My marriage isn’t perfect. No marriage is.
I’ve been known to throw orange juice across the kitchen, pitch a complete fit over something totally irrational, and go silent for days.
But twenty two years has taught me love, real love, is two people deciding to stay. Work it out. Fall in love again. And fight for, not against, one another.
Each morning I have a routine with my husband. It’s simple. Nothing profound. Nothing for which we’d ever stop and snap a picture.
It’s just a moment.
He asks me to help him pick a tie. He then needs gentle hands to fold the collar over.
Actually, he doesn’t need. He wants gentle hands to fold the collar over. And I do. It’s just a moment. But it’s a moment where we stop. We see what a gift imperfect love is.
And in this unrushed silence, we connect.
It’s just a moment together. Or is it?
This kind of together can only happen when we choose to experience the thrill of the unrushed yes. It’s being together and relishing that togetherness even with all its imperfections. This is true for marriages but also for family and for friends who feel like family.
I’m tired of rushing and stressing and missing out on the sweet parts of life. I want to savor more of these unrushed moments. And if I had to take a guess, I think you do too.
I wrote my new book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands, to help us do just that.
If you’re living with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule and aching with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul, please know you are not alone. I share so many of my personal struggles with this in the book and want to breathe life into your hard places today. To pre-order your copy of The Best Yes, click here. You’ll receive $50 of free resources that won’t be available when the book releases August 12th.
I’m also giving away 3 copies of The Best Yes. Leave a comment below telling me what your favorite unrushed moment is.