Lysa TerKeurst

Leading Women in the Adventure of Faith

3.14.2013

Bad News, Great News, and a Webcast Replay

I hope you’re having a wonderful day! We’re in the process of moving into a new Proverbs 31 Ministries office, and let me just tell you, we are sooooo very thankful for this space.

But, boy did we have a little situation here yesterday involving toilets overflowing and a ruined carpet.  That smells.  Really badly.  Like more than a Yankee Candle can handle.

And I dropped my phone in a friend’s cup of coffee.  RIP smart phone.

Have mercy.

But I have GREAT news.  If you’re one of the gals who requested the “Negative Inside Chatter” webcast replay — it’s available below! (If you’re reading this in email, click here to watch the webcast.)

If you’re scratching your head and wondering what in the world I’m talking about, here’s a recap — I recorded a webcast with my sweet friend Sheila Walsh from Women of Faith in January. We had an opportunity to recount our own personal experiences and struggles with negative inside chatter.

The replay below will be available right here on my little blog space through this Sunday. After that, you can view the replay by clicking here.

Unglued Devotional And if you’ve had a crazy situation in your life lately, do tell in the comments below. Certainly I’m not alone in the mishap department.

I’m randomly picking three commenters below to win a copy of the new Unglued Devotional: 60 Days of Imperfect Progress book.

It will help. When you want to come unglued. Like when you drop your phone in a friend’s cup of coffee.

Related Posts

No related posts.

Comments

  1. Thanks Lysa for your book and your encouraging words. It is refreshing to hear real people that love the Lord talk about how they rely on Christ each day for His Grace and Mercy. Your words have helped me tremendously…as recently as today:). After a miscommunication between friends, I was tempted to listen to the negative “cussing words” in my head and to pout or to share what my “real-not-so-nice” thoughts were with everyone…but I stopped and complained to God instead. I told Him how terribly disappointed and hurt I was and then I asked Him to just take it all and help me deal with my thoughts. Now, after getting away from the situation, I am thankful your honest words have been pouring into my life, pointing me back to my loving Father so that I chose His Words and no one else, including my own:)

    • Thank you for being obedient to God & writing this study unglugged. I picked it up randomly at a sale table at the christian bookstore. After reading just the back of it, I knew it would speak to my exact circumstances, even though I’m not a big reader. I couldn’t put it down! I’m a recovering addict & have 3 grown girls now. Almost 15 years sober now, I realize how much grace has been applied to my life, but for some reason, the old man & nature kept rearing its ugly head, not matter how much I study God’s word. I felt like I’m the only one struggling with bad, negative, mean thoughts in my head. Usually my family receives the brunt of my exploding reactions. I could see myself in all the descriptions you listed in the book & then some! Usually feeling like a mess & a failure no matter what I do. My emotions get the best of me most of the time! My Sunday School class started doing the bible study, and was so excited to be going to that now! For some reason, God speaks to me most clearly through the bible studies I’ve taken. It seems to be the method that really works for me as far as applying it to my life! Therefore I’m more than grateful for your words & am so looking forward to the next one! I now can remember that its not flesh that my battle is with, its with the powers of darkness, that had me once & really fight to get me back. Praise God for His grace!!

  2. Ewww Ewww (hand up) pick me pick me! 🙂 Pretty please. I’m loving your book “unglued’!

  3. I have just finished Made to Crave, now it’s time to read unglued and my life is falling apart with my 17year old addict son. I feel as I am on the right track with my choices in what I put in my body, now it’s time to focus on what comes out!

  4. I was talking to a friend just yesterday about how frazzled and( UN CHRIST LIKE ) I have felt over the last few weeks! I will be the first to tell you about HOW GOOD GOD IS in the middle of our trails, and yet I have found myself coming UNGLUED more than I care to say over the last few weeks!!!! My daughter(NOW 17 and 1/2) had a stroke at birth leaving her with Cerebral Palsy and Seizures.

    Feb. 5, 2013 she under went a surgery to help correct her walk a little. Goal was to give her less pain when she walks and to try to keep her from a wheel chair which could have happen as early as her mid. 20’s. So, 11 cuts on her left leg, her femur bone cut in half and 1 steel rod placed in the middle of the femur bone later……….She is well on her way to (6 -18 month REHAB to learn how to walk again! ) There is so many hats to wear mom to a kid that has to have everything done for her, mom to a 12 son who feels left out, wife to a husband who feels left out, school teacher, home rehab, driver to rehab x2 a week, Doc. appt., cooking, cleaning…ect……. and all the Guilt that comes from all of it. I missed a lot of my devo. in the hospital and that drove me crazy!!! I have found it HARD TO eat correctly(I’m putting on the weight) just in 1 month…lol. I have found it hard to LOVE like Christ. I’m trying to focus on life one moment at a time. I would Love to win! But regraudless God is faithful and He is using you in big ways…..Thanks!!

  5. My unglued moments have been more often in the last two weeks—and emphasizes why I need our God more than ever. I have always been squeamish–so when I cut my finger while cutting bread, I fainted, fell and broke my nose, requiring surgery. Of course this has made me more squeamish whenever I think about it. The Dr. sent me to a heart surgeon, who is making me wear a monitor and have all kinds of tests to make sure my heart is ok. I need to give it all to God, but feel I am keeping some of it back, and I’m not sure why. I know our Lord will take care of me. It has been a long two 1/2 weeks, and I so need to read your book. Thank you for writing it!!

  6. I share your blog and books with all of my friends. Unglued has definitely been my favorite. I would love to win the devotional and then pass it on to my friends to share your God led words of wisdom.

  7. Thank you so much for reposting this. A bunch of ladies from my church have gotten together to work through Made to Crave and several references have been made to making “imperfect progress” throughout this journey. We are on the week where we replace Guilt with Peace in Made to Crave and wouldn’t you know it?…. This has been the week that my daughter has decided to fall back into some very poor choice habits. Thus, so much less peace. and I fell victim to “Wendy’s fries will help me have some peace” Nope. no peace there….and I am trying to see my daughter’s setback as just that….Oh dear me. I definitely need to hear how to stop some negative chatter. Have a great weekend, everyone!

  8. Mishap…that is so my life right now. I forgot to take my laptop to work one day this week. I also washed and dried an entire load of clothes to realize when folding them that I forgot to add detergent to the washer.

  9. So like the book Lysa! However, my week wasn’t full of things to look back on and laugh. Just about everyone I know is dealing with a relative dying and I spontaneously broke out in horrible, horrible hives and swelling (mostly on my face) for over a week. No laughing matter when your face looks like you aged 50 years and put on 30 pounds and you still have to function in society. Praying this gets figured out soon. However, in the midst I have had some great one on one talks with friends while the kids played and I went sledding with my son solo…literally. The hill was ours. Much to be frustrated with, but much to be praised.

  10. I have been becoming “unglued” for sometime now! Much of what was discussed in the webcast has resonated with me. I have believed the feeble opinions of others, I allowed the fickle feelings of my children to determine my worth as a mother and I consistently compare my inner inadequacies to the shining exterior of others, thinking how worthless and incapable I am to handle it. I have isolated myself from others and have gone days not speaking with anyone other than my husband or children, especially not my close friends because I am so fearful of what they may think of me. I also have an issue with trusting them with my vulnerability. I have been trying to hold “unswervingly” on to faith and I know many days I survive because God is with me and loves me! Not sure where I would be without Him! I recently was laid off and had a lot of anxiety two weeks leading up to my last day, but the calmness I feel knowing God has a plan for me is easing my anxiety. Thank you for all you do! Very reassuring and helpful!

  11. I really enjoyed Unglued and would like to read the devotional when my library gets it. I felt Unglued when I deleted all the pictures on my camera by accident. Thankfully I found a $50 program that recovered almost all of them.

  12. Ok, I just came unglued after I typed out my comment and tried to post it and it said that the website was unavailable! grrrrr. Anyways my comment was I became unglued when I deleted almost 300 photos on my camera by accident! Thankfully, I found a program for $50 that recovered almost all of them. I really enjoyed Unglued and would like to read the devotional.

  13. As a mother of 7, a wife of a Godly man and a daughter of Godly parents, I have many “unglued” moments but I know that I have “compound access” to God who has torn the vail! I wish I could remember that in the heat of the unglued moment!

  14. I would love to have a copy of this book as my days are full of unglued moments anymore. Thank you for offering this, I love your books.

  15. I really needed this video today.

    Today I found out I wasn’t invited to a bridal shower OR wedding of someone I truly thought was a friend. Rather than a friend, I found out I was obviously nothing but an acquaintance and coworker. It hurt bad. I cried for over an hour. All the “negative chatter” started. “People don’t like you”, “You’re not friend material”, “You’re not good enough”. With each one I cried more.

    To combat, I joined Renee Swopes “A Confident Heart” Bible Study starting April 1st. I dug into my affirmations from that and “Made To Crave”. And of course from Gods Word. I prayed to God AGAIN to bring me true Christian friends to help me.

    I’m not “over it” yet, but I’m on my way. I wrote down Lisa’s words: “Whenever I hang my identity on the fickle opinions of others, I start to swerve away from the truth of who GOD says I am.” SO true.
    Thank you Lisa and Sheila.

  16. My unglued moment is happening now. MIL is visiting for 4 weeks and just found out my parents would like to come in the middle. Building the strength to ask them to be here the day she leaves without them feeling bad. My house is not where it needs to be 🙂 Need to remember all these things I’ve read above and relax get done what I can. Get my thermometer on a peaceful home.

  17. Lysa, I’ve been REALLY depressed lately (over the holiday season). I am working full-time and going to Midwestern BTS in Kansas City, MO 100% online FULL-TiME as well. I live alone (with 2 WILD Devon Rex kittens) and i have really let my house go: REALLY BAD. Anyway, a lady in one of my SS classes rallied the troops and she and a couple from church made a date to come to my house to help me clean. Five minutes before everyone was to arrive, A called and said she had a full-blown migraine. To make a long story short, the couple, L and M came anyway. M was at the sink trying to wash dishes and once she got down to the sink, she discovered I had a garbage disposal. Well, it didn’t work. BUT, I have a wrench to unlock the blades. So I get out my wrench but those suckers wouldn’t move. So I asked L if he would try. He got them unstuck. When Mary is washing dishes and I’m cleaning out the pantry, ALL of a SUDDEN, M screams where is ALL this WATER coming from!!! Granted, I had all the food that I was going to donate or put back in the pantry on the floor and we had a huge flood. When Lee got the disposal unstuck, it actually broke. I’m running to get towels, screaming for Mary to turn off the water main at the sink. Then Lee inspects what’s going on. The water from the sink was going into the motor of the disposal. He screams, “Turn off the BREAKER!!” Lee takes it apart and heads to Lowes, and then a second time. The day got the best of us and they promised to come over the next afternoon after church to finish installing the disposal. Another 2 trips to Lowes. But finally, it was fixed and I’m on the way to a clean house!!!!

  18. Thanks so much for your blog and your Made to Crave Challenge. God is at work through your ministry!

  19. Lysa,
    Two phone stories. First, I dropped it in a glass of ice tea at dinner one night. No problem the phone recovered!!!! Second, I was talking to my sister on the phone while watering the plants in the backyard. I was backing up to pull the hose and fell right in the pool!!!! I quickly raised my phone out of the water, but it was too late. The phone did not recover this time.
    But wait, I went to get a new smart phone and it would cost a bazillion dollars since my contract was not up yet. So, I had to get a cheap flip phone without a keyboard and use it for 3 months!!!!!!! So crazy!!!!!!
    Also, I keep coming unglued about my daughter and her boyfriend. She loves him, of course. He is 18. – doesn’t drive, barely works, and does lot of unmentionable, unethical things. They break up and then she takes him back. It just pushes me over the edge, again and again. I’m thinking Unglued might help me deal with the situation in a more positive manner.
    God bless you and your down to earth truthful way with words.

  21. Hi Lysa! I was one of the many who SO enjoyed hearing you speak at the Women of Faith conference yesterday in Syracuse (sorry it was so cold..March is a sketchy time in Upstate NY! LAST week it was in the 50s!). I have been absorbing all the wisdom I heard and “…but I spent a little time with Jesus this morning…” keeps coming to my mind! Such truth there…funny in the moment, but what a gift to go out into the world each day armed with the time we gave Jesus beforehand! I was thrilled to meet you during the break and you were sweet to offer to autograph a flyer…since I didn’t have a book to autograph! As I told you, I’d hoped to purchase “Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl”, because it’s the one I don’t already have…but that one wasn’t available for purchase yesterday. I’ve just purchased it (along with several others! I have no self control with books) on the Proverbs 31 website. I’ll tuck the flyer into the book when it comes…it will be almost the same as a signed copy!! Thanks again for all you do!!

  22. In the first two years of marriage, my husband has lost two jobs, I suffered a miscarriage, had crazy health problems, the inability to become pregnant again, financial burdens that have taken a toll on us and we began believing the 3 lies of marriage. The past few years have been the worst in my 31 years of living; however, after six months of living on my salary only, my husband became employed again and our marriage is becoming stronger and stronger by the day. With all of those troubles mixed in with the stresses of work, graduate school, community volunteering and maintaining somewhat of my sanity, I have forgotten how to balance everything in my life and remain close to God. It is very easy to blame the one person who cares for us the most; howecer, it is he that keeps us going. I am really looking forward to reading “Unglued” and learning how to make good decisions in the midst of these raw emotions. Thank you for being such a wonderful inspiration for so many! I would be honored to receive the devotional book to help guide me through this journey and not only become a better wife but a better daughter, family member, friend, co-worker, philanthropist, volunteer, student and employee.

  23. I just started reading Unglued. I’m working hard at not being a “helicopter” parent…drawing a new line in my sand when I become unglued at one of our 4 children. I’m sure your book will inspire me to keep taking baby steps! :). Thank you!

  24. This book sounds awesome! I am just finding you and your books so this would be a great addition.

  25. My unglued moments are definitely in response to my 4 kids :-). I’m a work in progress and trying to commit my reactions to God, but imperfect is the key word for me :-).
    Thanks so much for your ministery, Lysa. It means so much to me to understand the others are in the same place as me.

  26. i am so much wanting to get all of this set. But i amdit that the fear of not being able to grasp it or fix myself becoming ungluded is a little scary for me. I am afraid of failure.

  27. Heard about your book and would love to win it! Sounds like one I need to read. Having children gives me lots of moments to become unglued.

  28. WOW, just one unglued moment?! Ok, so I go to a MASSIVE teaching hospital for a procedure for my husband, who suffice it to say does not have patience as a virtue! On our hurry-up “We’re gonna be late for the shuttle bus”, I trip scrapping both hands and ripping a hole in both knees of my first time wearing jeans, bought only days before! We’re going to be here three days only, so I have only 2 pairs of pants. One now has a hole in each knee, so it gets to the other pair for two days. Worse things can happen right?! Well the only shoes I brought to wear with the pants are sandals, because it was 80 when we left. It is now raining and freezing! Unglued, you better believe it!

  29. Our women’s bible study group is finishing up the Unglued series and I’ve got to say it has help me tremendously. This is the first bible study I’ve attended and I have to say I was very hesitant. I’ve been to a lot of different churches and I’ve always felt judged and looked at differently because I wasn’t there forever. This group of women has helped me see that I’m normal and just like everyone else. And that those unglued moments that I have and make me feel ashamed as a normal part of growing and understanding the person God means for me to be. When I get so upset because the clothes are picked up and no one will get up in the morning, and suddenly I’m running late….I stop and breath – and repeat the mantra JESUS, JESUS, JESUS and feel the holy spirit washes over me letting me know that it is going to be OK. Thank you for sharing about your life and who you are – you’ve made me open myself to things and people that I’ve not done in the past. I’m able to start facing some of my demons that have haunted me for so many years.
    Thank you for teaching me that I can make imperfect progress 🙂

  30. I finished your book yesterday and shared it with a friend. Boy it was helpful because I thought I was just being ‘mean’ and cranky =). I’d ask myself what the heck is wrong with you girlfriend or I’d more than likely say..’I get it honestly’. This is what happened in our home and I had become so immune to raw emotions. I’m an exploder wayyy more than I am a stuffer. I really like how you relate similar situations and speak on them with compassion and grace. I’m giving it to my daughter because just like me, those emotions becomes her notions and she’s off and running with scissors=)

  31. I am having trouble relating well to my 18 year old stepson. I never know where I am with him and have been hurt by him so many times. I react in anger to him when I need to show grace and love. I try to give all the worry and pain to God, but I want to be free to love him unconditionally. I know God can help me do this. I have Unglued on reserve at the local library and look forward to reading it.

  32. I am so grateful that God has placed your encouraging and eye opening books in my life. I struggle with being both a stuffer and an exploder and it was very hard for me to realize that I was doing those things as much as I was. I believe I have be striving so hard to make every little instance so perfect that I have lost control of being able to control my emotions and use them correctly even. My church has started a women’s group just top read your books together and learn from them. Your changing so many lives and God is using you to help so many turn their lives around and not only does it help the ones who read your book but those who are involved with those peoples lives. YOU ARE A BLESSING! Thank you for allowing God to use you to reach me and everyone else who your words reach. Sometimes its just hard to see the truth of who you have really become until you hear it from a complete stranger! Hope you have a BLESSED day!

  33. I’m loving reading no discussing unglued with a friend right now. I’d looooooove the devotional!

  34. I have had a crazy day….week…. year…..ha ha….Life!!! The crazy of it all is that God is turning my “crazies” into testamanies and I’m learning to be grateful and to count my blessings instead, and boy do I have a-lot of those. :-)) I’m learning not to focus on any of my surrounding problems but rather focus on my father and His Love for me. Thank you Jesus!! xox

  35. Where do I begin?!?! Unglued seems to be a way of life for me lately!!! I divorced at the end of 2011, my mother passed away this past August, the mortgage process I am in the midst of to buy a house just went into it’s 6th month, and I lost my older brother just 4 weeks ago. Add an older sister to is addicted to prescription drugs, and you have a cocktail for UNGLUED…shaken and stirred!!! Doing my best to gold onto God, if only with my finger tips…..

  36. Hi, Lysa!

    I am so encouraged by your radio clips, blogging, & books. I’m in the middle of Made to Crave & am using the guide book to get more out of it. I heard you talking about imperfect progress on the radio the other day & it inspired me to write about it on my blog. I wanted to share that post with you. Thanks for sharing your heart. You have helped me more than you know.

    Thanks,
    Shannon
    http://gainingconfidencetolosehalfofme.blogspot.com/2013/03/imperfect-progress.html

  37. ugh…sent a text to the wrong person. It was a personal text 🙁
    I need Unglued!! I am leading a group through Made To Crave right now. That has been my go-to book for over a year, after finally taking control of my eating!!
    Love you Lysa!! Thanks for all you do!!!

  38. Came back from a beautiful vacation with my family to our 13 year old beloved dog who had a seizure in front of the whole family. She’s fine but it was super scary. Also, found out that my mom who has been diagnosed with dementia passed out while we were gone. Life can be crazy wild at times can’t it?
    I ‘m starting your Unglued study this Thursday. So excited to study and grow with one other lady in my home.

  39. I heard about your book and would love to own a copy! 2 kiddos under 2 can get me unglued at times 🙂

  40. My family has been financially unstable over the past several years. We are approaching 1 year of unemployment for my husband. After 10 years out of the workforce I am attempting to re-enter. This has thrown off our family rhythm to say the least? Unglued? I’d say so. But through God’s grace, we are making it through this tough time.

  41. Yes or no? If we would just remember to stop and ponder what has really happened rather than to react to it, would that help us choose yes or no? Multi-tasking perfection is the current norm. I think since the fall of man the yes or no question has been so mis-defined, misconstrued, misunderstood. Take a look at Webster’s 1828 dictionary and then at today’s and read the difference in the definition of ‘decision’. I hope that women younger than I am will see something, read something, contemplate something that will cause them to s-l-o-w down and live life one moment at a time through the only lifesource — Christ Jesus.

  43. Lysa I just want to take this time to simply say with a heart of gratitude, “Thank You!”
    Thank you for your encouraging words that you so eloquently pin for each day. I know that you hear directly from God, for the Words that you give to your readers are Words of Wisdom and Hope. Sometimes I don’t do what is required by God on a daily basis, putting Him first and foremost. I am a work in progress. I desire to walk only in the ways that are pleasing to our heavenly Father.

  44. Lysa just started made to crave devotional…….it is wonderful esp day 10…….why do we crave. It really hit home………thank you

  45. Would love to have your book. Your blog is so uplifting, I imagine your book will be great too!

  46. Lysa thank you so much for addressing the stigma of shame from having an abortion. I too have felt the same way. If I tell they will hate me, shun me, reject me. I know God has forgiven me but I’m not sure I have forgiven myself. That inside chatter of your so weak, you don’t trust in God, you killed your baby, you are a monster. I pray one day I can forgive myself. At least I know I am not alone.

  47. Lysa TerKeurst | Bad News, Great News, and a Webcast
    Replay – shared… Why can’t a constitutional preserves an house? How can the with visitor tower system? Beyond your hearing arcade strolls the greatest rave. The struggle enforces the deputy important note. The size hinders the sacked eye-sight.

Privacy Policy Cookie Policy
Top