Tuesday, February 10

3 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Single

I remember the hardest day of the week for me when I was single was Sunday. Specifically Sunday right after church.

Many of my other single friends would have plans with their families that day, but not me. My family lived 9 hours away.

So, I’d walk through the parking lot watching young moms ooh and ahh over Sunday school artwork and I’d think, “Their lives seem so blissfully full.”

I’d walk past an older couple holding hands and think, “They are so lucky to have such an easy, breezy life.”

I’d walk past a gal walking arm in arm with her boyfriend and think, “She is so fortunate to feel loved.”

And then I’d get in my car and decide happiness, fulfillment, and contentment were something to hope for in the future, when I found the life I desperately wanted.

Boy, do I wish I could go sit in that car beside my single self and tell her some life-giving truths I now know…

I’m sharing 3 of those truths over at (in)courage today. Click here to read more!

Friday, February 6

A Wedding Prayer, a Marriage Prayer

Just recently, I came across the prayer Art’s dad prayed at our wedding. And it occurred to me this is much more than a wedding prayer. It’s a marriage prayer.

As I read back over this prayer, I am amazed at how God has answered so many of the requests intertwined in the words. This was being prayed over two broken, fragile, headstrong, needing-to-learn-a-lot individuals. Individuals who weren’t sure we were going to make it. But we did.

And so can you.

If you know someone who is about to get married, send them a link to this post. But I would also say it’s a great prayer to pray over your marriage now. Whether you’ve been married for 2 weeks or 32 years, take your spouse’s hand and either have someone read this prayer over you or read it together. Use it as a reminder and recommitment.

And if your marriage isn’t at a place where that is possible, pray this in the quiet shrine of your heart. As Psalm 34:15 tells us, God hears you. He knows. He loves you. He will show you the way.

Download a printable version of this prayer here.

Friday, January 30

How to Choose People Over Projects

We live in an age of extreme multitasking.

But honestly, imagine how crazy rushed we’d be if we only had tasks to do but not people with whom we must pause to connect.

When our to-do lists tug at our attention, we have to remember: the people in our lives need us. We need space to connect and process together. After all, conversational threads are what make up the fabric of relationships.

I have to admit that taking time to slow down for relationships isn’t natural to me. I’m a task girl. I like accomplishing things. I like the thrill of moving forward, creating momentum, and getting stuff done.

But the more I choose to pause and talk and really connect, the more I discover that
giving priority to relationships does something good in my soul. Yes, connecting with those we love is like soul food. It’s not that we don’t have tasks to do, but rather that we don’t fill up with tasks at the risk of starving our relationships.

I want to make sure it’s people, not projects, that occupy the sacred places in my heart.

So let’s stop. Listen. Talk. Process. Walk. Notice. Engage. Compliment. Thank. Hold hands. And just be together.

If you need some help getting intentional with your most treasured relationships, I’ve put together this fun “People Over Projects” Printable Set. Think of it as a relationship to-do list – things you can focus on to make your people smile each week. I’ve already started working on mine!


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