I am so trusted in what he has planned for my journey.

  164. Katie

    In a failing marriage; struggling family life, superficial relationships, and shutting everyone off; I am at a lost as to how this is my “life”. It wasn’t meant to be like this. But I do know that there is Grace and beauty in struggles and that God is right there with me to turn my mistakes and troubles into triumphs and bring Him glory. I am HopeFuel that this season will pass and I am one step closer to Him! I can not wait to read this book, which I was just told about this morning in my Bible Study! Thank you!!!

  165. Penelope Letley

    Hi Lysa, thank you so much for sharing your struggles and especially the issue of breast cancer. May I encourage you in turn through my own experience of breast cancer which suddenly appeared at a time when I was busy, happy and most fit. I was scheduled for surgery and one night, looking up at the stars, and surrounded by sleeping friends, I realised how none of them, no matter how much they loved and supported me (which they truly did) could actually walk this process with me at every single step. It was just me and the Lord going out on this journey. And so it was. That was almost 15 years ago. Today I am setting out on a new cancer journey and although my guess is that it will be very rough in places, am so glad that I have the same assurance that Jesus will be with me in my shoes, walking each step. Am praying for you that you will be comforted in the same way and that your dearest humans will also come in loving support. So sorry that your marriage has problems but can only pray that Jesus will be there in that situation too. I look forward to meeting you one day in His presence. Much love from the other side of the world.

  166. Jana

    When I wake in the night I usually am fearful of something, sometimes real and sometimes imagined. I always cling to Psalm 37:3
    Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture

    God reminds me that I am safe; he has provided for me and always will. I need to dwell in the safety of my green pasture.

  167. Bethany

    Today, I am planting my hope in His unfailing, unchanging, and forever eternal truth. Praying the fruits of the spirit be the overflow of my heart. We have so many opportunities in our circumstances to be radically changed by God’s love. Letting His plan override our selfish desires. Being still. Knowing He is God.

  168. Suzanne

    I can hardly wait to read your new book!

  169. Jenna

    This season I leave my marriage to God. I’ve spent eight long years trying to navigate it myself and literally have ran in place and ended up exhausted,confused and even more lonely than ever. Through a freedom group we started going to I’ve realized how Jesus wants us to release it all to Him because it ALL belongs to Him. Through having a relationship with Jesus i will never feel lonely or unloved and with that power comes peace. Peace in my marriage. Doesn’t that sound beautiful? Everyday is a new obstacle but i now have the creator of all things helping me through it all

  170. OneFreeGirl

    This has been the hardest few years of my life!! And yet where I can see the most change in certain areas. My heart may hurt at times and a deep breath is sometimes hard to take But my heels are dug in to the red clay mud and I’m white knuckle holding on! I’m tieing my HOPE to GODS PROVISION

  171. Angela Woolard

    I have a friend who has gone through so much in the last few months – losing her mother and a lot of other things. I would love to give this book to her to encourage her and remind her that God has not forgotten her.

  172. Kay

    Here’s what I learned from an extremely difficult period in my life.
    My 25 year marriage falling apart was a blessing in two ways. First it brought God back into my life (I had drifted away, God did not move away) and I was better off divorced (which was a real surprise but God already knew what I needed).
    My son’s death two years later provided me with the ability to speak with a close friend who lost his son a few years after mine and went through a very difficult time. (God provided me with my first grandchild on the day of my son’s funeral. Something to remind me life goes on which he knew I would need).
    My jobs changed twice…but always for the better…God provided the strength I needed to make the change. I was laid off once for four months which taught me deeper trust and stronger faith in the Lord. All my needs were answered.
    Each event drew me closer, provided for me and blessed me with everything needed. But the biggest thing I learned was that sometimes, others grow closer to Christ while watching us go through things and that the timing of the Lord is not always for my benefit but for others. If I concentrate more on ways my trials benefit others, I don’t feel the trials as deeply.
    My prayers are with you during this season and I know the possibilities of where this will end up are endless. It always amazes me with what God pull into my life that I didn’t even know I wanted or needed.

  173. lori

    was not able to post a comment, your site stated it was a duplicate

  174. Barbara

    Looking forward to your new book.

  175. Charika Arthur

    I saw your interview on the Today show and it really blessed me. Nothing has turned out like I thought it would in my life. But, in the midst of the challenges, I have learned to truly depend on God financially, physically, and spiritually. However, many times I grow weary waiting for my change. I have a tendency of jumping ahead of God and trying to make things happen. But, in this season the Lord has shut me down and has closed doors so that I can rest in him. It has been the hardest, yet most peaceful time in my life. But, I’m grateful for this season of rest and restoration. In the world of social media people (including many public Christian figures) show a life that seems perfect. Thank you for sharing the difficult parts of your life to help other depend on God through life’s most challenging times.

  176. LaToya Williams

    In this season, I am tying my hope to the God that is faithful. He is faithful to bring me through any situation and supply me with hope and love and peace while doing so. In my current daily life, some days it is difficult to see the good in people and it is easy to feel and become hopeless. But God remains faithful to show His love for me to let me know that He is there, always.

  177. Kris

    In the midst of heartbreak and discouragement, I cling to God’s promise that He can do anything (He raises the dead!), and He loves me with a perfect love. I’m in a role where many depend on me, and I want to be sure to share God’s hope and love. I’m in a season of depending on Him for daily strength, hope and nourishment.


    Lysa, I ‘ve read many of your books, given your books as gifts and not until the last few years have I found a deeper connection with you as I have worked through some very difficult and similar situations as you have shared. I see you apply the faith that I profess and want to live out! thank you so much! I would love to have your newest book!

  179. She Luster

    In this season I am tying my hope for God to reveal His plans for my granddaughter, who was diagnosed with ALL (an aggressive form of leukemia on Christmas Eve 2017. She is 24 years old and is praying for God to reveal His plans for her future.

  180. Amy W.

    I sit here with tear filled eyes. After over a year of trying to conceive a child and 5 months of IUI procedures, we had another negative test today. I can’t explain the pain I feel. I’m having the hardest time understanding this trial. I didn’t expect or want this road we are going down. I am very much the hurting, but hoping person. I have days where I feel so close to God and days I feel so far. I am trying to take it day by day and purposefully putting my faith and hope in my powerful God.

    If I’m honest, I saw this book being advertised a couple months ago and though to myself, “that book looks so good, but hopefully I won’t ‘need’ that book”….hoping of course we would be expecting by now and my current “trial” would be over.

    This was what I needed today: “Keep crying out to Him, friend. Keep hoping in Him. And know that God will take every cry you’ve uttered and arrange those sounds into a glorious song.”

    I can’t wait to read this book.

  181. Marie

    “Lord help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I can’t handle together”

  182. Melissa

    I hold to the promise that He will never leave or forsake me, that Ecc. 3:11 is true in my life, that He has made ALL things beautiful, even the unexpected hurts and fears that come my way. I choose joy. I choose to trust Him.

  183. Heather

    I found out a month ago that my husband was in an intimate relationship with my best friend. The double betrayal is heart wrenching and unbearable at times. My husband has since moved out and is unsure if he wants to fight for our marriage. We have two young children who desperately want their Daddy back. I cling to the cross and to the steadfast love of the Lord. I hope in the Lord and He sustains me. I cling to my Bible and I hang on every last word I read as if my life depended on it. Great is Your faithfulness!

  184. Rosemary

    Thanks for your devotions! They have been such an encouragement and I always look forward to them.
    I’m also going thru a rough time and at times all I want to do is give up and quit. But God is much bigger than me and my struggle and he can get me thru.
    I choose not to be discouraged because I know there is someone he’s showing /teaching me thru this. And I can trust in the fact, that tho sometimes it feels like God doesn’t answer my prayer and isn’t listening, he actually is listening and answering. Although it’s sometimes in a way I don’t want.
    Thanks so much for sharing:)

  185. Ashley

    It’s the first time I read a blog of yours and really all those words and verses of the Bible gave me hope in Christ Jesus, when I thought I had no hope God puts people like you to talk to us and remind us to wait and trust The. This season I will put my hope in Christ and wait for everything that has to wait, his times are always perfect.

  186. Kara

    In the midst of waiting, I am choosing – moment by moment – to place my trust in God, the ultimate author of my story. Although my situations and dreams may not turn out as I originally hoped, I know God will remain faithful and that His goodness covers me. The creator of the universe is lovingly growing me & preparing me for what is to come, which makes every day a day of thanksgiving.

  187. Mary Sandine

    I’m also a first time reader of your blog, but not your books and look forward to “It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way”. Your words are often blessings to my soul! Thank you.

  188. Brenda

    I bought your book today and haven’t been able to put it down. My marriage of 20 plus years ended 11 years ago due to his affair, a year following that I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, a teenage daughter with addiction and the list goes on. In January my ex husband, the father of my 3 adult children died. I in many ways became angry all over again. Eleven years ago he left, started a new life and I had to be mother and father to shattered kids while being totally broken myself. After all the time that has passed I still feel very lost and alone. Thank you for being so open about your own disappointments and sharing hope in the midst of them.

  189. Amanda

    This year my hope is tied to God for my marriage and my health. My marriage has been through similar cycles you have written about before, and trying to rebuild and restart while seeing similar mistakes being made is difficult and hard for me to navigate. My health, I recently had a less than desirable biopsy result of my thyroid and am trusting God for wisdom in making big decisions moving forward, as well as taking care of my heart and my my 3 kids (5,3 and 1) in the process of navigating treatments and surgery. I cannot wait for this book to be released as I believe it was written just for me.

  190. Sonya

    I am choosing daily to trust God in the pain and confusion. I know He has a bigger plan than what I can see now, a GOOD plan. Even through the endless pain, tears and confusion I choose to trust. Even the really hard days where I don’t want to get out of bed and do life. Just keep trusting.

  191. Vicke Miles

    Hi Lisa, I just heard your message on focus on the family….I also have been through the season of my husband’s unfaithfulness…his girlfriend also had gotten pregnant when our daughter was only 3 months old……Our story didn’t turn out so well…I tried for over a year but he was still seeing her. Our marriage is over but I know I did everything that I could and I waited for God to show me the answer. It was the hardest time of my life and it is still hard sometimes. I just try to give every day to the Lord. Thank you for showing your heart and letting us know you have struggles much the same as we do.

  192. Amber Nell

    Hi Lisa-

    I have been living separated for over a year from my husband. I too know God can … but even if he doesn’t … I will praise Him. For what else do I have… only God alone. This isn’t what I’d hoped or expected(and I had expected plenty from the enemy)… it is more weight than I can bear. Every day I have to think .. maybe today. Maybe today will be the day that God does a miracle. I don’t want to give up too soon…. because maybe today.
    I hold out in this hope.

    My heart is with you and I thank you for your boldness in sharing!

  193. Denise M Davidson

    Lysa,I am not sure if you will read this comment. I wanted to thank you for sharing your story in your new book It’s not supposed to be this way. I just finished reading the entire book. I cried and for the first time in depth found my difficulties as a treasure. They are treasures as it is part of the process and I have a stronger relationship with the Lord. I have bought a copy to share with a friend. I hope to buy all my ladies a copy for Christmas. Using this book as a tool, I hope to strengthen my walk with Lord. One of the beautiful points of the book was when Jesus places the crown on our heads and we give it back to Him. Please pray for me to trust Him with my finances. I am a single mom with three girls in college. I want to do his Will and help more women to know Him. Thank you again for pouring out your heart. It helped me in more ways than I can share here. You and your family are in my prayers. Denise

  194. Nancy

    God has been prompting me all weekend to offer this here. It is a prayer that I wrote many years ago after my father had made the difficult decision to put my mother in a nursing home because of Alzheimer’s. He accused me of being able to see inside his mind, but the words I wrote were given to me by God for him. Maybe the words were given to me by God for someone else as well. The title of your book is part of what prompted my searching out this prayer. When you read it you will understand why.

    Lord, when we married so many years ago, we had just hopes and dreams. We saw ourselves becoming parents, raising our children together, then spending our golden years pursuing activities that struck our fancy. But that is not how it has turn out, Lord, and it has left me angry and confused. Yes there have been plenteous blessings throughout the years, but now illness has robbed me of the spouse I married all those years ago. No longer does she, no longer does he have the same spark in his/her eyes that once was there. There was a time when we talked about all kinds of things, sharing our ideas, energized by the exchanges. But now she/he can only get out a few words and they do not always make sense. WHY LORD? I do not understand this confusing new normal in my life. Why has this person that I once knew so well become a stranger to me? Why does he/she do the things that she/he does, things that he/she cannot explain? I am angry, God, because this was NOT HOW IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE! We were supposed to be enjoying this time together with children grown and grandchildren almost so. But she/he doesn’t remember the grandchildren and barely remembers the children who are unable to visit regularly. Our days were supposed to be pleasant not filled with fights about what needs to be done. I thought that once our last child was out of diapers, that would be the end of changing those except if I chose to do so on grand or great-grandchildren. I look in the eyes of the one I love and I see confusion and it leaves me frustrated that I cannot alleviate that confusion for him/her. My brain can understand all the literature about what is happening, but my heart is breaking every day as I watch her/him slowly but surely slip away, knowing that there is nothing I can do to stop it but wanting with all my might that I could. I know our children try to do what they can, but they are the children, not the spouse. I struggle everyday, Lord. I find that I am leaning on You more than ever, yet my heart goes on breaking. I struggle as well, Lord, as my own health is not always the best and there are times when I resent having to deal with her/him. There are times when I just want everything to be less stressful. Yes there are day cares, in home care, family care, etc., but late at night, it is just me an him/her. Bless me please, dearest Father in Heaven. Bless me with patience with the situation in which I now find myself. Bless me with more than enough support and wise counsel to help me. Bless me with open ears, an open mind, and an open heart that I heed the counsel You send me. Bless me with the humility to ask for help when I need it, to accept help that is offered, and to understand that I do not NEED to do it all alone, that I SHOULD NOT do it all alone. Bless me with someone who understands to whom I can speak when things are bad and when things are good so that they may support and celebrate with me. Be with my spouse as well, Lord. In the midst of all the confusion, in the midst of all the forgetting, bless her/him that they will never forget You. Help him/her to always know that You are right there with them at all times. While You are at it, Lord, please bless me with the same. Enfold us both in Your loving arms, calming the storms inside, and filling us to overflowing with Your love and peace which surpasses all human understanding. Thank You God. Thank You for all the years together You have given us. Thank You for loving us no matter what has happened in our lives. Thank You for being there for us each and every day including right now. Thank You for listening. In the name of Jesus Christ I pray. Amen.

  195. Mia

    Lysa you are one inspiring and strong woman of God!!! I read uninvited and am half way through your newest book, once again I am in Awe how POWERFULLY and transparent you write. I too have been in some challenging years since being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in 2011 at 30 years old, causing a sense of loss of who I am & the mother I once was. Along with regular ups and downs in health, I too have felt empty in a marriage of 16 1/2 years because of past hurts and lack of desire on my husbands part to want to be better. I carry ALOT emotionally even when I know God knows what He is doin, but the hurt can be so unbearable most days. Since I have read half your book now I can understand mentally in such a powerful way all that u explain but it’s just getting my emotions, heart and even my mind to just let go of trying to understand “why.” I am looking forward to finishing and most likely even rereading because I have had to take a breather just to be able to absorb clarity expressed like in how our “dust” God mixes with His living water for molding and how the daughter of a potter spoke on “wise” potters knowing importance to use broken dust in new molding, WOW!!! Thank you again for your transparency, can’t wait to finish this one n see what u have next!!!! Lord bless you and your family abundantly for your Strength!!!!!💜

  196. Tammy holmes

    For the last year I have been on a journey of pain and heartache and trying to keep my head above water and my marriage in tact.. my husband suffers from depression and for the past 10 years we have lived in different places because of his job.. it’s been a beautiful life up intil a year ago when he became severely depressed.. he doesn’t want help he is angry and made some foolish foolish choices.. recently we had decided to sell everything including our home of 20 years and move to California.. for a fresh start new jobs new life yay!! Praying all the way through this I felt at peace and tried my best to instil and pray that over my husband.. long story short and many many painful events in between, I am here alone in California living at my in laws home with no job no home 2 weeks before our youngest sons wedding, which he won’t be attending.. my husband has repeatedly lied about coming here and many other things, although I don’t know the truth of many things I know that I need to move on some how some way. I haven’t worked in 30 years I have been a mom and I wife.. I like to call myself a jack of all trades king of non.. I love God and in someways I feel God is protecting me from any more pain by cutting it off.. I have learned as I have studied that infidelity isn’t just about sex, it’s also indifference and lack of respect and devotion and sacrifice.. in Jeremiah chapters 1-6 God talks about Isreal’s infidelity and he gives them his divorce papers.. I am hearrbroken and sick to my stomach I am left to journey through a wedding and navigate life with out my husband.. I don’t understand but I do know it is a very destructive marriage right now and I just pray God provides and heals.. I am not sure what else to say do or think.. it’s all I can do to keep myself getting up and doing all that I can do.. I have started reading your book and my life is dust my heart is dust.. so many broken pieces laying all over I am afraid to step for fear of stepping on another shard and puncturing deeper an already deep deep wound.: I know that nothing is impossible with God I also know that the human spirit is frail more frail than we know. I don’t know if any one will read this perhaps I just needed to put some things into words..

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