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Tuesday, September 23

Watch “The Best Yes” Final Webcast Replay

The final webcast of The Best Yes series is now available to watch, just in case you couldn’t tune in last night:



If you’re reading this in email, click here to watch the webcast.

I had such a fun time with our special guest, Karen Kingsbury, along with some of the gals from the Proverbs 31 Ministries Team.

Here are links to some of the things we talked about:

- Sign up for our online Bible study of my book, The Best Yes. Click here to sign up.
- Click here to purchase your copy of The Best Yes.
- Sign up for Karen’s newsletter here and receive the first few chapters of her new book, Angels Walking.

Monday, September 22

The Final Webcast is Tonight!

Does your Bible reading ever feel a little dry? Maybe your relationship with God seems off-kilter?

If you want to breathe new life into your own daily reading of the Bible, don’t miss this…

The Best Yes FINAL webcast is TONIGHT, September 22nd at 8pm EST and we’ll have Karen Kingsbury, author of Angels Walking, with us as a special guest. Join us for powerful Bible teaching, great discussion with Karen, and lots of giveaways!

If you’re wondering how to join in, just come right back here to www.LysaTerKeurst.com at 8pm EST tonight.

Tuesday, September 16

10 Ways to Graciously Say No When You Feel Pressured to Say Yes

I knew the request was unrealistic. My brain cued all the right signals for my mouth to say no. But somewhere between the sinking feeling in my heart of how this would affect my relationship with this person and the pressure of her expectations for me to agree to her request, I blurted out, “Yes, of course!”

I said yes when I absolutely, positively knew I should say no!

And I have a feeling I’m not the only one who has this scenario play out in their lives over and over.

I know I’m caught in the rip current of people pleasing when I dread saying yes but feel powerless to say no. I said that during my last webcast and the questions about how to say no started flooding in through Twitter.

People described the deep guilt they experience when they say no. Others admitted to constantly feeling at the mercy of everyone’s requests and, because of not saying no, they were completely worn out. One pastor’s wife admitted to being in a position where she wasn’t sure saying no was even an option for her out of fear of damaging her husband’s ministry.

And another thanked me for giving voice to the struggle many of us have wrestled through silently for years.

I understand because I have and still do wrestle with saying no.

And please understand I’m not advocating that we should always say no. But I am advocating that we should sometimes say no.

Now lean in and let me whisper something I’m trying desperately to teach myself,

No isn’t a cuss word.

It doesn’t have to be hurtful. You will survive and so will they.

Saying no is not a rejection. It’s a necessary protection of your Best Yes answers.

So, here are 10 ways to graciously say no when you feel pressured to say yes:

Personal:

1. While my heart wants to say yes, yes, yes, the reality of my time makes this a no.

2. I am honored by your request but I’m in a season of refocusing my priorities and have committed not to add anything new right now.

3. After living at an unhealthy breakneck pace for too long, I’m learning to realistically assess my capacity. Though I would love to say yes, the reality of my limitations means I must say no this time.

4. I so appreciate you asking me, but I must be brave and decline this opportunity. Saying no is hard for me but necessary in this season. Thank you for understanding.

5. I’ve promised my family not to add any new commitments to my schedule right now. Thank you for our friendship that allows me to be honest with my realities.

Professional:

6. Thank you for thinking of me. Your project sounds wonderful. However, as much as I would love to be involved, I can’t give your project the attention it deserves right now.

7. While I would love to connect about your new project, I’ve discovered this is one of those activities I must give up while trying to ____________________ (write my book, start my business, stick to my project, etc.) Saying yes would just enable my unhealthy habit of procrastination. Thank you for understanding and helping me push through to the finish line.

8. There is nothing more that I love than helping others in my field get started. Unfortunately, I get so many requests for this that I’m no longer able to meet in person. So, I’ve created this attached document with my best advice. (Create a standard PDF for instances like this so you only have to type out your advice one time.)

9. While I don’t have time for a lunch appointment, I’d love to connect for a few minutes over the phone. I can talk from 8-8:30am.

10. Thank you so much for caring enough about me to want my involvement. Unfortunately, I’m not able to participate this time. But I’m certainly cheering for your continued success.

For more encouragement to know when to say yes and how to say no, check out my new book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. Click here to purchase your copy.

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