A Letter to Husbands

Dear Husbands,

An ordinary Tuesday might seem like a strange day to think of something special to do for your wife.  But this ordinary day really is the perfect day because you’re not supposed to do anything today. And that simple fact alone will capture your wife’s heart.

I know women sometimes seem complicated and overly sensitive at times. But really we’re not. We just want to be thought of in a way that makes us feel special.

One kind act by you can cover a multitude of everyday stresses.

I’m serious.

Now before you head off to Victoria and her store of secrets… that’s not it. Her secrets are scratchy and too small in areas we feel are too big. We’ll save that for another ordinary Tuesday when I write a note to wives.

The special thing I’m talking about doesn’t have to take a lot of time or cost money. It just has to say you thought of her… you paused to notice her… she’s special to you.

Maybe tuck a little note in her purse that simply says some version of that last sentence.

Or, write the word “Perfect” on a piece of paper and tape it over the numbers on her scale.

Or, finally get around to doing that avoided item on the honey-do list.

Or, send her a text message telling her three things you think she does better than any other person you know.

The possibilities are endless.

But the point is this… One simple dandelion on a no-name day means more to your wife than a dozen roses on a Hallmark holiday.  

The heart of a woman longs to be thought of, adored, and noticed. Not because you’re obligated to do so because a date on the calendar demands it, but rather just because you love her. Don’t let today slip by.

It’s the perfect day to give her what she can’t get from any other person – the love of her husband.

“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church- a love marked by giving, not getting.  Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her…”  Eph. 5:25-27 (MSG).


  1. says

    Wow this is a great article. thank you for sharing. I love seing wives encourage husbands in a gracious way to be the men God has called them to be.

  2. Brenda says

    I have been married 33 years. My hubby is awesome. Puts love notes under my pillow, sits and cuddles on the coutch, sends me flowers just because he loves me. Will call and leave me messages like i just called to say i love u, or just called to wish u a awesome day. Or on a beautiful day. He will call a say boy the sun is so bright. However it will never be as beautiful as u. Truly a womans dream he is.

  3. Fred says

    I’ve been a Romantic note “junkie” since I’ve known my wife back in 1977. I leave them in her purse, car, on the mirror…everywhere! Same thing with flowers, little gifts, emails, etc. She asked me to stop sending her flowers at her work about 15 years ago because it made the other women sad because they thought the flowers might be from THEIR hubby, which made me sad…but I stopped. Now it’s down to a bit here & there. It makes me sick that I have not been allowed to show her with these small tokens. I do all the housework, pay all the bills, handle the investments, choose what we do as far as entertainment goes..yet, even though she’s has the love need of apprecition, affection…it’s returned less than our financial investments. Now, before anyone thinks I’m angry…I’m not. I do this because I love her.

  4. Fred says

    As I said in my post, I love my wife!! Yet, I find much is not appreciated by her…in my opinion. I can’t do things the right way (her way), when I speak I get usually “corrected”, and when I do something she redoes it “correctly.” She’s always telling me about “so & so’s” husband who’s doing this or that or what a great guy her friend is married to.
    It hurts. I’m educated, call & send emails to her daily, keep in shape, cherish her, love her, not afraid to be sensitive & caring. I’m a giver in all sorts of ways but it’s never enough. I seem to be “compared” to many other men. I do not want another, though I could have if wanted. Yet, my love/committmen for her & Jesus keeps me.

    Sorry to unload.