A year ago, I posted the following thoughts in preparation to write Made to Crave for Young Women. But I wanted to repost this now that the book is out and give several copies away. Please leave a comment below to be entered.
I wrote this book with Shaunti Feldhahn, amazing friend, author and social researcher. In other words, moms, if you really want to know what your girls are thinking, you’ll want to read this. She has woven her amazing research with teens all throughout this book.
The focus of this book centers around ways Satan tries to distract us from God. He wants us to get legitimate needs met in an illegitimate way.
Oh how I wish I’d had this book in my teens years.
Satan comes after us in these three areas:
It’s the same three ways he came after Eve in the Garden of Eden. It’s the same three ways he came after Jesus in the desert.
It’s the same three ways we’re told not to get lured away from God in 1 John 2:15-17, “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world — the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does — comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.”
Here are those same verses from The Message Bible:
Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world — wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important — has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out — but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.
So, how do we communicate these truths in an everyday way that will connect with a teens heart? One way to do that is by equipping them with the right questions to ask. For example, under the section on emotional desires, I tackle attention and affection from boys.
Whew… what a topic right?
As a mom of teen girls, there’s a big part of me that wants to say, “stay away from boys until you’re 30!” Okay, maybe 28. Ahem.
But, maybe a more realistic approach is to teach them the right questions to ask before spending time with a friend boy. (And yes, that wording is intentional.)
Worship — Who or what does he worship in the shrine of his heart?
Words — Do his words (spoken and written) build others up or tear them down?
Character — Who is he when no one else is looking?
Personality — Who is he around other people?
Interests — What kinds of things does he do to recharge?
Feelings — Do you feel better about yourself when he’s around?
Attraction — Is your attraction to him centered around something that will stay over time?
When asking these questions about a boy you are interested in, don’t ask based on what you hope will be in the future, ask these questions based on the reality of today.
What do you think about these questions? Are there others you would add? What speaks to your heart most from the verses shared from 1 John 2? Which young woman in your life do you want to share this message with?
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