What makes a woman tender also reveals her vulnerabilities.
What makes a woman transparent also exposes her wounds.
What makes a woman authentic also uncovers her insecurities.
And there isn’t a woman alive who resists being revealed, exposed, and uncovered. But to establish real intimacy with another person, a friend, it will require pushing past this resistance — past the fear.
To be known is to risk being hurt.
Friendship is risky.
But friendship can be beautiful.
I want you to think about a friend you can make an investment in this week.
I challenge you to not think of the friend with whom you feel most comfortable. But rather think of the friend who might benefit from seeing a little more of your tenderness, transparency, and authenticity.
There is someone in your sphere of influence who feels desperate to know there is someone else who understands.
Might you take three days and give her three friendship investments?
Day 1 — Have a conversation with her where you honestly admit one of your vulnerabilities or insecurities. Chances are she’ll reveal something to you as well. Then commit, really commit to praying for her.
Maybe wear your watch on the opposite arm than you normally do. Every time you’re distracted by this out of sorts placement, see this as a prompt to pray for this friend. Think of the burden she’s been carrying lately and carry it in your prayers this day.
Day 2 — Buy this friend a gift. Just because. It doesn’t have to cost you much. But make an investment of time to think of something that would really be personally delightful to this friend.
Day 3 — Write your friend a note to attach to the gift. In the letter, tell her at least three things you admire about her and some way she’s made a difference in your life.
Then deliver this little “just because” gift and note to your friend. This friend who sometimes feels a little vulnerable. Wounded. Exposed in some way.
Your honesty and thoughtfulness will be such a sweet investment.
For your friendship.
Are you up for taking the friendship challenge?
If so, leave me a comment below and it will enter you and your friend for a chance to win advance copies of my upcoming book Unglued. This book doesn’t release until August 1st so you’ll be two of the very first to read it!
So leave a comment.
And for heaven sake, if you win, write a simple note to this author who will be feeling quite vulnerable, exposed, and insecure as this new book comes out. Oh us girls are so much alike.