The looks from the guys were unmistakable. Pausing for another picture meant they were about to enter into their girl’s quest for the perfect shot that looks accidentally awesome.
So the directions to the dudes begin:
Look natural but please strike a pose.
Look casual but please don’t be goofy.
Smile but not so big as to make it look forced.
Place your arms around me…
No, to the side…
No, that actually isn’t working at all. It makes me look bigger than you.
Just drop your arms and let me just hold onto your side which helps hide my hips.
Okay, now smile.
No, not like that.
Not like that either.
I mean show your teeth but not all the way to your gums.
You know that look like we just caught you in your most happy moment ever? That’s what we are going for.
Just look like you are really enjoying yourself.
Snap. Snap. Snap.
Okay, now let me see. Okay, that was good but let’s try a few more.
And so goes the torture of getting “that” picture.
Maybe you are a guy who loves this whole process because you are the picture lover in your family more than the girls. All the heart emojis to you today.
I happen to do life with less enthusiastic fellas.
So, here’s a quick little article to help you understand what’s really going on with these pictures that feel so very painful to capture. It’s more than an Instagram post. It’s more than an addition to our Facebook timeline. It’s more than a potential new profile pic or screen saver for our phone.
When a girl loves a guy she wants to be able to prove to herself this is real.
He is my person. I am his. And together we stand.
Pictures are a way to snag the essence of the making of us.
Like Romans 12: 9 says it’s her way to “cling to what is good.”
A picture to a girl isn’t just a way to capture a memory. It’s a way to preserve a million thoughts and feelings and hopes and dreams culminating into that very moment with you.
She’ll revisit that picture many times.
She will hold it in her hand and turn it this way and that. And the stability of that picture that doesn’t change will give her hope that the two of you can stand the test of time.
And it will make her feel safe when her heart gets shaky. She’ll examine the way you were holding her hand or touching her face or looking toward her.
This picture will prove something she needs to know but can’t explain.
This picture is a great gift you are giving her without even realizing it. Trust me, it’s worth it.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. So very true.
So, think of the taking of this picture as your way of expressing things she’s desperate to hear you say but you’ll never think of all the words.
And the next photo she asks for? See it as the love note you don’t have to write. The song to her you don’t have to compose. The poem about your love you didn’t have to anguish over.
Look at her with great adoration and right before they snap the picture whisper into her ear, “I’m seriously the luckiest guy on the planet.”